... hmmm... let me attempt to stay unbiased.

If you narrow it down to the cold, hard truth, you might just find a "user" (and users don't often admit that they are being a user).

Users take advantage of people who they know are vulnerable and are willing to bend to what the user wants. Unfortunately, one of the only ways to stop users is to stop allowing yourself to be "used". Even if you doubt the fact that they are actually using you... test the waters and see how they react when you take away what you think might be keeping them around...

Look at the past and how this guy has treated you... has he shown the utmost dedication to you and has he always been there? Does he seem to only be nice to you when he thinks he can get something from you? Look at how this guy has treated other girls. Sometimes you just never know exactly is going on until you keep an open mind and prepare for the worst...

one last thing. listen to you friends. even though you don't want what they are saying to be true... many of them probably know what they are talking about and have heard of stuff straight for the horse's mouth.

best of luck. just remember, no girl deserves to be treated like crap by a boy who changes his mind every other day.

Ok first of all, I have a friend in the same situation. It's really dumb, because she's OBSESSED with this guy, who definitely ISN'T obsessed with her at alllll. Like I've talked to him a million times. But they still always hook up, because the guy is stupid and horny. And the girl thinks that if they keep hooking up, some emotional feelings will redevelope on his side.

ITS NOT GOING TO HAPPEN FOR YOU.

Sorry, but it comes down to this. I'm sure your friends have told you this. You're getting lied to.

He doesn't care about you like that. He hardly cares about you as a friend either if he's treating you like this.

So my advice is to leave him alone.

plain and simple - RUN.

it might be unimaginably hard to do now, but you'll be thankful that you did it on down the road. you deserve a guy who cares about you enough, that is actually willing to be in a relationship with you.

he'll never be ready when you are. it'll never work out like you want it to. but thats okay, there's better things in life, waiting around the corner.