Make sure your man isn gay
When 6 out of 9 of your ex are gay, you tend to think something wrong
Possible Signs:
?He owns more clothes then you
?He can apply makeup better then you
?He gets more compliments on his clothes then you do
?He gives more compliments then you do
?If he got that stereotypical gay man lisp thingy going on
?If he obsessed with shows such as ueer as folk? ueer Eye for the Straight Guy? he L Word? rading Spaces? ill and Grace? he Nanny? ect ect. Any kind of show such as those, or shows that are infamous for having gay characters, makeovers, anything to do with style or design, you might wanna watch out.
?If he has a lot of gay friends and starts to act like them
?If he says he Bi (They tend to choose one or the other eventually)
?If he likes to act or sing a lot.
?If he likes chick flicks more then you
?If he tends like to shop more then you
?IF HE OWNS A GAY.COM ACCOUNT!!!
?If he prefers girly colors such a pink or lavender
?If he owns anything rainbow
?If he likes Ice Skating Competitions or does ballet
?If he prefers any kind of Diva or pop-star over anything with a bass line (ie- Cher, Britney Spears, Beyonce, Christina Aguilera, Barbara Streisand, ect) and not because heye hot?

Now, if your guy applies to any of these signs, don automatically think he gay. He could honestly just be a well rounded guy. But I know from experience, being an Official Fag Hag, that most of my gay guy friends do/like/follow those signs. Just be careful.

Get to know him
What to do:
?Find out if he single.
?Talk to him; make sure you guys have something in common
?Try to hang out with him, whether one on one or in a small group to make sure he what you really want
?Be yourself. If you act like you normally do, then you won have to act around him
?Don smother him with constant attention. The more attention you pay, the more obvious it is that you like him. Unless you know for sure he WANTS attention, try to let him breathe a bit.
?Don make a friend find out everything for you. Try to get information yourself. Friends tend to sugarcoat everything and tell you what you want to hear. Besides, it might not always be the truth.
?Try to be as honest as possible with him.

Remember, youe the only person who knows 100% of what youe looking for. If he only kind of what you like, give it time. He may grow on you, or you may find someone better.

Don become a stalker
The worst thing you can do is show up everywhere he goes. A tiny coincidence every once in a while is ok. But if you hear he going to the mall at 1, going to Burger king at 5, getting ice cream at 7 then the movies at 9, don show up to all of his ppearances?
In 8th grade, I had a huge crush on this one boy. At first, it was a simple thing. He make me blush, I giggle; but I let it go. Looking back I can see he was way out of my league, but being the young na鴳e girl I was, I thought I stood a chance. If only I could get him to notice me? Well, I found out he played baseball so I would show up at every game. If I saw him going to the bathroom, I would get a drink so I could bump into him in the hall. I had one of my classes switched so I could be in the same room as him. In gym, I would throw the ball in his direction to walk by him.
One time during lunch, I heard he was going to the nurses office, so I pretended to bump my head under my table. When I got the pass to the nurse, I ran down the hall to catch up. I snuck around until I was about 10 feet behind him. He turned around, I smiled, he sped up. I sped up. He started jogging, I started jogging. He cut into the boys bathroom, I stopped by the water fountain next to it. When he came out of the bathroom, he said TOP FOLLOWING ME YOU LOSER!?and ran to the nurse office.
I stopped stalking him. And I obviously never got with him.
Take it from me. Stalkers are not cool.

If youe going to ask him out, do it in a sensible manner

Ok, I assuming you know that clich?irst impressions are everything? right?  Well, the same goes for relationships. Sometimes, you can tell a lot about a relationship just by looking at how it got started.

For example, when I asked out one of my previous boyfriends, it was so spastic; I was amazed the relationship lasted as long as it did. I had been planning to ask him out for weeks. I had all these thoughts that I was going to ask him, he would say yes, we be amazing together, we go to prom, we go to college together. I had everything set in my head on what I wanted. I even had the day picked for when I was going to ask him. If I asked him on a Thursday, he would answer me on Friday, and then there be the weekend to get over that completely awkward new couple phase so everything would be in order for Monday.

Everything was planned?except for one tiny detail: how I was going to actually ask him.

So, Thursday comes along, and I do a good job of avoiding this guy during school. We get home, we talk on the phone like usual. And then the time comes. Of course my brain is having that epic battle UST DO IT!?O! WHAT IF HE SAYS NO?!??UST DO IT!?O!?and by the time I worked up the nerve, I hear  gotta go, see you tomorrow? And then the dreaded click of him hanging up.

This causes me to panic and call all my chick friends on 3-way. h my god! What do I do?  Never mind, I won do it! But I wanna go out with him so baaaaaaad! *whine, complain, girl talk, girl talk, you get the picture*?SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  We decided that I was going to call him on 3-way while my friend stays quiet, and I just ask him, then hang up.

So I dialed. And I froze on the last number. And my friend yelled that she was tired, to just get it over with. So I push the last number. And it rings. And it rings again.

And he answers! ello??/P>

i-I-know-I-just-hung-up-with-you-but-do-you-wanna-go-out-with-me?!??(All said in one breath at 9999999 miles an hour)

hh. Why??/P>

hy? WHY?!?!? NEVERMIND!?and I hung up, thus causing another 3-way discussion on what hy?meant. Did it mean hy would I want to go out with you??Or why as it hy should I go out with you??or hy do you want to go out with me??/P>

This was deliberated for 2 hours. And the result was void him. At all costs.?And so I did.

By Monday, things didn seem as weird between us. He hadn brought it up, and I didn dare to.  It wasn brought up for 3 weeks. By this time, I had figured it was a no. things went back to normal until he brought it up, and said yes. He said he was thinking of all the possible outcomes and wanted to make the right decision. How sweet of him to make me wait for three agonizing weeks. (Note the sarcasm) Was it worth the wait? Sure it was.  Nothing beats the victorious feel of getting what you want.

And as horrified as I was, it still a funny story today. During our relationship, I would tease him non-stop about how indecisive he was, and how he took forever thinking things through. He proved me right when months later, he broke up with me. I thought things were perfect for us, but apparently for a while, he was mulling over how to break up with me.

So watch out for those guys who take a long time to think. Their minds are always working and planning their next move. So keep in mind, even though theye thinking of the best choice, it not always going to be the best idea.

 

As difficult as it is to ask a guy, it can defiantly be rewarding. Its like I said, nothing better then the pride of knowing YOU were the one who initiated the relationship. Girls asking guys out isn that rare anymore. But of course there are still those people who want to keep things traditional. But for the ladies who want to wear the pants in the relationship, here a piece of advice. Once you know youe guy and decide you want to take it to the next level, do it the way you best think it will work.

BUT!!! Here are a few approaches I wouldn suggest.

-         The  have a friend, who has a friend? approach

When trying to find out if your crush likes you, just be straight up honest with them. Any sentence that starts with  have a friend, who knows someone?is usually not really about a different person, and you don want to blow your spot. Just be like ey, I like you?and hope for the same response. Or ask him who they like. Hopefully it you. But avoid beating around the bush as much as possible.

 

     -    The Have-A-Friend-Do-It-For-You approach

Having a friend ask him out for you is just telling him that youe not confident. It kind of gives him a sense that you don know what you want, so your friends do everything for you.

Going back to the Get To Know Him tip, ultimately, you are the only one who knows exactly what you want. So if you yourself do the deed, you can decide if you like where the conversation is going or to drop it as soon as possible. You decide how you want to say what comes next, you decide the wording, you decide everything.

Another thing, a friend can totally goof up and do say the wrong thing. Here a true story. I liked this one guy. I wanted to ask him out. I ran through all scenarios on how to ask him/what he say/what if this happened. I simply didn like the way it was looking. But my friend kept pushing me to ask him. Out of frustration, I told her if she wanted us together so bad, she should do it.

She then proceeded to ask him out via IM like so: 

(DIRECT QUOTE) (*name changed for privacy reasons)

 

ey *bob, blah blah blah, nice weather, blah blah blah, been to the movies lately? Blah blah blah. Brie like you blah blah blah wanna go out with her blah blah blah do you like macaroni??/P>

 

Luckily (and hopefully) he though she was kidding.

Moral of the story: JUST DO IT! YOURSELF!

 

-         The sit-around-and-wait-for-him-to-do-it approach

Chances are, Romeo doesn know youe got the hots for him. And he probably not planning on asking you out either. Guys do these things. They don take risks until theye at least 80% sure the outcome will be good. So the quicker you do it, the quicker youl know his answer.