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Friday, July 18, 2008

  • Relationships, misconceptions, and monogamy???

    It has been way too long since I have felt I had something to say, but I want to keep up with the blogging. So I decided to use one of my blogs from my myspace from a while back.....


    Okay, so I was listening to the radio as I picked up my son from school one afternoon. They had been on a break and were talking in some depth about poly amorous relationships, or an open relationship. Now I was brought up in a religion which teaches us that this is wrong, and we should chose a monogamous life, but I was also raised in a religion that taught me not to judge others but instead accept and love everyone. So I am listening to this conversation, not judging, but just dumbfounded by the subject as I could never be okay with my husband being with ANYONE else. They were not pro or anti on the show, just discussing what it was, and the possible reasons for it, when a man called in.

    This young man, who was in his 20's was refuting the radio host who had stated that possibly people have this type of relationship to have a more exciting relationship one could not get bored with. This young man was currently in a poly amorous relationship, and would NEVER (according to himself) consider any other kind of relationship. HE said it was not because he gets bored but because he is INCAPABLE of monogamy. I was, and continue to be very troubled by this remark and way of thinking.

    I still do not judge him, but I am deeply saddened that we have come to a point in this world and our society that people ACTUALLY BELIEVE THEMSELVES INCAPABLE OF MONOGAMY. And you could tell he truly believed he could never be committed to just one person. How did we get to this point?? If you don't want to, whatever, just say that tho, but how can we truly believe we are incapable.

     It is called self control, and either you WANT to exercise it, or you don't, but I will NEVER BELIEVE ANYONE IS INCAPABLE of monogamy. We all have our choices, and I make mine and he makes his, but lets call them what they are.....CHOICES.



Tuesday, June 24, 2008

  • Life as a mom.....

    It is sooo interesting to note changes in women once they have children. Even women of child bearing age with nieces and nephews have similar characteristics. It is something men just do not have, and can never be fully capable of. Of course these changes encompass the vast majority of their lives, but I am talking most specifically today about the desire to  protective their young. The instinct to shelter them, to keep them from hurt or harm, the urge to caudle them. An instinct women  fight daily as their children become independent and grow up. Starting from the time they learn to walk, and seems to never end....

    We went to the pool today with the church playgroup,  and my daughter in all her 4 year old glory has this incredible independence. She LOVES to swim; and as she is teaching herself, and doing especially well I might add, I am fighting myself with all my strength not to interfere.Determined to swim as far and as long as she can, she pushes herself farther, building  her ability to stay under longer and longer, all the while I sit on the sidelines with a mixture of fear and pride. It is sooo hard to just sit there and wait, knowing the impending danger, not jumping in to do it with/for her in a manner I deem acceptable.

    Being a mother is all I wanted, and I could not be happier in my role as a mom. I never realized how hard it would be, on so many levels. I feel so blessed to have such wonderfull, independent, AWESOME kids. They are truely the light of my life!.

Sunday, June 22, 2008

  • Another saturday night...

    I love being a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints.(And before I go into this any further you should know I I have a testimony of it's truth and fullness, and I do love the church for all the right reasons too).

    In my adult life we have moved a handful of times, to places with family and friends, and to places where we had none of either. Every time we move there are people waiting to help us when we get there, and from the time we get there we have instant friends. A group of people so open, genuine and nonjudgmental, a group of people waiting to welcome others with open arms.  It is such a comforting thing to know wherever the lord sends us we have a support system. Of course Suwanee is the best yet, but EVERYWHERE we go, we we have friends.
    The reason for this now...

    We had friends over last night, from church, and we had so much fun playing games most might scoff at, eating treats and drinking WATER, and having a REALLY GOOD TIME.  It was AWESOME; getting to better know such FUN people interested in having the same kind of fun we are looking for. No pressure to go to bars or clubs, play poker or worries about R rated movies. Just good, clean, getting to know the REAL you, FUN.

    It is nice to know that as morals deteriorate all around us, we have people to turn to, with the same goals and ideals. What a comfort that has always been to me. I am grateful daily to have been born into this church, because I do not know if I would have had the strength to find it on my own. 

Saturday, June 21, 2008

  • Twerd and Proud of it!!!

    So the first topic is one very close to my heart, almost an obsession really. I have chosen to disclose this information and blog on this topic for women who to this point have thought or still think they are crazy, as I did until recently (and sometimes still do). For any to whom this topic is still a mystery, it is Twilight (my newest obsession), and reading in general. 

    From the beginning…

    When I was young I HATED reading. I remember being forced into reading due to required recreational reading for school. I remember most days I would grab a book and sit on the couch pretending to read, while I sat listening to my family, the TV, or ANYTHING but reading, frequently falling asleep. From the time I was very young, until about age 27 I was not a reader, and just assumed that is who I was. I avoided classes that required too much reading, and procrastinated when I could not avoid it. I tried occasionally to read a book for fun, and IF I finished it, it would take me several months to as much as a year to do so.

    I stated earlier that this frame of mind lasted until about 27, but this is only partially true. It was then that a good friend of mine, despite my insistence that I am not a recreational reader, coerced me into attempting to read Harry Potter. I reluctantly agreed, sure it would be a monumental waste of time, borrowed her book and began to read. Much to my surprise, not only did I enjoy it, but I finished it in just a few days time eager to begin the next book in the series. It took my less than 2 months to finish all of the books (which at the time were just 4); I was so thrilled and I was ready to try again. I picked up a few books here and there from the YMCA, where I used to workout (they had a bookshelf to borrow from), but only managed to finish one. I tried several times, with many different books, but nothing captured my attention. So back to Harry it was, and I stuck there for many years. I read and re read the series with each new book and movie, or just for fun.

    From 27 until this year I read nothing but Harry Potter books (which was also very much an obsession to me so I did not mind), and Inkheart. I had been given so many recommendations, and I tried a few, but I was there was nothing else out there I could get into. Once again I was coerced, but, having been there once, I gave in quickly; this time I was actually EXCITED about the books that EVERYONE seemed to be raving about and ready for the challenge.

    Twilight was everything everyone claimed and more. From the first page I was hooked, and my family fell victim to my indulgence. I finished them in about 3 weeks (or less) and I was in awe. I was thrilled, and depressed all in one. I LOVED them, but the thing about becoming so captivated by a book the way I was with the Twilight books, is the hole they leave when your finished. I thought I was nuts, it was a book why should it have this hold on me. I read anything and everything I could, and I plan to re read the series a few weeks before Breaking Dawn is released. I would not dare tell anyone, they would commit me for sure. And I kept it to myself, until I read a post from friend. I was sooo relieved I looked for more to see if I was just one of two nut jobs out there, only to find other readers who felt this way. I still feel INSANE, but I am finding that I am not alone, and happy to know that I am not as crazy as I feel.

    I have since come to the decision that if the desire to read is there, there are books for everyone. If you are not a reader, you have not found the right books. I am now reading the Stephanie Plum series by Janet Evanovich, and when I finish them (not to mention my repeat of the twilight series with the release of Breaking Dawn), I  will begin the pursuit the of more books. I am excited for the journey, to give my TV a much deserved break, from me anyway, to search for the gems among the many pages waiting to be discovered.

Friday, June 20, 2008

  • Just the beginning.....

    After years of feeling guilty for not heeding the council of the church, and greatly due to the influence and inspiration of friends, I embark upon the challenge to journal. In the past I struggle with what to write mostly, and had a tendency to, upon re-reading later, tear up the few pages I did managed to journal. Thanks to the many wonderful examples, all of whom are also very talented writers, I am starting with a head full of ideas, and a wealth of experience to draw from. Through the wonders of modern technology, which not only makes journaling easier and more convenient, I have the opportunity to continue to draw on the ideas and inspiration of others around me who continue to write so skillfully. Whether it be topics that could otherwise seem be small or mundane made into creative reading, or coming up with weekly topics of their own, they continue to amaze me. Thanks to the influence of many, today is just the beginning....

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  • I am happily married (most days) and I am a mother of 6; 3 boys 1 girl and 2 puppies. I just turned 32 years old (ugh) but I still feel like I just got out of high school. I love, love, love, love, love music, most kinds; I enjoy reading, mostly the Twilight series (Twilight, New Moon, Eclipse, and the much anticipated Breaking Dawn) and Harry Potter. I just started reading Janet Evonavich's Stephanie Plum series, and I am looking forward to discovering many new faves. I enjoy TV when I want to unwind; I enjoy working out, volleyball, bowling, going to the movies, and almost anything that gets me out of the house for a little while. I was born in Chicago, IL but I grew up in Clearwater, FL. The only other places I have lived is Salt Lake City, UT and now Suwanee, GA which is a suburb of Atlanta. I have only been outside the US once, in Mexico for less than an hour, so I don't even really count it, but I look forward to doing alot of traveling once my kids are older. I graduated from Co

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