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| what white women think about black women and what black men think about white womeni just copied this from someone elses notes.
i know this is going to start somethin.
PS. read the following conversation at the end of this.
What white women think about black women, PLEASE READ!!!!!!!!!!
by Ashley Pinkpony West (notes) 8:37pm Tuesday, Sep 26
White Woman's Opinion
of Black Women
White women's opinion of black women & a brother's response
Please take a moment and read this. Pretty Deep! Thumbs up to this black
man..
Enjoy.
It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by a Caucasian
woman who requested a response from black men. I'm so glad she got what
she asked for (and more) !!!
Dear Jamie:
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers.
I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated
and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's attitudes about
our relationship.
My man decided
he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none.
As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative,
too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.
Before I became
engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men,
willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so
up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves
and make some changes.
I am tired of the
dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like
to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by
them.
Bryant Gumbel just
left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen,
the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones,
Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan , Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius,
Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...
I could go on and
on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so
hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men
want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to
treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.
Disgusted White
Girl, Somewhere in VA
RESPONSE
Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.
Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from
one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgia with a Bachelor
of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation
and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among
the ranks of successful black men.
I will not use
my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record
straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the
biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered
easy.
The black girls
in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about
when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our
impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up
easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.
Nowadays, in my
opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and
easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and
overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black
women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make
more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of
this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can
control.
I have talked to
numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control
and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight.
I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men
date white women.
Brothers like Ahmad
Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith,
Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds , Samuel L. Jackson,
and Chris Rock all married strong black women And, to flip the script,
there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly
or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro,
and David Bowie to name a few.
I just don't want
a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop thinking that because you
are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian
Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of
men in Egypt , you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and
beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history!
It was the black
woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the black
woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women who
were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.
It is the black
woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children
beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes
against them: being black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still
They Rise!
It is because of
the black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could>
never> date anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty
that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come
in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them.
Their inner beauty
is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving
and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles,
their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination
to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain
and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women.
I honestly believe
that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty
looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning
salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't
you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your
lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you
can look fuller and more voluptuous?
I think that your
anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.
BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over
and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking
for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my
children.
Someone who can
be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul
mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT
fit the bill.
No offense taken,
none given.
Signed, Black Royalty
Wow!! We must pass this on to make the day of the Black Queens of our
acquaintances!
Just passin it on
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this convo followed the note
White girl says:
Wow.
I like that he is taking a stand for women of his own race, but at the
same time he is being extremely disrespectful of white women. Saying
that they can be walked all over? Saying that they can't be as strong
as black women?
I think the first writer is taking a very stupid
argument as well, for while there might be black men who do feel that
way, I don't see how this is a generality and she shouldn't take it
that way.
It's not so much about the race issue either, but it's
about being disrespectful to WOMEN. I don't think being able to be
strong, to be dignified, to have strong values and principles-- in
short, to be a GOOD woman has ANYTHING to do with race, and it
shouldn't. I'm not black, and I'm not white either, but I am a woman
and I find both sides of that letter incredibly narrow minded and
disrespectful.
It's time people stop looking at relationships in
terms of race and in terms of which race is 'better' than the other,
and start looking at them in terms of PEOPLE
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Black girl says:
i
know your wrote this at 1am BUT maybe you should proof read because
what you said barely makes sense. I do apprieciate your comment though.
I mean there is a difference between black and white. And all of my
friends are white, I dont even know how i pulled up so many black ppl
to tag! most of them are boys from different schools that think im cute
 but it is true black women and white women are different.
I can see it in my roommates. values and strenths and I am a lot more
independant then the both of them, and I dont put up with bullshit; and
maybe its just me being Devin. But im doubting it. I would
love to meet the white women that could work 2 jobs and race 5 kids by
herself, without welfare, and give her childern everything they need
and desire. Because thats my grandmother, and my mother, aunt and
uncles are all very sucessful. I dont know I just feel like the white
women's childern would all be locked up or in a trailor park.
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White Girl says:
Thanks for responding to a post I admit was a bit all-over-the-place :)
It's
interesting to think about these differences (between black women and
white women), and how they come to be. The post has made me think about
it quite a lot, and your response even more so.
Your
grandmother's story is inspiring and I see there is great strength in
her. All I'm saying is that if you look, there'll be stories of such
strength across ALL races, because these strengths can be found in ALL
women, no matter what their race is.
I'm a bit more awake now but maybe this response makes no sense either! Anyway, thanks for the response : |
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Black Girl says
im not sayin that white women dont have their strengths.
BUT
what i am saying is that i love me a white boy, but thats because i get
different treatment from a white boy then I would a brother. Its that
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| singlei just had an awkward convo with nick just now.. and it may be because im still frustrated with him, that it makes me feel good to be single again... i am learning to have more mental independence from him and our past relationship. like friday night i went to a party and met 3 great guys and got all their numbers. the party was so much fun. thanks to Joel for inviting me, after i was shafted by friends who left to go to bars that were all 21 and up.
fuckers.
anyway things worked out better after that night
i think im ready to let go.
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| i hate the new facebook crap!
on another note. if this shit continues i will move my love elsewhere..like to myspace or something.. jk
so i, being the stalker facebook has turned me into, have been checking out other peoples facebook and like 3 people from my class at SCS are now engaged!!! thats crazy! im not hating. i promise. i have a love. like what are these girls thinking. well good luck with marriage i hope you breakeven between that and the divorce...
i know, if youre reading this you pobably think im a bitch.. good thing i don't care.
my kids are never going to private school.
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| so yea aug 1 isnt coming soon enough...
i got a B in my class this summer.. without much work might i add..
so i have this kinda delimma.. i know people who have to be out off where there currently living before they move into where they WILL be living. and..i am not one of these. but for them there well be a few days to a week to where they dont have anywhere to put there stuff or to sleep. one person for sure i will allow stay there. one of many reason is because they have few resources in lbk and they dont have a buncha crap too.. the others however have friends here and lots of crap. one person has already expressed that i should let them stay with me..im not feeling that at all. and if i let one of them stay then it wouldnt be fair and i would hafta let all of'em stay... even if people had somewhere to stay i dont want their shit there either... just so you know i will be having a wonderful 1 bedroom apt. close to campus for this upcoming school year..
im super freakin excited.
at first i was worried about being lonely and not having anyone to talk to.. but when i had murray(where i currently reside) to myself for 3 weeks, it was blissful... omfg i loved it. i would wake up for work in the morning have lunch..come home.. take a nap, wake up clean a lil, call friends up and hang out comeback at night go to bed...wash, rinse, repeat. and i never got tired of it. i did what i wanted. life was wonderful.. now not so much. we're all back and bitchy. no one has respect for anyone. sleep comes at a price of the apparently unforgiveable past. and being a girl doesn't help because we all take things personal and wanna be catty and stupid about things to "get back" at each other.
im tired of it and i know we all are but its a stupid vicious cycle.
im planning on going home for a couple weeks between the second session and the fall classes i need a break from here. and buy some stuff for the apt.
im gonna start getting ready for work ...i hope someone can pick up my shift...
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| oh im back in lbk,
im changing my summer schedule..
i'll be only taking 9 hours. 3 in the first session and then 6 in the second. i will also be taking 17 hours in the fall..
we'll see how that goes
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