A thoughtSo many times we complain about how people are too harsh,
your hear the people say "How come you didn't do .. " or "Why don't you do this.." or "Why are you being this way.. " in cases we will hear, "Your wrong!!" or "Maybe if you'd try harder.."
and we say to ourselves why - do I need to put up with people / parents / teachers, who say this to me .. "Do they know better, do they even know the whole situation. Maybe they should just stay out of my buisness"
and i realized something - sad - but my birthday passed not more than a couple of days ago, and i realized that over the years those kind of comments have come and gone. And there are a rare few who would even say it to me anymore, one being my parents and family, the other being the pastor.
What I've learned is this.. "Overall I miss those kinds of remarks."
Truthfully, you should realize that when people are saying those things there are two motivations behind them.
1. People just want to make themselves feel better, so they condemn and comment on how other live there life.
2. People just care about you.
the first of the two will eventually disappear - because eventually you will stop surrounding yourself with people like that.
The second however becomes more interesting. If those still exist and they stop telling you those things, than you should ask yourself be saying to your self, "I win!! they have stopped, and i don't have to worry about them anymore". OR The person stopped careing ...
and if they stopped careing.. was it really worth it? and shouldn't you worry more about the fact that they stopped careing?
Sadly to say that when a person stops careing, it means usually that they come to the point in life, where they just don't think (or you) is worth the heartache and pains anymore.
I guess my really question would be "can you really tell which of the two a person is.. the one that has bitter pain and want to lower you for their own uplifting.. or the ones that care?". |