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Interests: Photography, sociology, reading, singing, education. Feminism-A movement to eradicate sexism. The highest form of understanding is observing without evaluating. You can lead a person to knowledge, but you can't make him or her think. It's better to build bridges than walls. The more you know, the less you need. Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are. Non violence leads to the highest ethics, which is the goal of all evolution, until we stop harming all other living beings, we are still savages. I will not follow where the path may lead, but I will go where there is no path and leave a trail.
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| Anti-Gay Marriage Ballot Measures will be on AZ, CA, FL Ballots July 8, 2008
Ballot initiatives to define marriage as between one man and one woman will be on the ballot in Arizona, California, and Florida in November. If passed, all of these referendums would result in amending individual state constitutions.
Arizona's State Senate recently approved a measure that will place a gay marriage referendum on the November ballot. Only 16 state Senators, the minimum number required to place a measure on the ballot, voted in favor of it. Proposition 107, a similar measure, was defeated by Arizona voters in 2006.
In California, the California Marriage Protection Act will be on the ballot, which would reverse the State Supreme Court's decision to overturn California’s gay marriage ban. The Court denied a request to stay its decision until the results of the November 2008 elections.
In Florida, the Marriage Protection Amendment will be on the ballot. Statewide campaigns on both sides of the issue, SayNo2 and Yes2Marriage, have already actively mobilized in Florida.
Media Resources: Human Rights Campaign Press Release 6/30/08
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June 13, 2008
Sexist Campaign Coverage Continues
Sexist coverage of the election did not end when Senate Hillary Clinton (D-NY) suspended her campaign. Earlier this week, Fox News ran a blatantly sexist and racist graphic referring to Michelle Obama as Senator Obama's "Baby Mama."
"A producer on the program exercised poor judgment in using this chyron
during the segment," Fox's Senior Vice President of Programming Bill
Shine told the Politico. To which a blogger on Feministing.com responded: "Uh, yeah, I'd say so. (So much for a heartfelt apology)."
The sexist coverage of the campaign has led to a movement to hold the
media accountable for their comments. The Women's Media Center recently
launched a joint campaign with Media Matters called "Sexism Sells, But We're Not Buying It.". What About Our Daughters also recently launched a website Michelle Obama Watch to follow Michelle Obama throughout the campaign.
Media Resources: Politico 6/12/08; Feministing.com 6/13/08; Feminist Daily Newswire; What About Our Daughters | | |
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Josef Fritzl - What
Compelled Him to Become a "Cellar Monster"? by Susan Lawrence, May 27, 2008
Our minds have reeled in recent weeks as the details
of 73 year old Austrian Josef Fritzl's double life of incest has come to
light. The crimes he committed against his daughter are grotesque: locking her
up in a tiny, windowless, stuffy, soundproof dungeon for 24 years; beating and
raping her thousands of times; denying her medical and dental treatment; and
causing her to bear 7 children in the dungeon, one of whom he threw in an
incinerator after he died. These horrors shock and anger us. How could someone
treat his own daughter so horribly? Why did he do this?
When reading all the news sources about this case, one is compelled to conclude
that Josef Fritzl's crimes are really not such a surprise at all. He has spoken
frankly to the media about his own thinking regarding his daughter, and about
his own childhood. His statements show that the seeds of heartless criminality
were sown when this now elderly man was a young child.
Josef was an only child, whose mother threw his father out of the house when he
was 5 years old. He was beaten to the point of bruises nearly every day by his
mother. He says his father was a "waster" who cheated on his mother.
When he left, Josef says he became sort of a "husband" to his mother,
and that he was in "awe" of her. The picture we are left of young
Josef is a child who loses his father, is alone with a woman who beats him
daily, and who is placed in an inappropriate role of "husband". There
is nobody for Josef to turn to - no sibling, no kind father, only a brute of a
mother he dared not offend. He has no "helping witness" to offer
comfort, and to show him another way of treating children. His fear and anger
towards his mother turn inward and seethe inside him. He longs for revenge: to
control, hurt, and humiliate others, since he cannot do so to his mother.
When Josef grows into adulthood he marries a submissive young girl of 17 - he
is 21. His wife, Rosemarie, begins to take the brunt of his internal rage at
his mother as he beats and humiliates her in various ways. He now has a victim
at his disposal, yet Rosemarie sometimes manages to avoid the abuse and at one
point leaves him for 9 years. Even so, she stays married to him even after he
is convicted of rape and has made numerous visits to prostitutes. The
prostitutes and rape victim are humiliated and abused in further expressions of
Josef's repressed revenge toward his unloving, cruel mother.
Josef and Rosemarie have 7 children. Josef uses a classic method of gaining
control over them: "divide and conquer". Three of the children he
"likes" and treats decently, and 3 others are disliked and treated
poorly. The seventh child is Elisabeth. Josef has said she reminded him of his
mother, that she even looked like his mother. Poor Elisabeth! From a young age
she received more beatings than the other children: punching and slapping for
"every little thing" according to a friend. When she was 11 he began
another form of humiliation, control and abuse: raping her in the woods and the
cellar.
When Elisabeth was a teenager Josef sent her to a cooking school. During those
years she ran away twice, desperate to get away from his abuse. Both times she
was found and forced to move back home. At 18 she made plans to move in with a
sister. Shortly before she was to move Josef asked for her help in moving a
heavy door in the cellar - she helped him and then Josef pushed her inside the
door into the dungeon that she wouldn't escape for 24 years! That act of
humiliation was not enough for Josef: he repeatedly beat her and raped her in
the one room dungeon for 9 years, even in front of the children she bore from
the rapes. He further humiliated and controlled her by giving her the choice of
starving or giving in to rape, and by threatening to gas or electrocute her and
the children. He also abused her by forcing her into a "mothering"
role toward him, making her cook his favorite dishes for him.
More room was needed for the children and Josef humiliated Elisabeth further by
forcing her to scrape out more space in the cellar, with her bare hands. 15
more years were spent in the slightly bigger dungeon while the rapes and
beatings continued, and more children were born. Again Josef's desire for
control took the form of "divide and conquer": he took 3 of Elisabeth's
babies away from her. He secretly humiliated his wife by getting her to care
for his babies of incest, born just below her own house.
Throughout the ghastly revelations of this story, Josef's ideas and actions
have reminded me again and again, like an eery echo, of the type of thinking
exhibited by spankers and authors of babywhipping books. Josef demanded total,
immediate obedience, enforced by repeated corporal punishment - the same is
true of spankers and babywhippers. Josef was very concerned about outward
appearances - babywhippers are the same. Josef claimed he was saving Elisabeth
from a worse fate and bad influences (!) - likewise, babywhippers claim
slamming a child saves them from something even worse ("I had to hit him
to keep him from running in front of semis" - don't you wonder about
some of these spankers' claims of incredibly stupid disobedience and
ear-splitting tantrums and how smacking solves everything??)
Josef believed he had the right to abject submission from his children
even if he was wrong - babywhippers say the same. Josef withheld food as
punishment - so do babywhippers. Josef believed he was a decent parent - so do
babywhippers. Josef valued politeness and orderliness over compassion and
compromise - so do babywhippers. Josef confined Elisabeth - so do babywhippers
(sitting on them, keeping them in their rooms, tying them up, not allowing them
outside friends). Josef twisted the parent/child relationship around so that
his daughter served *his* needs (love/sex/mothering) - the same is true of
babywhippers who seem to value what a child can do for *them* more than
anything else.
Over one dozen books are currently published in the US that recommend hitting
infants, even with objects. And their philosophy of child-raising is hauntingly
similar to Josef Fritzl's. Above all, the child is seen as someone to control,
to force into total submission by threats and beatings. The child is controlled
in order to serve the parent's needs, be they for chores, convenience, for the
love, attention and respect they never got from their own parents, or as an
object for expressing revenge on their own parents.
I believe revenge and the craving for "respect" are the main reasons
that beating and humiliating children continue at such a high rate, and to such
extreme degrees as with Josef Fritzl. The desire for revenge for the suffering
one endured at the hands of one's own parents is a far greater force than most
people realize or acknowledge. If a child is isolated with only an abusive
parent, as Josef was, there is no way out from the suffering other than to
stuff the mountains of anger inside and then look for available victims later,
on whom to seek revenge. This is what Josef did. Absolute control and
humiliation are the underlying games at play. The inner child within the adult
body is driven to endlessly seek to fulfill its needs, needs that no amount of
control or humiliation or revenge can ever completely satisfy. A trail of
victims is left in the wake of the adult whose childhood wounds were never
recognized.
A child's emotional life is desperately important. We must realize this,
deeply, profoundly, as a society. For if a child is abused and nobody offers
him/her comfort, if nobody offers him/her an escape or a better way of treating
children, then we will continue to produce more Josef Fritzls. Children need to
have their hurts acknowledged if they are to remain human and not become
sociopathic monsters. Remember this: when you know a child is being abused,
show that child you care! You may be able to stop someone from becoming a
"cellar monster", and you may save another Elisabeth from being
tortured some day.
Media sources:
http://www.nzherald.co.nz/section/2/story.cfm?c_id=2&objectid=10507872
http://www.joseffritzl.cn/
http://www.people.co.uk/news/tm_headline=cellar-wife-why-i-didn-t-leave-him&method=full&objectid=20414293&siteid=93463-name_page.html
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=565616&in_page_id=1770
http://www.rabble.ca/columnists_full.shtml?x=71269
http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/world/europe/article3897695.ece
http://www.sundaymirror.co.uk/news/sunday/2008/05/11/exclusive-dungeon-girl-elisabeth-fritzl-first-words-revealed-98487-20413922/
http://www.presstv.ir/detail.aspx?id=55215§ionid=3510212
http://www.sundaymirror.co.uk/news/sunday/2008/05/11/josef-fritzl-i-m-worried-how-kids-are-coping-without-me-98487-20413920/
http://ukpress.google.com/article/ALeqM5iBlDSe6LQNKe01RSQao7XyIYMORA
http://www.newsoftheworld.co.uk/1105_fritzl.shtml
http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/topstories/2008/05/12/cops-to-quiz-cellar-beast-josef-fritzl-s-wife-again-89520-20415046/
http://www.smh.com.au/news/world/a-fathers-despicable-obsession/2008/05/09/1210131264454.html
http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/article1141009.ece
http://www.thetimes.co.za/News/Article.aspx?id=762975
http://www.nytimes.com/2008/05/09/world/europe/09dungeon.html?_r=1&ref=world&oref=slogin
http://abcnews.go.com/International/story?id=4818339&page=1
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/josef_fritzl/1944615/Josef-Fritzl-Fritzel's-cellar-lacked-oxygen.html
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/europe/confessions-from-the-cellar-it-was-great-for-me-to-have-a-second-proper-family-in-the-cellar-with-a-wife-and-a-few-children-824588.html
http://www.mailonsunday.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/worldnews.html?in_article_id=564753&in_page_id=1811
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2008/may/08/joseffritzl.austria
http://www.news.com.au/heraldsun/story/0,21985,23668001-5012749,00.html
http://blogs.independent.co.uk/openhouse/2008/05/fritzl-the-evil.html
http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/article1141009.ece
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/europe/confessions-from-the-cellar-it-was-great-for-me-to-have-a-second-proper-family-in-the-cellar-with-a-wife-and-a-few-children-824588.html
It's funny that way, you can get used
To the tears and the pain
What a child will believe
You never loved me
You can't hurt me now
I got away from you, I never thought I would
You can't make me cry, you once had the power
I never felt so good about myself
Oh Father you never wanted to live that way
You never wanted to hurt me
Why am I running away
Maybe someday
When I look back I'll be able to say
You didn't mean to be cruel
Somebody hurt you too
"Oh Father" by Louise Ritchie | | |
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The One Flaw
In Women
By the time the Lord made woman,
He was into his sixth day of working overtime.
An angel appeared and said,
'Why are you spending so much time on this one?'
And the Lord answered, 'Have you seen my spec sheet on her?
She has to be completely washable, but not plastic,
have over 200 movable parts, all replaceable
and able to run on diet coke and leftovers,
have a lap that can hold four children at one time,
have a kiss that can cure anything from a scraped knee to a broken heart
-and she will do everything
with only two hands.'
The angel was astounded at the requirements.
'Only two hands!? No way!
And that's just on the standard model?
That's too much work for one day.
Wait until tomorrow to finish.'
'But I won't, ' the Lord protested.
'I am so close to finishing this creation that is so close to my own heart.
She already heals herself when she is sick
AND can work 18 hour days.'
The angel moved closer and touched the woman.
'But you have made her so soft, Lord.'
'She is soft,' the Lord agreed,
'but I have also made her tough.
You have no idea what she can endure or accomplish.'
'Will she be able to think?', asked the angel.
The Lord replied,
'Not only will she be able to think,
she will be able to reason and negotiate.'
The angel then noticed something,
and reaching out, touched the woman's cheek.
'Oops, it looks like you have a leak in this model.
I told you that you were trying to put too much into this one.'
'That's not a leak,'
the Lord corrected,
'that's a tear!'
'What's the tear for?' the angel asked.
The Lord said, 'The tear is her way of expressing her joy,
her sorrow, her pain, her disappointment, her love,
her loneliness, her grief and her pride.'
The angel was impressed.
'You are a genius, Lord.
You thought of everything!
Woman is truly amazing.'
And she is!
Women have strengths that amaze men.
They bear hardships and they carry burdens,
but they hold happiness,
love and joy.
They smile when they want to scream.
They sing when they want to cry.
They cry when they are happy
and laugh when they are nervous.
They fight for what they believe in.
They stand up to injustice.
They don't take 'no' for an answer
when they believe there is a better solution.
They go without so their family can have.
They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.
They love unconditionally.
They cry when their children excel
and cheer when their friends get awards.
They are happy when they hear about
a birth or a wedding.
Their hearts break when a friend dies.
They grieve at the loss of a family member,
yet they are strong when they think there is no strength left.
They know
that a hug and a kiss
can heal a broken heart.
Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.
They'll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you
to show how much they care about you.
The heart of a woman is what makes the world keep turning
They bring joy, hope and love.
They have compassion and ideals.
They give moral support to their family and friends.
Women have vital things to say and everything to give
HOWEVER, IF THERE IS ONE TINY FLAW IN WOMEN,
IT IS THAT THEY FORGET THEIR WORTH.
PLEASE pass this along to your women friends and relatives
to remind them just how amazing they are.
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Rape Still
Widespread in DarfurApril 9, 2008
Human Rights Watch (HRW) reported on
Monday that sexual violence in Darfur continues to be a constant threat for
women and girls. According to HRW, the Sudanese government repeatedly denies the fact
that sexual violence occurs in Darfur. Most crimes against women are left
unpunished.
The report
documents violence against girls as young as 11. The majority of the violence
is committed by government forces and militias allied with them. The BBC
News reports that over 200,000 people have died in Darfur since 2003 as
a result of the genocide.
HRW called on the government of Sudan and the United Nations (UN)- African
Union peacekeeping force (UNAMID) to address the issue of widespread sexual
violence. They asked the government to condemn sexual violence and enforce the
condemnation with the end of impunity for perpetrators of sexual violence. They
also encourage UNAMID to deploy more women police officers and to create
"firewood patrols" to protect women and girls outside refugee camps.
Georgette Gagnon, Africa director of HRW, said, "The victims of these
horrific attacks have little or no hope of redress in Darfur's current climate
of impunity. By failing to prosecute the perpetrators, the government is giving
them a license to rape. Five years living in fear of rape is five years too
long. Women and girls in Darfur urgently need protection, and those who are
victims need justice."
Media
Resources:
Human Rights Watch Press Release 04/07/08; Five Years On, No Justice for Sexual
Violence in Darfur; BBC News 04/07/08; Reuters 04/08/08 | | |
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