Nope.  You're definitely not the only one who does that.

Let your past actions go, I say.  It's a whole new situation today.  What can you do to change it, whether you were right or wrong, perfect or floundering?  What IS the perfect way to deal with the looming doom of the ones we love most?  I sure don't know. 

Who cares how you might seem from the outside, looking at a moment long gone?  People certainly do live there, judging people, setting them into organized boxes.  Why be one more of those people to yourself?  Here and now is too important, and a whole new circumstance to fret over.  It's a whole new opportunity of destiny.  If 'they' miss right now, tripped up on 'then' - that's their tragedy.  You're someplace else entirely.

The middle ground here, incorporating both frames of mind, is NOT to look back at it as if it's something separate from today, detached from it somehow, as moment getting away from you.  You have to keep it connected - like looking into a picture of Tooter, 6 months old, and seeing him 5 years old.  You can remember your past, seeing you in the now, understanding what's still present (letting the past go), leaving room for the future already underway.  That's the only understanding to take away from it with a 'critical perspective'.  The pieces that are still right now.  Does that make sense?

When it comes to the safety and well being of your babies, there is no blowing things out of proportion... especially when every red flag is waving in front of you screaming, "Something is wrong!"

Nope. Tell that voice it can just go to hell.

It is very difficult to know what to do in cases like this.  I think we have been given instincts for a reason.  Still, in this unnatural day and age, we have forgotten how to listen to those instincts, and when we hear them, we wonder if it is for real, or if we are just being paranoid.  But how many times have we listened to someone who survived some kind of tragedy say something like, "I had this FEELING that I shouldn't have gotten on the elevator with that guy (or walked down that particular street, etc, etc), but I just blew it off", and then something terrible happened, and they wish they had listened! 

When it comes to our children, we HAVE to err on the side of caution.  The stuff that you described with your little boy is NOT NORMAL.  And the way they did your daughter...the questioning, the intimidating.  That just wasn't right, either.  Something happened!  And if they really cared about the kids at that school, they would've been just as upset as you, and wanting to get to the bottom of it. 

The most important thing is that you got your children out of there.  Whether or not they find the person/s responsible and prosecute them is secondary.  You did the right thing.

RYC:  Yes!  Once a flipper, always a flipper!

you did the right thing...foloow your inner guidance system...better safe, than sorry.