| | "Dear lola, my partents are breaking up for like the billionth time, and i don't know what to do. i know its a good thing cuz they fight and stuff a lot. they tell me that im the reason their breaking up tho, and i don't know what to do about that. help?"
Dear Whoever-you-are,
Parent situations are tough. We are generally conditioned to believe everything that they say up to a certain point when we see that we have our own minds and can have opinions seperate from them (lightbulb flashes on). Don't believe that you are the problem. Maybe it's issues surrounding you, and from the sound of it, you really care about them, which makes it hard. There is nothing you can do differently than be yourself, but ask yourself if you are purposely trying to affect their marriage, maybe subconsciously so that they will break up and you won't have to deal with all the chaos in your house anymore. I am not saying that that is the case, but it's a possibility. Talk to them about it. Generally there is one parent who each of us seem to be drawn more to, for me it's my mom, so if you feel like you arein a good situation with one of them, ask what they think you are "doing" to make them so angry. They probably will throw out some bullshit excuse, and there's nothing that you can do but prove to them that's not the case. Try to talk it out though. Maybe after having a conversation with one of them the infomation will spread to the other one, and there won't be any divorce at all. Reconciliation is a good thing.
Lola |
| | Posted 2/15/2004 10:27 AM - 0 comments
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