| | "Hey Lola! I am so tired of not getting a boyfriend. I have a bad rep of
being Boy Crazy so now the guyz at my school wont have anything to do
with me. How can I shake off the bad rep??
Thanks much!!
-Kool Chick-"
Dear Kool Chick,
There are a few ways to go about this. One is to maybe back off from the dating scene for a while. I know it probably sucks, but people will slowly realize that you aren't just boy crazy. Everyone has to test out the water, at least for a while. Once you find someone who really deserves your attention, they will know that your reputation means nothing and that you are actually a kind, caring person.
Another way to help is not to make your relationships so public. If guys see you all over some other guy and then all of the sudden you are flirting with them, they may think that you are, in fact, boy crazy. It's hard to stop flirting once you become accustomed to it. Trust me, I know. I am THE biggest flirt in the world.
OR you could date people outside your general group of friends, or even outside of your school. Have a girlfriend set you up with their second cousin or something. I find that people outside the loop are the most forgiving. Also, if you go to a considerably large school, some people won't even know who you are, so finding a guy, say, in your history class may be easier than you think.
Overall, I would tell you to slow down. Become friends with the guy, maybe go on a few dates, and after knowing him and liking him for maybe a few MONTHS, see if it'll go any farther. That way, no one can accuse you of taking it too slow, and you will know for sure that you like the guy if you are still bothering with him after months.
Good luck and thanks for emailing!!
Lola
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| | Posted 2/15/2004 8:26 PM - 2 comments
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