I'm going to give this blog carnival, meme, or whatever you want to call it a try. I'd like to hear from other pastors' wives on what their family cooks for Easter. If you'd like to participate, here's all you have to do:

1. write about it this week at your own site, (this will work for any blogging platform, so not limited to Xanga)

2. include a link to this post in your entry,
( http://weblog.xanga.com/PastorsWivesThriving/647406137/whatcha-cooking-for-easter.html )

3. and then come back here to add a direct link to your post (rather than just a general link to your blog) with the green Mister Linky graphic down below. You may need to leave a comment on your own blog in order to access the direct link feature.

4. if you'd like to tag your post, I'd suggest pastors' wives blogging or pws blogging, as I hope to do more of these in the future.

Also, if you have a tip on how to make cooking for the Easter Holiday easier, please write about that, too. Deadline for inclusion in this post is Monday March 24, 2008. That'll hopefully give everyone time to read the ideas if they need last-minute inspiration.



For more tips and ideas, be sure to check out what our members do for Thanksgiving and Christmas to make a nice meal as simple as possible:

http://www.pastorswives.org/real_ministers_wives/holiday_meals

I look forward to reading your posts!

- Moose

I have a new post in the works, but until then, a short note:

Exqsme originally had the idea for this blog, and set it up back in mid-April, 2007. I think she did a fantastic job of designing it, but I changed the theme last night to make it integrate with the rest of our redesigned website at pastorswives.org. Here is the old theme for reminiscing/admiration sake:



and... I did save the theme in case we change our mind!

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If you're a fan of the videos from Big Idea, you could probably hear Mr. Nezzer's voice when you read the title of this post, as he expresses his disappointment at the lack of thanks for his "lovely gift of chocolate" (Veggie Tales' Rack, Shack & Benny). True, there are times when pastors and wives can feel overworked, under-paid, and, like fictional Mr. Nezzar, under-appreciated. Especially now, as October winds down and pastor's appreciation month comes to an end, pastors' families around the country may be feeling either special or slighted, depending on what their congregations did or didn't do and say.

I have met some pastors' wives whose churches really go all out in honoring them. Others receive some acknowledgement, while still others receive none at all. I've even met a pastor's wife or two who have served in a church where only the senior pastor was honored, as if his service to the church were the only one that was important or valued. They, as children's and/or youth pastors' wives, were even asked to contribute to the senior pastor's gift. If you've ever been in that situation, or even if you have not, this blog entry is for you.

I conducted a little research and found out that pastors' appreciation month was first established in 1992. I'm not sure by whom, but I do know that Focus on the Family was instrumental in promoting it to churches in the mid-to late 90s. It's become more well-known and publicized in recent years, and companies like Hallmark have even joined the likes of Dayspring in making clergy appreciation cards now. With the knowledge of the day, comes a little bit of expectation. It's a bit like knowing your birthday is approaching and hoping someone will say, "Happy Birthday" or send you a card.

If no one has said how much they appreciate your service to the Lord, or even if they have, let me say it to you and to all the pastors and pastors' wives who read this -- I appreciate you. We're in this together and you are a valuable member of God's team. I know how you, pastor and wife, pour of yourselves into your congregation. I know how you love them and/or strive to love when some may seem annoying, exasperating, or otherwise difficult to love. I know how you pray for them in secret and how you do things at church that many may take for granted.

I know how you, pastor's wife, sometimes may struggle to get the family out the door by yourself on Sunday morning because your husband has to be there early. I know how you felt when a church member you considered a friend gave you the cold shoulder because they were upset with your husband. I know how you've sat on pins and needles, wishing you could be a fly on the wall, while your beloved was in a tough meeting that went long.

I also know the joy you've felt as you've seen the fruit of your efforts. I've felt the amazement you've felt as you've seen God work in situations you'd deemed hopeless. I know the discomfort you felt when someone came to you for advice simply because you are the pastor's wife, and the elation you felt when God helped you guide them in His wisdom. And I know the honor and humility you've felt as you've been presented opportunities to serve that are unique to your gifts, personality, and experience. But more importantly than that--God knows, and He's cheering you on.

"For God is not unjust so as to forget your work and the love which you have shown toward His name, in having ministered and in still ministering to the saints." (Hebrews 6:10, NASB95)

Others appreciate you, too. There are Christians all over the United States and Canada who honor pastors by providing retreat and vacation facilities for pastors, wives, (and sometimes families) at little to no cost. They know your sacrifice, and they are there for you. I have personally stayed at the Cedarly retreat with my husband, and the house was a mansion. It is a beautiful place to refresh and renew, and there really was no catch. They didn't use the evening meal to pull out the multi-level marketing plan or the time-share condo opportunity. They simply wanted to encourage us.

While it is certainly neat to be honored and/or encouraged by your congregation and other Christians, I think it's even "neater" how much God values your service to Him. Did you know that there's a special crown of honor for pastors? Peter calls it the "unfading crown of glory"; or as the New Century Version words it, "a glorious crown that will never lose its beauty". (1 Peter 5:1-4)

So if pastor's appreciation day came and went without anyone noticing, and if pastor's appreciation month has been a bit disappointing, please know that God sees what you do. He sees the love, prayers, and hard work you pour into His sheep; and He says, "well done, my good and faithful servant." In the end, that's what matters the most.

"...because you know that your work in the Lord is never wasted." (1 Corinthians 15:58b, NCV)


Posted by: Moose
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Here are a few random topics I'm needing to cover...

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Blog Carnival:
This is usually not the way blog carnivals are done, but if you have already written an article of general interest to pastors' wives, have already posted it on your blog, and would like it to be considered for a future review on our blog, please submit a link to your article at the address listed in the above paragraph. Later on, we may sponsor a real blog carnival, where everyone who wants to participate writes on a similar topic during a specific time frame (usually a day or week).

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There's a message there somewhere. We talk about how being in ministry is like living in a glass bowl, a glass house, etc. Today, I read something I've read tons of times before, but somehow it struck me differently this time.

Right after the famous salt verse, Jesus says in Matthew 5:14, "You are the light that gives light to the world. A city that is built on a hill cannot be hidden. 15) And people don't hide a light under a bowl. They put it on a lampstand so the light shines for all the people in the house. 16) In the same way, you should be a light for other people. Live so that they will see the good things you do and will praise your Father in heaven."

It just got me thinking back on a conversation I was having with Exqsme. She was telling me about how Elijah ran and hid, and talked about how God is letting her hide less and less. Don't we all want to hide at times? I know I do. I find myself ducking at times and avoiding people when there's been conflict. It's a shame, because what if the person has issues that God wants to free them from? I sense God wanting me to str-e-e-e-tch. Maybe I'm reading too much into it, and maybe it's w-a-a-a-a-y out of context, but I really think God is telling me to stop hiding out in my bowl.

I just get the sense at times that as pw's we're not all we can be because we let others get to us, whether they be well-meaning or deliberately cruel. I feel a calling to break free, once again, and not be bound up by others -- to minister wholeheartedly with my talents and gifts and be oblivious to (wo)man.

originally posted June 13, 2007 by Moose
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