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The views and opinons expressed in this blog are only the thoughts of one great man. His name is Tom Leykis. If you know of him or heard his radio show on 97.1 fm, you are well aware of his thoughts. Men please read over and over to get the whole picture and outlook on dating and women. WOMEN do not be offened by this. Just understand where we come from on this...

Leykis 101 

Spending Limits

Never spend more then $40 on a date. In fact she should be the one paying for the date.

Especially if you have to go on several dates before reaching your goal, this can make the girls very expensive. How do you do this? There's several ways to cut costs. If you are going out to dinner, eat first. Then at dinner, just order a salad or bowl of soup. What girl is going to eat more than the guy, especially if it's the first dates? Does she want to look like a little piggy in front of him?

Another way is to steal the dinner. When you're asking her out, say something like "Well, what time are you eating dinner?" She might think you're asking her to dinner--but no. When she gives an answer, like "Oh, I was thinking about 7:30," you make your move. Say, "Ok, and about an hour and a half to eat, I'll pick you up at 9 and we can get some drinks?" You've done it. She'll probably look dumbfounded for a second, or think that you are a little "dense," but you have just won. That's an entire dinner you don't have to pay for. The money can be better spent on getting her liquored up and getting her back to her place for some fun.

Women In Bars

A wingman can be helpful to break up a pair of girls or get them at your table, but going alone can be just fine. If you're desperate, just leave. Girls can smell that a mile away. You don't approach girls. That has a small stink of desperation, and if the girls in the bar see you get rejected once, you're pretty much shot then and there. You sit at the bar or at a small, private table. You have your money on the table (it's the closest we have to "make horny" horomones). You dress nice, in darker clothing. You want to appear dark, mysterious, etc. Have a drink or two, and just watch the action. Scan the room. See who you want to have sex with. Sooner or later, girls are going to approach you. Wonder if you're waiting on someone. Or if you're just lonely. Just agree with whatever they say. By not approaching, you're not buying girls drinks that you have no chance with. Girls who approach you will likely sleep with you. You've already made the list. Now you just have to close the deal.

Cell Phones and Dating

If a girl answers a cell-phone call in the middle of dinner, get up and leave. Why? The person on the other end is the guy she's going to have sex with when she finally gets rid of you. If she says it's her kids, you're already violating the no-single-mothers rule. Her work? It's a date and it's late, if her work is more important than you now, it will always be more important. If she says its her friends, all her friends know she's out. That's just how women work. She can just turn the phone off and wait to gossip until the date is over.

You, on the other hand, should carry a cell phone. Avoid answering it during dinner, but have your buddies makes a call or two. Talk into a dead phone. Set up something to send you some text messages. Ignoring her for "work" makes you look important and in control. She will try to test you and get your attention on her. Sex might be part of the attention-getting hunt.

 Weekend Dating

Do you want to look like a loser who has nothing better to do on weekends than wait for her to call? You should not answer calls from potential booty calls is Thursday-Sunday, unless it is guaranteed poon. You have to make the girl believe that she has competition. That your time is valuable. That you have better things to do on weekends than spend time with her. Are you with another girl? Are you in the bars? Important meeting? Keep her guessing. It will intrigue her. And a basic rule of humanity: we want what we can't have. If you make her believe she can't have you, she'll be that much easier to bag when you "let her in." Even if you have nothing to do, let her leave a voice mail. You're busy (banging other chicks, for all she knows). Call her back on Monday night. If you do call, never leave a voicemail: she'll be wondering what you wanted and if you made other plans.

Relationships and Long-Term Commitments

The general rule is, don't have a serious long-term relationship until you're 25. If you're in a committed relationship, it says you're ready to settle down. Get everything out of your system first. The three-ways, the one-night-stands, the fetish girls, the fantasies. Wait until you're in the 30's before you marry. Since you should have a well-established career by then, you'll be able to have a steady marriage and kids, if you choose to have them, will be in a steady, well-supported household. Remember, once kids are involved, there is no such thing as separation. She will always be involved. Even if you leave she can make you pay child support. Make sure you are ready to have kids and make sure both of you agree on it.

If you're under 25, you should not have a girlfriend. You should be having fun and sleeping with as many people as possible. Some men do mature at different rates. If you're ready for marriage or kids, go for it. Just remember that over 51f marriages fail. You had better be damn sure of it, or you will be paying for it the rest of your life. Marriages where both parties are older than 25 have a much, much higher success rate. Children raised in solid households are much less likely to be social delinquents. Think about that.

Sex to Go

No spooning. No cuddling. No staying over. In and Out. This might be hard, might be easy, but if you do these things you're sending her a very clear message: you're interested in a serious relationship. That's the only time these kind of actions are appropriate.

Women In Groups

Girls travel in packs when they're not looking to hook up. It lets the not-so-hot girls get as much attention as the real babes in the group. It's almost impossible to get one alone, much less take one home. Most likely, if you approach a girl in a pack, one will act as a "blocker," stalling you from your real girl. Chances are, when women are in a group, that someone is sober enough to tell her know, and insist that she go home with them. Just don't pay them any attention. Don't buy them drinks. Take a number, maybe, but don't pursue them.

 Dating Co-workers

Dipping your friend in the company ink is a strict no-no. In fact, you should not engage in any conversation with a woman at work unless it directly relates to work. Do not compliment them. Do not ask them out to dinner. Your conversation outside of work should be limited to Good (Night/Afternoon/Evening). If you go beyond this, you're a lawsuit waiting to happen. If you do date a coworker and you break up, things can get tense around the office (especially if it was a nasty breakup). She can sabotage your career or, worse, file lawsuits claiming sexual harassment. At the minimum, you will have to see her every day, and maybe collaborate with her frequently. It's just not worth it.

The courts are very hostile towards men in this regard as well, so just play it safe. If women want to be engaged in normal conversation, they can lobby the courts to be more lenient first. We're not going to risk our future to try to get a date with someone who, for all we know, is waiting for a guy to say "nice skirt" so she can claim sexual harassment and settle for a large sum of money. The only time you should date a co-worker is if you don't care about your job.

If you feel that you have been sexually harassed then report it! If do not report it then it means that it is acceptable for a women to sexually harass men.

Facts About Sexual Harassment
The U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission

Sexual harassment is a form of sex discrimination that violates Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964.

Unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature constitutes sexual harassment when submission to or rejection of this conduct explicitly or implicitly affects an individual's employment, unreasonably interferes with an individual's work performance or creates an intimidating, hostile or offensive work environment.

Sexual harassment can occur in a variety of circumstances, including but not limited to the following:

• The victim as well as the harasser may be a woman or a man. The victim does not have to be of the opposite sex.
• The harasser can be the victim's supervisor, an agent of the employer, a supervisor in another area, a co-worker, or a non-employee.
• The victim does not have to be the person harassed but could be anyone affected by the offensive conduct.
• Unlawful sexual harassment may occur without economic injury to or discharge of the victim.
• The harasser's conduct must be unwelcome.

It is helpful for the victim to directly inform the harasser that the conduct is unwelcome and must stop. The victim should use any employer complaint mechanism or grievance system available.

When investigating allegations of sexual harassment, EEOC looks at the whole record: the circumstances, such as the nature of the sexual advances, and the context in which the alleged incidents occurred. A determination on the allegations is made from the facts on a case-by-case basis.

Prevention is the best tool to eliminate sexual harassment in the workplace. Employers are encouraged to take steps necessary to prevent sexual harassment from occurring. They should clearly communicate to employees that sexual harassment will not be tolerated. They can do so by establishing an effective complaint or grievance process and taking immediate and appropriate action when an employee complains.

Tabasco Rule

Use a condom everytime during sex and when you're done, dispose of it good. Flush it down the toilet. If that's not possible, try to carry some really, really hot sauce with you. Habanero or something. Put some inside the used condom. There are several cases where girls have taken the contents of the condom and inserted them into herself, in an attempt to get pregnant. Why? Child support and she's set. Especially if you have money. Do not just leave it lying around. If you use the hot sauce method, and you hear her scream, take your stuff and RUN. If you're the risky type, stick around and sue her for attempted extortion. The pain will ensure she won't be able to get pregnant for a little while (her area is very sensitive to changes like that). Oh, and it will avoid STD's

Single Mothers

Im done with Cal POLY!!!!!