Friday, May 16, 2008

  • Housewife

    A lot of girls growing up dream of being a mom. The perfect homemaker. Wanting to have children and many adorable babies which they can smother with their undying unconditional love. They put on that apron and bake a delicious apple pie, cook a fabulous dinner. Wash some laundry, iron some pants, sweep the floor, vaccuum the rooms Go to bed, wake up do it all over again.

    I was never one of those girls. I didn't dream of being the perfect mom, driving my kids around to soccer, walking the dogs, having tea parties with my friends. I didn't really have many big aspirations at all. By the time I was a junior in high school, I just started looking for college. I assumed that I would go get a degree in something that would get me a decent job so I could make money; have a career.

    By the time I was done with college, I realized, I don't want a career. I don't want to climb the corporate ladder. I wouldn't mind the money, but I just don't find satisfaction in titles and postions, I'd rather do something meaningful with what little time I have. When I die I don't want Isabel Huntsman, CEO on my tombstone, I want to be remembered as someone who gave to others, who inspired others, who did more that lock herself in an office to achieve some top of the ladder title, that in the end is meaningless.

    Not saying having the goal of becoming a CEO is wrong. It's just not my goal.

    Which leaves me at an impass. This week I began putting together a meal plan for me and Mike for the next two weeks so I can go grocery shopping this weekend. Searching for recipes on the internet, and putting the plan together excited me. On Monday night I did some laundry, folded it up and put it away. I felt accomplished. When Mike came home from work and noticed that I did that he was so appreciative. I felt important. Last night Mike couldn't fall asleep, he kept whining and complaining, tossing and turning. I rubbed his head a little and scratched his back and he was out. I felt irreplacable.

    You see, I'm starting to notice a pattern. I like just being at home, cleaning, keeping the house in order. But as of right now, I make the money. If I quit my job, we could no longer afford our house, we could barely afford a decent apartment. So for now, because I followed what I was "supposed" to do [go to college, get a good job, make money] I'm stuck.

    Maybe the grass is greener on the other side, and I just like being a housewife because it's different. Who knows. But for now, a girl can dream.

     

Comments (5)

  • Kiernkalebsmom
    You're Cute

    Its funny since you did your last blog about keeping up with the Joness' and stuff I have been thinking more and more about this...


    Here's what I have. There are definately times when I wish I had more money. For instance, Kaden's birthday being this week I would love to be able to buy a big trampoline for the back yard and tons of balloons and a petting zoo for his party. I would love to be able to give my children all of their hearts desires. I would love to own my own home.


    Then, I think of what I would have to do to obtain those goals. Work lots of hours both Dino and I. To me its not worth it.  My kids have a roof over their heads clothes on their backs and they are healthy and happy. To me, thats the most fullfilling thing. To know that when they are hurting or sad or have a question I am the first person that pops into their minds to go to. Although, I am often taken for granted and don't feel I am full appreciated for all I do.


    My children will more than likely not get a huge inheritance when Dino and I pass. I have nothing to leave them. I have been too busy giving them all that I have here and now. Preparing them for their lives, and more importantly making sure they make it to eternity. I have given my children the best gift I can, myself. Its all I have to give. By giving myself, and being the best example I can be of a christian wife and mother, I believe I am preparing them for their lifes work, ministry. Ministry is your calling. Its all of our calling. Just some take it and run with it and some ignore it.


    I dont think you have to stay at home to be a great christian, wife, mother. I believe as long as you are serving God, your husband, and your children you will be a great one. I think everyone has their own idea's about what is an acceptable standard for their lives. Dino and I have jointly decided long ago, it doesnt matter if we leave an estate in our names for our kids, their heavenly father has prepared a place all we have to do is make sure they get their.


    Dino loves the fact that he knows not only his children are in good hands daily, but his wife is home waiting for him and truly appreciates the fact that he takes the pressure on himself so that I can stay at home to serve our kids and my husband. What a place of honor I have.


    There are times when I feel that I need to feel more accomplished. Then, Kierstin will write me a poem telling me how I am her best friend. Or Kaleb will just grab my face and tell me I am the best mommy in the world. Kaden tells me at least 50 times a day he loves me ( I think he just cant think of anything else to say, after he calls my name sometimes ). That is more rewarding than praise at any staff meeting, or any raise, or anything a boss could ever give me.


    Isabel, right now, you have the best of both worlds. You have a great job that is demanding but not so much that it consumes you. You have a great home to keep up and a wonderful husband ( well, you know my opinion on men but you found one you can stand lol). You dont have to be at home EVERY day to be a homemaker. You can take those opportunities you get at the house to make yourself happy in the home. Then the next day you can go to work and hear the boss sing your praises because you are such a dedicated hard worker. Not to mention the hundreds of teenagers lives you have touched throughout the year. You my friend, are a blessed woman!

  • Livin4Christ83

    I appreciate your honesty with this post. I've noticed some of the same things in the cycle of life. The culture tells us what we should think, feel and do with our lives, but it's often a lie. I will pray that God gives you the opportunity to stay home now that He has placed that in your heart.


    Blessings,
    JC
  • Greatandterriblequest

    You're post was so good to read...I've been thinking a lot of the same things.  Right now, I'm not married, and I'm going to college, but my goal is not to be a career lady.  In fact, I'd love to quit the part time job I've got and come home and serve my family.  God just hasn't led in that way right now.  Well, I don't exactly have an answer, rather, I know what it's like.  Wanting something that just feels so right, but God placing me in another situation that's not my first pick.  God has a purpose.

    God bless as you continue to follow Him.

    Priscilla
  • BangBang86

    the new apt is great. i love it. i just need to decorate it now to make it feel homie!! lol so unnie, you want kids now?

  • karatemadcow

    Mm~ I like this blog. It's... Well it fits me. . Maybe I've grown up too fast. Maybe I skipped the whole "need to earn money to support a family" part. But as a girl can dream, so can a boy. ...


    Just like you said, no big aspirations. Just a walk in a park, sitting on a patch of grass with that person (maybe have the little devils run around), sitting on a couch with that person, waking up to the knowledge that the other 1/2 of bed is occupied, coming back from work (don't matter what my work is) to see that person greet me with a smile (that person doesn't have to be a housewife, but I hope that person comes home before I do or I'll be walking into an empty house). Is there a better life than that? Maybe...

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