Disappointed not madI guess bffs are called that because they're the ones you can depend on when you really need help....no questions asked. I had blown two tires and two rims (initially thought to be one tire only) on the way to STL last weekend.. Since my car has run-flats, a spare was not provided. I had to tow it to Bloomington Normal and have the dealer there fix it. I couldn't pick it up until Saturday because they close when I get off work on the weekdays. I asked Yini to go with me and she immediately said she'd help. She even helped me research cheaper car rentals. Thanks Yini! I know you got up earlier than the work week to help me out  *PREVIOUSLY* I didn't want to trouble other friends for help as they have always come to my aid....so I thought to ask D and then treat her to dinner or something. I needed someone to ride with me because I didn't have anyone to drive the rental from the dealership to the rental return. She said she would like to but she promised another friend (S) she would go to the beach Sat. Since she was spending the night Friday at this friend's place so they could go to this party Saturday night (she's been looking forward to) she didn't want to piss this friend off. I'm fine with that, I guess I can't expect others to do what I would do. What pissed me off was that she claimed she was in a lose-lose situation because if she went with me she would make S mad but if she turned me down, I'd be mad so she'd opt to not make S mad. 1.) Don't go assuming that I'd be mad because you wouldn't help me out. 2.) Don't start naming my friends who could help me out 3.) Don't make it sound like it was a hard decision between going to the beach and going with me to Tim-buk-too. 4.) Thanks for rather "pissing" me off than someone who could hook you up with a party. 5.) I know you promised in advance and want to keep the promise.......and I provided late notice. I would be more understanding of your principles if you weren't the type to flake out on me 99% of the time. If you don't want to help that's fine, don't accuse me of being pissed due to you turning me down....that in itself pisses me off. I am disappointed, that's it. What's really sad about all this is that I had coworkers (known for less than a month) who really wanted to help me out but couldn't because one needed to be in Northern Wisconsin for a wedding and another two had to work Saturday to meet a deadline that day. |