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mashAllah this is a sick poem homie

im seriously laughing here.

Its rhyming and all that but in the end its like, "your dad has to come so its not haram" lol

Salaams...

If you ever find a lady who thinks a 'great date' is a visit to a graveyard...you had better marry her straight away...

But you might want to buy her dinner somewhere along the way...gotta eat to stay alive...;)...at least some falafel or something...

Masalaam....Munira

wow that was a little morbid. good poem just morbid. i've heard of a hadith concerning women and visits to yards, they're not supposed to do so often because they are more emotional and would be disturbed supposedly. anyway this was interesting. i wasn't sure if you were trying to do a commentary on the view of the haraamness of dating or just juxtaposing the enjoyment of life with the opposite.

how is this romantic?it could be educational, and a good reminder for a person religiously, but any girl who finds a visit to a grave yard romantic would be a creepy wife, people shouldn't be obsessed with death we are given this life to love and enjoy and simultaneously prepare for the next one and keep it in mind, we shouldn't be fixated on one or the other, the Prophet (pbuh) encouraged balance, allahu alim, that's my opinion anyway but of course everyone is entitled :)

it is romantic b/c the brother has thoughts of aakhirah and visiting the graves cures the heart from developing wahn, worshipping the graves is a whole nother story audhubillah!  it is romantic b/c he is obsessed with attaining Allaah's pleasure, not the girl's, it is romantic b/c he care about her enough to be obsessed with makin her conscious of her inevitable fate aka death and then aakhirah, not by making her aware of his mortal love for her... romance can be education n religious at the same time, it depends on the individual... ps: i understand we shud not be obsessed with certain things in dunya, but i think death-obsession wud have a positive effect on the soul, not a negative one, and plus, it is hard to attain, i for one wish i cud constantly think about my death, i wudnt be half as lame of a believer as i am, astaghfurullah

"it is romantic b/c the brother has thoughts of aakhirah"

I don't know if many people will say that is romantic...given that it is something to keep in mind, but romance and that are two different things...There are times when u treat ur wife to a kiss or a hug or a nice day out...and there are times where u teach one another about the what life is all about...

I can see how one might say this is not romantic, cause it is nowhere near romantic, and I can see how u say it is a lovely cause he cares about her soul and her hereafter...But I ahve to agree more on that sometimes we look at life on ends, rather then middle ground...and the middle ground is the best and it is there that our hearts finds rest...Allah grant all of us rest of heart and ease of heart...grants us all rememberence of death so that we live our lives the right way and grant us the oppurtunity to love one another and show our effection to one another...

nice poem, just a bit on the creepy side to me as well...naturally I am thinking about going out with my future wife Insha'Allah, and it is not something that puts a smileon my face...but point well made, better to understand death on a date then to avoid it and be ignorant throughout our lives...

anonymous you do have a point, but i think the love between a man and woman is beautiful and a manifestation of the love and mercy of Allah, there is nothing mortal about Love it is the only real thing in the universe in my opinion, but now i'm getting off topic sorry

I guess I could add a few cents to this relatively interesting debate that is going on... since I am the one who wrote the poem.. hehe.

Ok, BlueBrick, yes it is creepy because death in itself is a scary ordeal for all mere mortals.  I usually don't dwell on it, but I felt a poem that contrasts the different aspects of life was in high order.  I feel like a lot of people waste their lives in vain pursuits, so I wanted to take something typically ordinary and turn it into a lesson.. I am not sure if it worked though.

Now, as far as it being romantic, I guess that is left up to the reader.. to me, romantic is a display of affection that other people can feel without words.  So, if this is the definition, I guess the greatest display of affection would have to be one which involves the soul because the soul is timeless.  Yes Sakeena, on the surface remembering one of Mankind's most hated ordeals-death is far from romantic in and of itself, but what about the timeless lesson that I am trying to teach my love through the medium of the afterlife and what it entails.  It is morbid, it is scary, but it is truth... maybe it doesn't make anyone feel warm and cozy at the surface, but to want someone else to attain the everlasting above all else is a romantic idea.  So yes, the setting isn't romantic, but the meaning behind it is.. dont know if that made sense.

I agree with you though, love is a powerful emotion that doesn't seem encumbered by time like other things.. you can think of someone you loved who passed away long ago and it will still bring tears to your eyes, and you can think of someone you love when they are across the ocean and it still brings a smile to your face.  Even in the Quran, "And We put affectionate mercy between them."

So yeah, that is my short two cent piece.. keep the interesting dialogue going.

Asalaamalaikumwarahmatullah.

I don't think it's romantic - but I do feel that it shows that you put thought into something and you care about the person not just on this earth and what will happen to them but about their soul because the soul is the one that "lives on".

I do think grave yards are interesting because it says alot about the person and the people they left behind. There is alot of past, present and future there. The past being people who have passed on, the present because there are people that still care about them and visit them and the future because that is where we will all end up.

Very good poem. I do like it

Keep up the good work

Salam!

Woah, at first I was like damn what is this kid trying to do/suggest. After a couple minutes I started liking it. It seems to me to be like a dichotomy of some sort.. I don't know, something like that. Anyways this is my new xanga, I had an old one I told you, which I wanna keep seperate. This is pretty silent/private ish right now.

'to me, romantic is a display of affection that other people can feel without words.'

thats the point that struck me most in this poem

yes, we want love and we want the natural displays of affection which make us feel loved. what we sometimes forget is that love for someone results in care for their condition. so yes this poem is romantic in the sense that, the surface of 'love' is forgotten and the brother has delved us into a deeper kind of love which inshallah we will all have that kind of connection with someone one day.

'Not out of a longing for the world,
but rather to do a bit more good,'

mashallah keep it up brother!

lol love it