Webster's definition of addict:

1 : to devote or surrender (oneself) to something habitually or obsessively <addicted to gambling> 2 : to cause addiction to a substance in (a person or animal)

Webster's definition of addiction:

1: the quality or state of being addicted <addiction to reading>2: compulsive need for and use of a habit-forming substance (as heroin, nicotine, or alcohol) characterized by tolerance and by well-defined physiological symptoms upon withdrawal; broadly : persistent compulsive use of a substance known by the user to be harmful

   

I understand the question, but my thought is, if you know about it and the addicition and what it means to be so you are surrendering yourself to something else, usually a foreign object to "control" you.  This word I use lightley, because it takes time to acquire and give in to this addicition.  Also because it is something that you allow to control you.  Nicotine is powerful and it's obsession is phsycological and isn't uncontrollable as say someone with autism, ocd is in the middle I believe because it can be changed.

I have smoked and it took me six times to quit. Granted, I finally realized I hadn't really wanted to quit so many times.  It was that last time when I made that definate decision I was done, it was gross and I didn't want to do it anymore and I wasn't going to let it control me.  I mean, I'm a human and it's a substance, how can I truely place responsibility on it when it was my own two fingers that brought it to my lips.  And trying to quit never killed me though at times it felt like it.  Thank God it wasn't crack I was addicted to.  I quite cold turkey.  After day three it was easier, after three weeks i hardly thought about it.  To this day, do I crave them sometimes? Yes.    But I will not give in!!!!    They are disgusting, makes people smell, makes my health deteriate, kills me faster and makes me feel like crap all the while, besides the de-stressing.   The only thing it's good for now is to light and wave around me at night... the bugs hate it.

My opinion, there are things that you can control and things you can't.  Cigarettes... can't control the manufacturing.  can't control what others do with them around you.  can control what you do with them.    They are addicting.  They say so, everyone knows it.  You choose if you pick up that first cigarette.  You choose to make yourself an addict.  You choose to continue.  You choose everytime you buy them, touch them, put them to your lips, and to puff them.  You choose to put down that last cigarette if and never pick on up again.   You choose what you want to do.  Everything in life is a choice.  Some things in life that happen to you, you are not able to control.  Most you are able to control.   And never in life should you place the responsibility and fault on someone/thing else that you can control.  It's not respectful, responsible, or wise, nor will you better yourself.

Not everyone agrees.  And that's the choice. 

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Amazing!!!   but somehow I don't think that'll be at the top of my parents list, so it probably wont stick.

Realisitcally, it could be so many things, and not all my favorite... though I probably wont be able to argue with any of them.

   

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Overcoming interfaith relationships?  I just don't understand interfaith relationships, personally.  Even if not practicing your family's religion your background in on your religion.  Your outlook, personal thoughts, manners, your classiness, and your thoughts on your future: marriage, children, wedding, possibly burials, etc... pretty much everything that makes up who you are.  I think if you can make it, good for you; it takes an amazing amount of compromising.  But I haven't known of one couple that has.     How can two totally different people make it work if they're thoughts, how they treat others, expect to be treated, how they want their future to unfold, how they want their houses and children run, how they think are completely opposite?   I found the relationships unseemingly hard and honestly couldn't find myself to change entirely to make it work, maybe, with someone.  And I got to the point I was fed up with it.  And personally... I quite enjoyed it when I discovered men with the same faith as mine.  Even within it, there were difficulties, but I could see their point, where as the others I couldn't understand half of what they thought and why they would/could think so.  And my thought was, and still is, if my thoughts of marriage and a platonic marriage are differenet than yours, I want children you don't, I want to raise my children differently than you... how are we going to make this work??   My children will go to church, obey me, respect me and others, have and use their manners, will have morals and act like it, etc. and if you can't agree and at least support this, I can not have a happy marriage, a loving relationship because you don't care about let alone respect me, and my children will grow to become brats to say the least if not in serious trouble at some point. And I refuse to have a life and a relationship/marriage like that.   All at any point in life might happen, but I will not encourage or give the environment in which it can grow, or thrive upon.     With all that, when I gave up having to deal with it... I found the one in which everything works... because we have the same thoughts, ideals, and respect each other so much; because our lives have the same foundation.  All of which, I am most grateful for.

(I think most should leave their relationship and find a same faith one and see if they're better.)  Usually what I hear.)

PS... My sister is in an interfaith relationship.  Nothing aligns between them and I personally see them splitting up later or divorcing.  I personally think they should end it now as opposed to later... it makes it that much harder.

   

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