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Thursday, June 29, 2006
 

I Can Never Go Home

My mom has been so crabby and snippy every time I talk to her lately!!!  I think it may have to do with her selling her house.................

My mom just sold the house I grew up in as a child.  She is a widow and is having a hard time keeping up with a big house.  It was on the market for a few months and she got a great offer and decided to take it.  She's all moved out and the new people are moved in.

It's weird to think of other people living in my house.  My parents bought the house when I was 3 months old, so that means that my mom lived there for 35 years!  That's  completely unheard of these days in our nomadic culture.

 I will never go back into my childhood home..........ever.  I had no idea that the last time I was there, was the last time I'd be in it.  I keep thinking of all of the memories for me that are contained within the walls of that house:

birthday parties, Christmases, baseball games in the backyard, sleep overs, sibling fights, homework, catching lightning bugs, learning to ride a bike, roller skating in the garage while listening to music on my 8 track radio!, family reunions, backyard barbecues, telling my parents that we were pregnant, finding out that my dad was dying, seeing my dad die, watching my children play with my old toys, watching my mom become a grandmother, etc. 

Even though it's kind of  sad  to think that my "home base" no longer exists, I can't even imagine what it must be like for my mom.  She was basically a kid herself when she moved into that house.  It was where she learned how to be a mom and manage a household.  It was where she became a grown-up, where she raised her "chicks" and pushed them out of the nest.  It was also the place where she nursed her ailing husband and observed his slow demise as cancer consumed him.  It's the house she returned to- empty- after my dad passed away at the hospice center.

I just can't imagine what she must be going through.  This is a huge change for her.  I guess it may explain why she's been so snippy when we talk.

I guess I'll just have to deal with it until she gets settled again.  Oh, well.


 Posted 6/29/2006 2:24 PM - 13 comments

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Do you have dreams about it? After my dad died and I went away to college, my mom sold the house that she and my dad built before I was born.  I still have dreams about trying to clean my room out before new people move in.  It's hard. 
Posted 6/29/2006 2:33 PM by SaltyFrog Xanga True Member - reply

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Wow. :(

Hope she gets settled soon.

Posted 6/29/2006 3:40 PM by Anothermadhousewife - reply

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Change can be so hard.  Hope she feels more "in place" soon.
Posted 6/29/2006 4:21 PM by Mom_with_a_Chainsaw - reply

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I'm sure its hard for you as much as for your mom.  Its good that you are seeing things from your mother's perspective!

Posted 6/29/2006 7:47 PM by beyoncnay - reply

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I struggle with the finality of never being able to go back too....

I feel for you.  I once "went back" and visited the home where I grew up 20 years before....it wasn't the same.  You can't go back.  New people were living there and I realized that the structure itself was really not all that important to me.  It was the memories attached to that structure.  And my dear, those memories you carry with you in your mind and your heart forever.  No one can take that away from you.

And the person who made that house a home and gave it LIFE is still with you.  She's just a little moody these days.   Start making new memories with her in her new space!!

Great post!  And relevant to me right now too...

~Ann~ 

Posted 6/29/2006 9:37 PM by wickedarling Xanga Premium Member - reply

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I'm going through that a little myself with some things in life and not being able to go back to my confort zone of more than half my life.  Moving on is the key.  I agree with wickedarling and definitely recommend starting to make new memories with your mom!

JohnnySeattle

Posted 6/29/2006 10:29 PM by JohnnySeattle - reply

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does seem we leave a part of ourselves everywhere we go...
Posted 7/1/2006 12:43 AM by Leonidas Xanga True Member Xanga Lifetime Member - reply

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Posted 7/2/2006 7:24 AM by paoguy118 Xanga True Member - reply

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change and moves are really hard for most people. we moved all the time, but my mom sold her house when I was in college and movedto another state, talk about being displaced.
Posted 7/2/2006 11:29 PM by momofjenmatt1@momaroo Xanga True Member Xanga Lifetime Member - reply

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RYC: no, problem just say no ha ha.
Posted 7/4/2006 11:08 PM by momofjenmatt1@momaroo Xanga True Member Xanga Lifetime Member - reply

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RYC, not crushin here, another person in a teenage way...  TTYL.
Posted 7/5/2006 9:19 AM by JohnnySeattle - reply

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I know the feeling of not being able to go home.  My parents moved a few years back, and my childhood home has been remodeled, relandscaped, not the same place.  It was even hard for me when my grandparents sold their house and moved to a condo.

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RYC: whats she going to do ground me? ha ha.
Posted 7/5/2006 9:11 PM by momofjenmatt1@momaroo Xanga True Member Xanga Lifetime Member - reply


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