It all depends on one's worldview, and especially their view on God.

If we were created to be in a right relationship with God and others, as Adam was to the Lord and to Eve, and if the Fall of mankind was a true event, then the starting point for all people is a basis of broken relationships. Rebellion against a holy God ruined the relationship Adam, and consequently all people through him, had with the Creator. As fallen and selfish beings with no foundation for the perfect relationship, we cannot hope to relate to other fallen selfish beings in which we were originally intended. That's what Jesus came for; to reconcile us back, most importantly, to Him, but also to each other.

I'd say that's the main reason for all of the divorces--broken people result in broken covenants. As for second- and third-marriages failing even more than first-marriages, that's because after someone breaks a covenant once, it's easier to do so on subsequent occasions.


But if there is no God, and humans are functioning correctly (whatever "correctly" may be--there can be no standard if there is no God), then I would probably agree with you. Heck, I might even agree with Freud. Luckily, I have more to hope in than myself.

Happy Post-Valentines Day. :)

Oh, I almost forgot--I also wouldn't negate the influence of an Enemy that despises true, happy relationships between beings who bear the stamp of the One he is at war against.

And I agree that men, if not all people, need time alone. We need a little time to ourselves. We need to go on adventures. But I don't think it's healthy to be alone all or most of our lives.

My thoughts: broken cars get dumped together into junkyards.  Not able to function how they were intended to, they must rust in isolation or else in commiseration with other junked cars. 

I just analogously called people cars.  Cars are machines; people are machines, to the humanist.  I wouldn't go so far in my analogy to say that people are machines, just to make myself clear.

I think Justin stated it pretty well; of course, all that isn't an excuse, merely an explanation for why people do what they do. If, inconceivable as it may seem, people were to actually stay committed to one person their whole life, and NOT indulge their sexual urges at a whore house or elsewhere outside their marriage, then I can assure you humans would be happier than they are now. The problem is, many people misunderstand what happiness, and love for that matter, actually is. So often they think that physical pleasure equals ultimate happiness, and so trade real happiness for instant gratification.

And if you think that the people who tend to be happy are single then obviously you don't know very many married people. No one ever said relationships are easy, but if people would put the work necessary into their relationship then in the long run they would be happier. Of course the divorce rate is higher among people married two or three times; they gave up on their first marriage, so why shouldn't they again?

C.S. Lewis said all of this far better than perhaps anyone else has or ever will, so if you want the truth try reading his books. Of course, one who doesn't want the truth, and instead wants only to justify himself, will never find truth.