i think existence would be pretty pathetic if love is not worth it...after all got didn't make us to be alone...but yea...i don't know...i haven't found anyone who makes it worth it yet..so i guess i'm not so qualified to answer

Yes it is worth it. At the end of the day, if one can't see past the petty and trivial things that cause arguments you describe, there's something they need to change. Hunter and I fight about stupid things all the time but we get over them because human beings are more important than selfish arguments and getting your way. I drive him crazy with my quirks and he drives me crazy with his, but I love him and that's bigger than the little things that cause us to fight. It is worth it because I have a best friend who makes me happy more than not.

Is Love Worth It?  Its the essence of Life, its what we were created for.  Inside everyone of us is a need to love and be love by someone. I am not sure if you are talking about is getting in a realationship with a girl is worth it or not. But really love is God's heart. "Love is unselfishly choosing for the highest good of another." If you love someone (and I don't mean just your girlfriend of wife) it might not be easy, but its always worth it!

I dont think its worth it if the two dont have the same heart.  If one doesn't have a heart that Christ wants us to have and the other does, then the relationship will hurt both of them.  But when it comes to having a relationship, there's bound to be some fighting or disagreement between the two.  I have never had a relationship in my life cause everyone has said no but I know what I truely look for in someone.  I think its something that every Christian person looks for in the opposite.  But hey Claude, I think you should do what God wants you to do.  Just remember what we talked about at the Uprising!  Peace bro'!!

Love is what God is all about, community. We are called to love. Now as far as relationships go, each person has to answer this question for themselves, but to me love is worth it. There will always be highs and lows in relationships, however, if you have a humble and teachable heart while seeking the Lord these things you described can be easily worked out.

Marriage is not for everyone. I think it is a lie that "God has one person in this whole world that is matched up just for us." ...I don't think so. Having this thought can make one wonder "I must not have gotten 'the one'."

The thing that causes most relationships to hit the rocky shore is when one or both individuals shift the spotlight off themselves and look to their spouse as the cause of the problem...once again, this is a humility, pride, arrogance, etc issue that needs to be dealt with.

Love is a journey that is as boundless as the Creator Himself...have fun!

Cool post...when you heading back to k-town?

Oh, and a really good book on marriage that I highly recommend is "Fit to be Tied" by Bill and Lynne Hybels. They go through their story and offer great insights for singles, daters, engaged, and married.

I don't think it's worth it...bah!!! Had you, Claude. What do you think I'm going to say--I'm a newlywed, man.

Dr Nambot speaking:

This is a very good question, and it is important to find an adequate answer. For that purpuse, let's go back to the source:

 "Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude...." 1Cor 13:4

According to that scripture, what you decribe is the exact opposit of love. But still you are right when love comes between two persons, all those issues are to happen. Why is that? Once again our sinful nature can't help messing up our lives.

Well all I'm saying is that yes it is like the devil is trying so hard to destroy any relationship. And I say he would not try that hard if there was not something of value behind love relationship, there is a power in love that can blow him away in the blink of an eye. So yea, it's gotta be worth it.

And I wonder what Jesus would have done if He would have come to that point where the more love he was loving people, the more they were angry and fighting.... oh wait isn't it where he ended? when after loving people they nailed him on a cross! I think He knew it was worth it. But the real question is what will be the real price of the love that anybody dream of? Again our best example, it cost Jesus He's life.

My conclusion, yes it is worth it, but it's gonna cost you your life.

"...It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstances." 1Cor 13:5-7

This is the love I'm fighting for...

Love is an amazing thing! If you see love unselfishly and through God's eyes then a life of love is totally worth it. The problem is, we are selfish by nature so it's easy for us to get hung up on these little irritations or stupid things. When the focus is on the petty, then, no, relationships/ love/etc. doesn't seem worth it.

We will never be satisfied in a relationship as long as we're unwilling to give unconditionally of ourselves. Marshal and I disagree a lot about things. We are two totally different people! I have expectations sometimes that aren't realistic and it's easier to blame him than to take a good look at myself. However, love is God's nature and it required constant self-examination.

I agree with Matt: Love will cost you your life. If all of you hasn't been given over to a sacrificial kind of love, then it's not truly God's kind of love. Love definitely comes with a price.


Some tips from a married person:

1-Men (no offense) may never notice your new haircut, nail polish, clean house, etc. If you accept that early on and give up this whole HINTING thing you'll be waaaaayyyy better off and it will save you a lot of arguments. :D How we act and look should not be only to please them. It should be motivated by our desire to please God and point our spouse to Him. Is it truly love if we demand reward? If something really hurts you give it to God and trust him to work on your spouse/friend/ etc. (you get the picture)

2-Something men and women alike will notice is when you compliment them in public and let them be themselves. Don't ever go into a relationship thinking you're going to change someone....won't happen! Appreciate him for who he/she is, not what he/she does for you. It's not about us anyway. Right?

3- I don't believe that there is such a thing as "the one and only". I will echo Marshal in this. I really believe that this misconception really gets people off focus. The bible says that God knew you before you were in your mother's womb. How awesome is that! The creator of the universe KNOWS you. Until we give up this "the one" mindset and turn our eyes solely to God we could miss the very thing that we've been praying and waiting for. Stop waiting for "the one" to come,and just be who God has created you to be. God can handle the rest. If you know the Father, you will know His voice and know when he's opening a door for you.

4-Being in a relationship doesn't determine your worth. You are worth being loved because God loves you. Get that in your head (I'm just now getting this myself) and you will find there's more to you than you ever thought. Having someone will NEVER complete you! God didn't create Eve to complete Adam, he created her to compliment him. THAT...my friend is the true purpose of relationships (friendship, dating, engaged, married, family, etc.).


In conclusion, a phrase that makes no sense, yet I feel motivate to take the time to type:

"DON'T SWEAT THE PETTY AND DON'T PET THE SWEATY!!"

(In evil world dominating cat's voice) That is all....

Hey man, I may be new to it, but it definitely has been worth it up until now. And I can't imagine it ever being not worth it. Let me know how things are going. There is so much I wanna tell you.