| | these are just thoughts and don't express my desire to get into a relationship... so recently for a while now, i've been thinking about relationships - a lot. maybe because i am being approached more and more often about my own status... some people just curious, some concerned. i find it funny... for the record, i am single and have never been in an exclusive relationship or even dated. and mostly it's been by personal choice to stay single. of course, i hope to enjoy a family of my own some day, but in the meantime, i'm fine with where i am... as a singling (if that is a word), i've gotten to observe so many kinds of relationships - some i'd like to have, and some i hope i NEVER encounter. from my parents, who divorced after like 9 yrs of marriage, to cousins, who dated their high school sweethearts solidly for 10+ yrs then married them, to friends, who spent several years in abusive relationships, to my sister, who married after a 3-4 month courtship, to friends/people and the media, who encourage casual dating, constantly in a state of transition from person to person... when i see all these sorts of relationships, i try to envision my life beyond singleness. but it is pretty difficult... so then i question myself about how ready i am. i'm sure some would say i am, and certainly some would say i'm not. so i'm confused. =P i realize that people have different views about relationships, and i'm okay with that. but it does make me wonder: how do you know if you're ready for one of your own? what makes you ready? let me reiterate that i'm NOT looking to jump into anything right now, just curious about other views... any thoughts? |
