theres this guy. well he's actually my ex boyfriend. we went out for 3
1/2 months. i was torn when he broke up with me 3 weeks ago & i
still am. i asked for the reason he broke up with me & he said i
have drama issues. i've been trying to talk to him but he either blows
me off or comes up with something to make me seem like the bad person.
like saying well i hate him & he doesn't know why i'm talking to
him. then i try to explain i don't hate him & i really do care
about him he just blows me off. i txt him once in a while like once a
week or so, just a hey or something simple. i try calling him but when
i do he lets the voicemail pickup then when a friend goes & asks him
why i didn't get a call he makes up the excuse he was busy or he didn't
have service. everything was good until he went to court on the monday
before the breakup [[his parents are split]] and then tuesday he seemed
a little off then wed. he was fine until the end of the day then idk
what happened. then later that night he called to say its over. anyy
suggestions on how to get him to talk to me or any ideas??
It seems to me that some of this commotion might be caused by his parents divorce. But I could be entirely wrong. He might be really upset about his parents divorce and doesn't want to be social with anybody. He might just be shutting himself away from the world and taking his emotions out on the simplest things...like you. But you need to make it clear to him that you will be there for him no matter what (only if your willing). Just make sure he gets that message and until he's ready to talk, you'll be there. Even if it takes two months, you need to be there. He's going through a harsh time with his parents divorce. Tell him that if there is anything you can do for him to help him that you will. Don't keep hassling him and maybe he'll come to you. I know it's really hard to give up someone that your really, really close to..but you need to do what's best for him right now. What's best is to stay away until he's ready to talk. These are just assumptions so, therefore, I'm not entirely sure.
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There's a guy who i've liked since like the end/middle of last
year,(i'll call him AC) and really have just had a "flirtatious
friend-like" relationship with him. Things got big between the two of
us a little bit ago when we started talking ALL the time about everything
and that sort of stuff. And then when I started to talk to another guy
i lost all interest in AC.... now, only like 2 of my friends knew about
me and AC & the rest don't even know anything was going on..just a
few days ago, my friends were talking about who they could see me with
& the very first thing one of them thought of.. was of course..AC.
they said they were gonna tell him that they thought we would make a
great couple...but they wouldnt tell him i liked him or anything
because now i dont. soo. he ended up messaging my friend back saying
that he didnt know if he really liked me. then he messaged her back
again and said that it'd depend on how far i would go and if all i
wanted was kissing.. then he deff. wouldnt go out with me. now. i have
absolutely no interest in him, and i dont know what to do. i have study
hall with him and theres only one other person in the study hall other
than me and him. in that class we get into a lot of different topics
and im scared this one might come up. i obv. wouldnt go too far.. or go
out of my comfort zone & whatnot. i dont know how to explain to him
that it was their ideas & that i dont really like him any more than
a friend... without hurting his feelings or anything like that. things
are going to be pretty awkward now if this all comes out into the open
between us two & i kind of dont want to talk to him anymore because
he sounds like such a big jack ass for what he said.. i need some of
your advice
Okay, well first of all, there is no way you can avoid the situation because your eventually going to have to face the fact of it. You need to talk to AC and put yourself out there with this situation if you don't want to deal with it. The more you wait it out, the longer your going to have to deal with this problem. The faster you talk, the faster it's over with. It's easier said than done but you need to. All you have to do is simply tell AC that you just like him as a good friend and you show know more interest than that. If he can't accept that, it's his problem so you don't need to worry about it. Don't worry about the outcome of this situation or the fact that you don't want to talk to him. Just tell AC in person, not on the phone, as soon as possible. Because the sooner you tell him, the sooner his feelings won't get hurt. Your risking his feelings in this by not telling him how you feel. Don't think of just what you want. Step up on the plate and tell him because it's better to let him know than keep him wondering for the rest of his life.
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okay, so theres this guy that i went out for last year for about
six or seven months andd i loved him, and i still do. but the problem
is my mom doesnt like him. i can't stop thinking about him, but i just
found out that he may have cheated on me while we were going out. I'm
not sure if its true or not though, but if i bring it up with him then
he will probably get mad. I just want another chance to be with him
though, and forget everything that has happened. I seem to like him
more now than what I did when we went out and its crazy....
In this situation, I wouldn't worry about what your mom thinks. I know that it sounds kind of harsh, but it's true. But as long as she lets you go out with him, then I wouldn't worry. Even if it might make him mad, I would talk to him if I were you because you need to know. Knowing is more important than making him upset for a little bit. Ask him if he really cheated on you or not. It seems to me like you don't mind if he did or not because it seems that your love for him is way more important. After talking to him about this part, tell him how you really feel. Even if it kills you to tell him, he needs to know how you truly feel. Tell him that your love for him is stronger than last year. You'll find out he feels if he'll tell you. Give him some time to think it through if he's willing. Like I said, you need to talk to him because the best way to get through this is communication. If he doesn't return your feelings, your going to have to eventually let it go..even if it's really, really, really hard. You should definitely go for him because he might still have feelings for you. You don't know unless you try...
