| Do you think it is OK to be friends with ex girlfriends or boyfriends? Why or why not?
Sure. I don't see why not. If you were friends in the first place and there was actual substance to that relationship then there should be a basis for that relationship to continue. Being boyfriend and girlfriend is just a deeper phase of the friendship relationship. Of course if the friendship was only a flimsy guise to get into the other person's pants then it will be very hard to remain friends. Also there needs to be a certain level of maturity on the part of both parties, in which they have to be open and honest enough to realize that erotic love is no longer a part of their shared lives but that phillial love can still have a place. Think about it; some of those relationships last for years - you
dedicated years of your life to this other person. You really want to
throw all of that away? Many people would say that after all that time there is definite disappointment on the part of one or the other and bitterness toward the one or something of the sort. Well that's where the maturity comes in; that one should put aside those feelings and conserve the friendship. This cannot be so in all cases and the particular circumstances will clue you in. And probably, though sadly, overruling all of this is the feelings of the new boyfriend or girlfriend. Most of the time the newcomer is insecure and would force the person to terminate the friendship with his or her ex with the consecuence for not doing so being the termination of their own newly formed relationship. As long as the original relationship was built on honesty and respect and it was finalized on good terms from both sides and the new relationship is clearly laid out as a friendship, then there is really no reason that one cannot be a friend to one's ex.
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| How much do you tip at restaurants or bars?
I would say about 15%; but I don't just give it away freely. If the service sucks ass then they get a dollar in nickels, dimes and pennies.
I actually had a waitress chase after me once from a restaurant demanding I give her a larger tip because it didn't meet her minimum standard. As I was talking to her the manager passed by and she tried to get him involved in the discussion on her side and I told him flat out that she was a terrible waitress: out of a group of four people she had gotten two of the dishes wrong, she was lazy about bringing things such as garlic bread, drink refills, and even a missing fork. Her attitude the entire evening was also very much detestable. And the nerve that she had of chasing me through the restaurant asking for an undeservedly larger tip was beyond me! Of course I said all of this in a loud voice so that other customers would hear and she would be embarrassed. I told the manager that I had half a mind to take back the tip the group had left her in the first place because of her shenanigans. He apologized profusely while turning a bright shade of red. He forced her to take the night off and mentioned that he would have to think carefully about her suitability to work there. Take that!I just answered this Featured Question, you can answer it too! |
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| Did I just hear that? So I was at my job and I hear an argument out in the hallway. As curious as I am to get up and look I can't really leave my job unattended at the moment, so I had to content myself with simply listening to the steadily growing ruckus that's taking place just outside my door. It must have been going on for a while in another room before finally spilling out into the hallway.
It was obvious that there were a couple of people ganging up on one person (verbally, of course) and the apparent reason was because her boobs were too big! Have you ever heard of such a thing? Well I'll tell you the few lines I did hear:
Female assaulter: That's all you are: just a couple of huge breasts walking around. All your personality comes
them.
Big Breasted Lady: Well at least I have some breasts that I can flaunt. Not like some other women that look like men.
Male assaulter: Yeah, but that's all you have, just a massive rack! Maybe if you tried filling your jugs with brains then people might actually like you better.
At this point the people involved had moved too far down the hallway for me to hear any more. I was slightly astounded when I heard this, although I've come to expect such outbursts of this and other (worse) kinds. But to yell at someone for having an expansive chest? Haha, I just had to laugh. Regardless whether they were right or wrong, or be it nice or horrible of them, of all the things that could have been said in that conversation, they picked the most superficial thing to criticize and used it as a representation of this woman's character. People can be very silly sometimes.
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| Sinks? What are those? Recently I've been amazed by a trend I'm noticing in the bathroom. It's as if men are fleeing the bathroom for their lives. And to what end? It reminds me of a Boston Legal episode I saw a couple of years ago in which Alan Shore (played by James Spader) is tinkling in the bathroom when he is suddenly interrupted by Shirley Schmidt (Candice Bergen) - yes, she bursts into the men's room looking for him. He finishes his task and puts his tool away then offers his hand to Shirley in a greeting. Needless to say she refuses to take his hand to which he responds by saying "I assure you that I have an exceptionally clean penis."
Is that possible? And what does that mean? Regardless of how well you scrub I think you still need to wash your hands before leaving the bathroom. Or am I out of synch with the times? I've seen men hightail it out of the bathroom to do what? I've seen one to and rummage through some books on a shelf at a Barnes and Noble. I've seen another leave the stall only to go sit at his table in a McDonald's and start shoving fries down his throat with those same hands that he did NOT wash.
I mean are these guys allergic to water and soap? Maybe all that crazy E.Coli, Strep and Salmonella outbreaks that you hear on TV aren't all due to contaminated spinach or rat-tainted tacos. I hope the ladies are doing a better job at washing up. Sometimes I wish bathrooms were equipped with sensors that detected people that haven't washed their hands and lit up with bells, whistles, flashing lights and neon arrows pointing at the people that haven't done so. Sad how some folks need to be shamed into being clean.
People, just wash your hands. A little OCD? Maybe. Grossed out? Definitely.
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| Do you think people are inherently good or bad?
This might very well be the best Featured Question I've seen thus far.
I think people are inherently egocentric. This doesn't fall in either of the above offered categories. Egocentricity/Selfishness is not a 'good' or 'bad' quality. It is actually a very natural mechanism built in for the survival of the human species. It allows us to look after Number One first and foremost. It is a very base mechanism.
With the development of society we have learned to be considerate of others. We have been trained to curb many of the actions that come naturally to us in order to think of others first. People that are considerate and polite to others are considered 'Good' people while those of us that have retained a strong egocentric are thought to be 'bad' people or unpleasant; this is what society has taught us.
Most adults turn out to be the people they were raised to be. The Nurture they receive as children stays with them and shapes their adult lives. Children that are taught to say 'excuse me' and 'thank you' become adults that are thought to be considerate, polite and with good manners. Children that are taught to 'respect only when respected' or to 'hit back when someone hits you' tend to grow up to be adults react agressively and selfishly. Society considers the former to be good and the latter to be bad. I would like to note that the opposite is also true: there are children whos Nature is so strong that they eventually develop their character according to it regardless of whatever upbringing they experienced.
One way to truly find out is to raise a child in isolation then deposit that child in social settings once he or she has matured and observe the reactions. With no previous social conditioning the reactions obtained should be the most natural one. With the child acting on his or her inherent instincts we should be able to determine if THAT PARTICULAR CHILD is 'good' or 'bad'. Generalizations could later be made based on extensive research. This would never fly today because doing such a thing would be considered negligent, cruel and abusive. It should also be noted that the child's behavior will be judged by a society which has it's own set of guidelines which denote what is 'good' behavior and what is 'bad' behavior.
In the end we may never find out the answer but I sure do hope there are more 'good' folks around for our sake.
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