| Relationships?
As a teenager, having relationships was no big issue... I mean isn't it normal to date someone? I like him, he likes me so why not? We always try to find Mr. perfect or in other words... "the right guy" and we try to find that person way too soon. No matter how mature we think we are right now, in a few years later, most likely we'd be thinking back, laughing and saying "wow.. I was soo stupid back then." Or regret on our past relationships. Sure you think "Experiences" are good to have or think that you won't know how to handle relationship with your perfect guy/girl if you don't build up on your experiences right now, but you got to think of the emotional baggage and suffering that you might face in the end (of the relationship). You've also got to realize you might hurt the other person too. I look around and see so many people from like elementary school kids to highschool people writing or saying things like I love you boo, you're the love of my life, can't live without you and etc.. etc. But I guarantee you, those relationships won't last. Girls especially, no matter how you try to be different from the rest, you'd want your man to do romantic things for you to satisfy your emotional needs. Sure guys will try doing the romantic things in the beginning to get you, but don't ever be fooled by their act. They know girls fall easily for that stuff... and when girls fall for them and the relationship seems to be boring because your man stopped being mr.romantic, then girls fall into their insecurity stage that leads to jealousy, assumption and etc. Then guys say, "why do you expect so much from me, don't you know that I love you by now?" This vicious cycle will continue if you don't take relationships seriously. Or most likely you'll depend on your physical satisfaction in relationships rather than building up on your love. When you think you've had enough of this person, then you'll break up and leave off to next guy or girl. Just because you like someone it does not mean you should go out with that person. What comes out of having relationships can be the most blessing gift from God, but you've got to realize... along comes the pain and suffering. If you feel no pain after your break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, that means you've never truely loved that person. But wasn't that the goal you were trying to get at from the start? To share and build on the love? No matter how many times you said I love you to him or her, or kissed and made love to eachother, it was just a temporary feeling or a lust that was in need to be satisfied. So don't ever think getting into relationships can make your life much better than how it is right now. Because it'll never be the way you want it to be and you'll be depending on that person more than you think. So when do you know you're ready? When you're content with your singleness.
I think there's a purpose behind everything. From what I believe, I think dating is a process to find the person that I can spend my life with. Right now, I don't think I'm ready to have a true relationship and experience what real love is. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying people at my age or younger should never date or get into a relationship with another. All I'm trying to say is, we should strive to have more healthy relationships, be content with our single life and be smart. Physical relationships die sooner than you think but relationships with a foundation of love lasts for a very long time.. perhaps, forever.
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