It has occurred to me recently that there must be something wrong with me. "Why?" you ask. (Maybe you didn't ask why, but it ought not surprise you to know that I'm going to tell you why anyway.) I have had plans to go and hang out with people (3 different sets of people) the last 3 weekends in a row. Each time, I've been cancelled on.
For a woman who struggles with wanting people to like her, this is especially disheartening. I'd do something about it if I knew what to do... and if I wasn't afraid that doing something about it would further alienate me.
So tell me. What is it? Do I smell? Am I annoying beyond tolerance? Am I anti-social? I just don't get it! I like to think that I am a nice person, that I am fun to be with... but if that's the case then why am I having such a hard time finding friends lately? I still have several old friends, but they're often busy with family, work and new friends that they see more often.
Perhaps I'm just complaining... but I really don't think so. I'm expressing genuine discouragement here. I'm lonely. I'll admit it. I've never been one to have plans every weekend. My sister was always that girl, not I. And I'm fine with that, really I am. But when weekend after weekend passes and I sit at home reading or watching TV or blogging about how pathetic my life is, I start to wonder what I could do differently. Is there anything that I could do differently?
I get the impression that I am a forgettable person. I usually don't demand attention, and the spotlight is usurped by those less inhibited than I. That's okay. But combine that forgetability with the fear that I'll be annoying someone if I call them to hang out and it becomes rather debilitating. Lethal, in fact... at least when it comes to a social life.
Part of the problem is probably that I am a night student at a commuter college and most of my friends don't see me anymore because I'm only at school one night a week and I live on "the other side of the world." It might help if there were more single women in my SS class at church... as it is, I'm one of 2 single, female regular attenders... and the other girl is dating someone.
In case you couldn't tell, I'm feeling kinda sorry for myself at the moment. I'll get over it soon, lol, at least I hope I will. I hate feeling like a pathetic loser. Anywho, I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend. Perhaps I'll talk to you sooner rather than later.
God bless and I love you.
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