I Try to Remember
1.) Everybody doesn't have to Love me
Not everybody has to love me or evn like me. I don't necessarily like everybody I kno, so why shood evrybody else like me? I enjoy being liked n being loved, but if sumbody doesn't like me, I will still be okay n still feel like I am an okey person. I cannot make sumbody like me, any more than sum1 cn get me to lyk them. I dun need approval all tha tym. If sum1 does not approve of me, I will still be okay.
2.) It is Okay to make Mistakes
Making mistakes is sumting we all do, n i am still a fine n worthwhile person wen i mke dem. Der is no reason for me to get upset wen i make a mistake. I am trying, and if i make a mstake, i am going to continue trying. I cn handle mking a mstake. It is okay for others to make mistakes, too. I will accept mistakes in myself n also mstkes dat otherrs mke.
3.) Other People are okay and i am okay
Ppl hu do tins i dun lyk r not necessarily bad ppl. Dey shood not necessarily b punished juz bcoz i dun lyk what they do or did. There is no reason why other ppl shood b the way i want them to e, and der is no reason why i shood be the way sumbody else wnts me to be. Ppl will b watever dey wnt to be. I cannot control other ppl or change them. They r hu dey r; we all deserve basic respect.
4.) I don't have to control things
I wil survive if things are diffrent dan wat i wnt dem to be. I cn accept things the way dey r, accept ppl tha way dey r, and accept myself tha way i am. There is no reason to get upset if i can't change things to fit my ideaof how dey ought to be. Der is no reason why i shood hav to lyk evrything. Evn if i dun lyk it, i can live with it.
5.) I can handle it wen things go wrong
I dun need to watch out for things to go wrong. Things usually go juz fine, n wen dey don't, i can hanlde it. I dun nid to waste my energy worrying. The sky won't fall in; things will b okay.
LOVE LESSONS
One day, u're in love. U're thinkin', Yeah, diz iz best thing that's evr hppned to me. It'z so easy!!! And then u get dumped. Wel its a common scenario--getting dumped out of the blue. And if it happens to u, it leave u wondering, What did i do wrong? Well, nothing, really. U juz got so excited to get on the rollercoaster of love dat u forgot to pull down the safety harness, n now ur stuck learning a few things tha hard way. Bt if u rmember these lessons for the nxt time u fall in love, the ride wil bb juz as much fun--only much safer!
You can control only ur actions--no one else's. The important ting to realize about relationship is they involve two ppl. Sounds obvious, ryt? But wen u're all crazy over sum1 , itz easy to forget. That's wen u get blinsided. U won't see it coming....it juz will! U hav no control ovr wat tha other person is thinkin'. All u do is keep ur ears open to try to be sure he/she wnts to be wit uas much as u wnt to b wit him/her. And if he'she doesnt? Say, "Sayonara Subaru!" so u can go find the smarty hu does.
Think of love--and the pain of breaking up--as exercise for ur heart. The pain is tough, true. But it only means ur heart is getting stronger.
Stole this from rinna's Xangerz.. hehehe..
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