I have this friend that is a girl. We met after I came out and all that jazz. She was aware of my status, but was supportive and okay with calling me what I requested, etc etc etc. But lately... I think she broadcasts my status too much. This is the scenario.

She's at camp. She likes boys. I was texting her the other night.
But one of the boys she was hanging around with asked her "hey, who is this guy you're talking too" and apparently she told all.

So today he stole her phone at the airport and decided to call me, saying he was her. Like, losing signal in the airport and continually calling me back type of "out of the blue" calling until his flight came. Aside from being greatly offended that he was saying my friend was a big slut, he was making jabs at my being FTM, ( "Oh, If you had a dick I would totally suck it" "Today I met some boys that aren't actually girls") and sexually propositioning me for s& giggles ("Are you horny right now?" "I want to put my put my fingers up your ***" ). You get how the picture could be much vulgar than what I write here.

She got her phone back and apologized profusely, and I forgive her. I know she doesn't have a problem with me, but I think she doesn't really understand that not everyone is okay with trans people. It's really bothering me, because I keep imagining:

"Hey, what if I were hanging out with her in the park. Some guy comes up and flirts with her, checks with her that I'm not a "threat", and she tells him." What could happen? Like, how lucky am I that I actually wasn't there today, and this guy had to go through the phone to mess with me? How bad is it that this guy went through the trouble of taking her phone to mess with me? What about/what if all these possible real life situations?

Yea, I need to talk to her about not giving out information like that to cute guys. Main problem harassing my brain is facing harassment again because I'm moving on campus at the end of August. I don't get out much in the small village I live in now, but a few years ago it got out and it got pretty bad.

Aughhh, thoughts?
-HNJ

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