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Tuesday, May 13, 2008

  • The Place of Women?

    "My position as a daughter is to be feminine and content with
    whatever my father does, and in being feminine, I can help my
    father in his masculinity and can give him confidence by being
    confident in whatever he says or does." - Rebekah
    , So Much More

    First reaction: What do you think?    This isn't talking about our heavenly father, but definitely Rebekah's earthly father.  The book's subtitle is The Remarkable Influence of Visionary Daughters on the Kingdom of God.  The book continues on to talk about not dating, not going to college (not even a Christian college), that a father hear's from the Lord for his daughters (they don't hear from the Lord, rather they listen to their dad) and that a woman should teach herself and, until she is married, should remain in the home she grew up in to help take care of the family.  A women's never supposed to pursue a career or leadership outside of raising her children and being fully devoted to her father and then her husband.

    A wonderful and amazing friend of mine grew up in a family with this perspective - in fact, her parents gave her this book for Christmas when she moved out to try to convict her about the teaching career she felt God was calling her to.  It was their hope that this book would show her how wrong her choice was to pursue what God had called her to (and he definitely has, she's going to make an amazing teacher and I can't wait to see God use her in student's lives - it'll be awesome to watch!).  Instead, she was supposed to follow her dad's direction and stay at home.

    I always have and always will struggle with perspectives like this.  I am the man who I am because of women in my life.  God has used women, almost more than men, to mentor and develop me.  Women are more prone to good conversations, gentle prodding in the right direction, and kind ways of giving advice.  They also tend to be the most empathetic, compassionate, and encouraging people in my life - like Ms. Bressler, my PE teacher and volleyball coach. 

    Anyways, to all you women out there who I have the incredible pleasure of knowing:  Please, please, please continue to pursue where the Lord's calling you, whether that's to teaching, business, the political world, or taking care of of your kids at home.  ALL of these are incredible, important, and noble callings.  God has gifted you and is developing you and you will change lives and no doubt change the world. 

    Pursue your heavenly Father and, in so doing, bring glory to Him.  He is your focus and your goal.  Your earthly father is a gift and to be honored, but not above the Lord.  He should not and ought not to stand in the way of pursuing the Lord - if he does, by all means, be faithful to the Lord and know that God will honor that. 

    Thank you for the incredible impact you've had in my life and thank you, in advance, for the incredible impact you will have in so many other's lives.

Monday, May 12, 2008

  • Enjoying Work?

    I would say the vast majority of jobs are comprised of clearly defined responsibilities, fulfilling those job responsibilities, and going home at the end of the day done with the list of responsibilities you've been given for the day.  It seems that this model of work is found nearly everywhere - McDonalds, Wal-mart, Starbucks...and perhaps most desk jobs?

    This is where I'm still wrestling with my own work.  If I'm okay simply with doing the tasks given me, then it means I don't ruffle any feathers or stir the water.  But, if I want to change things, do things differently, or do something new, it begins to stir the water.  The easy thing would be to simply show up at work at 8am, do my duties for the day, and leave at 5.  But the easy thing isn't fulfilling, exciting, or appealing. 

    And so, I continue to struggle.  I'm sure there are jobs out there where you're hired and encouraged to continue changing and growing things.  I don't think they're nearly as common as the other kind of job - where you show up, do your list of duties, and leave. 

    I also don't believe that it's only the upper echelon jobs that ought to have the freedom to develop, create, and change things.  I'm sure the argument is that experience and knowledge is what gives only the upper echelon and management the right to do these things...but, among other obvious responses to that ridiculous claim, is this: if people have been trained their entire careers to "just do as you're told," how in the world do we expect them to become creative and risk takers?  They're not and thus why the majority of corporations and companies continue to look adn function exactly the same from year to year.  Which, I believe, is also why companies that give employees the ability to create, develop, or change do well: AES (huge energy company, I'm reading Joy at Work by the co-founder right now), Google, Apple, etc.

    So all that say, I don't think I'm ever going to be okay settling for a "do as your told job" - I might be able to bear it for a short time, but I suspect that it will always drain me.
    Currently Watching
    Die Hard Collection (Die Hard / Die Hard 2 - Die Harder / Die Hard with a Vengeance / Bonus Disc)
    By Bruce Willis, Reginald VelJohnson, Bonnie Bedelia, Alexander Godunov, Paul Gleason
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Tuesday, May 06, 2008

  • What do You Think?: Gen Y & Work

    I discovered in my one-on-one with my boss on Monday, that I am the quintessential example of a "Gen Yer".  I was startled, not realizing there was a term for my generation.  Further, I didn't realize, if there was a generation that I was a part of, that there would be certain ideas that are already set.  (I think part of this comes from this nieve, weird idea that I'm in this weird, ambiguous void between Gen X and the Millenium generation.  Come to find out, there's a name for that void: Generation Y.

    Evidently my boss recently attended a leadership summit where they talked about "us".  The discussion focused on how do you get a generation that has been bread on multi-tasking and has enjoyed unparalleled opportunities to travel and experience a wide breadth of things to focus in work.  The idea was that Gen Y, specifically me, is all over the board.  We're the generation that's okay with talking on the phone, loading the dish washer, downloading a song from iTunes, and changing the current song on our iPod all at the same time.  It's the generation that struggled to figure out what they wanted to study in college because there were so many things they enjoyed doing or wanted to experience.  The question these leaders posed to one another was: How do you work with Gen Yers and how do you get them to take this seeming "all over the placeness" and focus it ?  My boss used the illustration of a satellite dish that takes all these waves it receives and reflects them to a single, focused point. 

    While listening to him, it completely made sense and I nodded my head in agreement.  Yes, that's me I love lots of different things.  Focusing on one thing is difficult, so the satellite dish could be a helpful mental image this next year for me to work on focusing.  However, the more I think about it, the more questions come to mind:

    1.  If my generation and I have grown up multi-tasking and pursing opportunities that interest us, why would we want to change this when they get into the working world? 

    2.  Why conform a new generation, bred in a new world and culture, into an old model of singular focused work?

    3.  If this generation is good at multi-tasking and pursuing things that they are interested in, why not develop and hone those skills so they can do the multiple tasks well?  It seems that if you take someone used to doing many things and try to focus them in on one thing, it's not long before they'll be bored with what they're doing.

    4.  If, indeed, this generation has the ability to do a variety of different tasks, sometimes simultaneously, is there not a great potential there to accomplish things in an organization never before possible because there wasn't a "position" for it?

    5.  If a work environment can be created that provided this variety of opportunities and the furthering of the individuals development in these and new areas, doesn't it seem like, since this is the way they have been raised, that their job satisfaction and enjoyment of their work would increase?

    I'm curious, if you've read this at all, what do you think?  Sure, there are times when all of us need to focus on the task at hand, but do the entirety of our jobs need to be focused?  Are you okay with this?  Or do you prefer variety in the tasks you're given? Do you prefer a job that allows you to touch on a variety of the things you enjoy, or a job that simply focuses on one thing you enjoy?  In that case, are we okay with spending 40+ hrs a week - 160+ hours a month - focused on just one aspect of the things we enjoy or are able to do?

    The more I've thought about it, the less okay I am with being "focused" like a satellite dish.  The more I think about it, the more I want the opportunity to use the breadth of experiences I've had: web development, cinematography, international travel/experience, discipling and developing others, etc.  Looking back on this year, this "all over the placeness" has allowed me to:

    *develop an all new, paperless, computer-based scheduling system for visits
    *deal with more campus visitors then ever before
    *provide a better, more reliable visit experience for families with fewer overall mistakes throughout the year
    *the smoothest run Scholarship Day ever (which also happened to be the largest day due to the recruiter's work)
    *the most diverse Visit Intern team in personality, interest, and social groups in a long time (if not ever)
    *update/develop new webpages for both undergraduate and graduate admissions
    *implement a "tracking" system for visit requests and student information
    *a budget that accomplished more with less money (while I'll be over this year, I'm hoping to be $5,000-$10,000 less over budget than last year)
    *fostered and developed a better give-and-take relationship with Division heads and faculty then ever before
    *invested in important relationship/networking opportunities with the Honor's Program, Leadership Scholars Program, Communications department, English department, and Pre-Med programs that continued to foster and further develop previous relationships
    *established and developed the most effect Ambassador recruitment and communication method to date (a program that still needs some major development work)
    *decreased overall man hours invested by student interns by increasing cross-team communication for cooperative working
    *and others...

    You see, this Generation Y has an incredible opportunity to accomplish things, a breadth of things, like never before.  We're more likely to have a wider grasp of different aspects involved because we're interested and exposed to a greater spectrum of experiences and knowledge.  I find the above is true for my friends and colleagues my age - they have incredible potential to accomplish amazing things. 

    So, I feel like the question becomes not "How do we focus Gen Y?", but rather "How do we develop Gen Y's abilities and generational tendencies to do even greater things than previously possible?"

    What do you think?  Agree?  Disagree?  See similar or different struggles in your own life? 

    QUOTES:
    "You don't have to be their buddy; in fact, don't be. They want you to be a boss, a leader, and most importantly, a mentor. But they'll only give you their all if they know that you truly care about them, and are committed to their personal and professional development. So "whys up" and go all in." - Eric Chester, "Getting to Know Gen Why", Business Week Online, Feb. 29, 2008

    "Organizations that fail to adapt will find it difficult to recruit and retain critical young talent. If we can better connect our workforce by building a sense of community and drawing out insights, we increase our organizations' ability to compete in a faster and increasingly competitive global economy. Are we up to the challenge? If so, we believe it is time for communication leaders to change their tactics and serve as a strategic force in the talent war, not just as messengers." - Leah Reynolds, et. al., "The Gen Y Imperative," Communication World, Mar/Apr 2008

    "'We are willing and not afraid to challenge the status quo," she says. "An environment where creativity and independent thinking are looked upon as a positive is appealing to people my age. We're very independent and tech savvy.'" - Katie Patterson, quoted in "Generation Y: They've Arrived at Work with a New Attitude," USA Today, 11/8/2005

    "They don't like to stay too long on any one assignment. This is a generation of multitaskers, and they can juggle e-mail on their BlackBerrys while talking on cellphones while trolling online.And they believe in their own self worth and value enough that they're not shy about trying to change the companies they work for." - Eileen Blass, same USA Today article as above
    Currently Listening
    Sleep Through The Static
    By Jack Johnson
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Wednesday, April 23, 2008

  • Keeping & Loosing Friends

    Anyone reading this knows that I'm worse than lousy at keeping in touch with friends.  If we're not physically standing or sitting across from each other and talking, I'm absolutely awful at touching base with you.  Truth is, even if I'm standing or sitting across from you, I often get distracted or have a hard time focusing on you.  You may mean the world to me, but in this area, I really haven't developed discipline in focusing on and loving people through attentive "thereness".  What I have come to find out is that this characterizes the reality of me and friendships...

    This whole train of thought came about as, over the last two days, I've mourned the loss of good friends to marriages.  With the exception of two (my brother and then a college roommate), every roommate I have ever had has gotten married (or is about to get married).  I love weddings, don't get me wrong - I will have been at least 13 of them come the end of July.  Weddings are a fantastic, amazing, wonderful time of celebration - there's no other celebration in our lives quite like it.  However, for those not getting married, no matter how very happy they are for the couple, it's also a time of mourning.  Mourning the loss of closeness in a friendship that is now rightfully focused on another person.  Mourning the place you once held in their life as they move into married life, new jobs, or new locales.  Every wedding I've been a part of - with perhaps the exception of 1 or 2 - has been followed by the loss of a friendship.  In realizing this over the last couple of days the Lord convicted me...

    You see, as sad as it is that I've had to let go of some dear friends through their marriages, God reminded me of the wonderful people in my life that are great friends, but I fail to love them.  I fail to pursue interacting with them.  I fail to pursue spending time with them.  I fail to pursue what interests them.  I fail to pursue them...essentially, I've failed to love them.

    By not developing the habits and skills needed to maintain friendships - writing letters, sending emails, posting on Facebook, making random "catch up" phone calls, or thinking of little things that would bless them - I'm loosing some incredible opportunities to build relationships with some of the greatest people that God has ever put on this earth.  I think of Dusty, my high school buddy, who has been so faithful to pursue me and stay in touch.  He's always been gracious, but I've found myself wondering if it ever wears on him that I'm not better about staying in touch with him?  Usually, I leave the thought there and don't let it spur me into action.  I'm supposed to be in his wedding in July. I'm honored, but I feel somewhat ashamed as I've failed to stay in touch with his life and know what's going on with him.  I know Dusty would forgive me, because that's the amazing man of character that he is and much of what I respect so much in him.  But, is it right to lean on his character?  Is it right to not make a decision to invest in the friendship?  I think not.

    I think of the many people in life that I struggle to do this with.  Rea and Phil who will be getting married this summer - some of the best friends I ever had in high school.  For years, Rea was incredible about staying in touch...but I never responded, letting myself stay busy and not choosing to train myself to invest in her and Phil.  As a result, I doubt I'll be invited to their wedding this summer, simply because, as far as they've seen, their friendship doesn't seem to be important to me.  I want to scream out that it's not true, but I know my actions over these past years would drown out however loud a proclamation I might belt. 

    And so, it makes me think of the people that are in my life now.  Andrew Bolger, who called the other day, but didn't leave a message.  Maybe it wasn't important, but he's an amazing guy and I need to stay in touch with him.  Lisa Repair, my college crush, who is absolutely wonderful woman and called tonight with a question.  Bethany Burrows, one of my best friends in high school, and her husband, Job, who I do a really poor job of staying in touch with and are trying to raise support for missions work.  Justin, Josh, Daniel, and Ricky from high school here in Little Rock.  Four absolutely phenomenal guys, each of who I respect so much in unique ways.  They have always been way to good to me and far too loyal for the reciprocation they've received from me.   The list continues with people from college, the guys and girls whose weddings I was a part of, friends in Siloam Springs, people around the nation, and friends across the globe.

    So, what am I going to do about it?  I messaged Dusty, hoping he can join mom and dad and I on the boat Saturday out at Ouachita.   He's got ROTC, so if it doesn't work out, I want to drive down to Arkadelphia and see him and, in that small, all too insufficient way, let him know that his friendship means a lot.  I'm looking forward to touching base with Ricky, Josh, Justin, and Daniel tomorrow and hope to catch up with them either tomorrow night or some night before I leave town on Sunday.  An old friend from Kenya is in town with the navy and I'm hoping to catch up with him while I'm in town too. 

    I know this discipline (and that's really what it is and what it takes) of investing in and pursuing relationships/friendships with people isn't going to come easy.  I have too many selfish and "easy out" habits I've developed, but I don't hold any doubt that it'll be worth it.  It's going to be a long road - there's so much to turn on it's head in the way I live, but slowly, with patience, I hope I can return, in some small measure, the incredible faithful friendships that others have blessed me with.  So here I go, slowly, stumbling along the way, but knowing that the top of the hill is worth the difficult climb.
    Currently Listening
    The Bourne Ultimatum
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