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you know, i don't think i have a good, useful, how to be optimistic in ten steps or less, kind of answer. in fact i'm sure i don't. lol. here's what i have noticed in optimistic people i have met so far: they pick their battles, they have faith in someone (like God) or something (like a set of values), and they treat others the way they'd like to be treated, or kinder. their optimism is contagious in most cases so find yourself an infectious optimist and spend time with them. observe. copy, if you have to. another thing that i believe makes life easier to handle (i.e. that makes it easier to be an optimist) is putting things in the right perspective. next time you want to yell at the girl in the cafe because your coffee is too hot or too cold or she forgot the little complemetary cookie, ask yourself first: is this important? is this something that has lasting consequences? what are they? well, the last two questions are easy once you think about it. you will get your cookie or even a new, hot cuppa, and the girl at the cafe might lose her job if you're not the only one who decides to make a huge fuss over a little thing. you could go on and catastrophize that she might have children at home who are dependent on her having that job etc etc. anyway, point is, IF IT'S NOT IMPORTANT, DON'T GET UPSET ABOUT IT. getting upset uses up a lot of energy in your body and mind. it also ruins your mood and can elevate your bloodpressure / heartrate. relax. look at your luke warm coffee or the fries with no ketchup, consider the number of people waiting to be served, and think about whether you're really that keen on this little mistake being rectified. if you still want it rectified, be friendly, not agressive. LAID-BACK-NESS. practise it. it takes a little while to learn but it sure does wonders to your quality of life.
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