| for quite some time i have been observing friendship and still to this day no matter how long ive developed relationships im still here, confused. Friendship in our mind is the bond between to people, a friendly bond someone you feel you can share your true side too, someone your able to enjoy being around. And then you have the best friend. The person youre able to depend on through thick and thin, the person whos willing to go out of their way just to see you happy. Friendship is something all of us feel a security in, something were able to fall back on.
But in the blink of an eye that life line can be cut and all you can even remember is that picture, the one were your hugging and everything seemed alright with the world, all you have is the thoughts, memories, and the words that remain in your head of that person. There are two people in this world, those who work for friendship and those who expect it to be there.
What amazes me is how easily we throw away a friendship because of one mistake or change, and yet when we cry on their shoulders, when we tell them the worst of our fears they still stick around. Its intriguing how some people cant work to fix things, they expect things to be one way and that way only, never do they put in consideration of the situation. They would rather make a million friends, then stick around and build an amazing friendship with one person.
Now heres the real hit in the gut, when a friend youre willing to give up your life for, the friend who you consider to be your sister blows you off because of some change. People who do this honestly have far to much resentment and no understanding of the situation, so your best friend changes her cloths, changes her music and cutes her hair and BAM shes out of your life, these people wouldnt give people like us the time of day, they would much rather sit on the sidelines and watch us develop into a different person.
Now heres my point. So someone changes, well have these people ever stopped to focus on themselves. Guess what YOURE CHANGING TOO. Instead of being that understanding person you used to be you sit and judge your so called best friend, you ridicule them and shame every aspect of them, have you ever stopped to ask are they happy? No. you havent. you would much rather let the friendship detearialize. Things like this make me sick.
It only raises question, if we cant except these people on the outside what makes us think we ever truly accepted them for the person they are at all? |
