Weirdness and Introspection Brought To You By Facebook

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Posted by: empress8411 Original: 5/15/2008 11:59 AM Comments: 14 eProps: 26 Read Comments Post a Comment Back to Your Xanga Site

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Thursday, May 15, 2008

Weirdness and Introspection Brought To You By Facebook

Facebook is weird. The current weirdness is due to old High School classmates finding and friending me.

I find this odd because none of these people were my friends in high school. They fell into 2 categories:

1. I knew of them, as in name and maybe they were on such’n’such sports teams; or

2. I actively avoided them because they were “cool” and I wasn’t and…well…I just avoided them.

But now, they’re all “friend me!” on Facebook. I revert back to HS Lauren who fiercely protected everything about me because to open up at all, even on something as stupid and innocuous as Facebook, meant certain ridicule and pain.

N would say it’s time to let my fear go (pfffhht…10 years…whatever) and I should just get over it. Still, even after 10 years, some of those memories still hurt. But I know he’s right.

I mean, I’m not the same person, so they must not be either, right? So maybe people who scared the daylights out of me in High School would be my BFFs now?

I also find it very odd who is married and who isn’t. In fact, the people I was certain would get married right away are single and many I thought would take years to get married didn’t.

I do, however, feel perfectly justified in holding a grudge against Facebook: nothing that juvenile should cause serious introspection. Seriously.

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Posted 5/15/2008 11:59 AM - 14 comments

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Haha, I know exactly what you mean! But even when there have been times when I have thought, "We weren't friends then and probably wouldn't be friends in real life," I still accept the friend request because I feel obligated to do so. How silly is that?!

Posted 5/15/2008 12:26 PM by Erin1022 - reply

Another reason why I don't Facebook.

Posted 5/15/2008 12:31 PM by sonnetjoy

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I don't do Facebook, either. It is always seemed somewhat silly to me when all the invitations to it were from people exactly like the ones you're talking about.

Posted 5/15/2008 12:33 PM by JessicaAshley7

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I find myself extra-affected by old highschool stuff as well. I think it's because it is the most formative time in our life. Our emotional responses are learned during that period. So even when we grow up and get over it, memories or reminders from that period evoke extra-emotional responses.

Posted 5/15/2008 12:40 PM by papua2001mk

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I hated high school's social minefields. So I guess it makes sense that there's only one person I knew from then who's my friend on myspace--and I don't do Facebook.

Posted 5/15/2008 1:12 PM by schoolofmom - reply

Visit Things_Left_Unsaid_06's Xanga Site!

Your problem is that you assume Facebook to be juvenile and innocuous when it fact its a power house social networking construct, armed with multi-million dollar underwriting and millions of high school and on up individuals populating it, compiling a list of interests, social activities, ages, values, et cetera. Plus, everyone knows it's not official 'till it's on Facebook. That is a fact. So, maybe if your perspective changed, then to the social ventures of your "friends" from back in the day wouldn't seem so patronizing and/or superfluous.

Cordially,

Brian

Posted 5/15/2008 1:33 PM by Things_Left_Unsaid_06 - reply

You know, that's one of the reasons I avoid Facebook. Never signed up for an account. I don't want all those people from high school, who I didn't like, to go and track me down.

And, uh, I think that guy Brian must work for Facebook.

Posted 5/15/2008 1:55 PM by Blue__Summer

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@Things_Left_Unsaid_06 - You do bring up a good point. Like so many things, it's a matter of perspective and attitude, lol. I guess it just brought up the insecurity I lived in during HS and made the 10 years since, where I have worked hard to be content with who God made me seem like nothing. ~ L

Posted 5/15/2008 2:20 PM by empress8411

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I've had the same thing happen to me. It makes so sense. When I didn't accept one girls invite to be her friend on Facebook she sent me a messaging wondering why I hadn't accepted her invite yet. I told her plainly, "You were evil to me in high school so what's the point in having anything to do with you now anyway?" I never heard from her again...I wonder why?

Posted 5/15/2008 2:46 PM by Luv_Monkee

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You're right. N is correct.

Posted 5/15/2008 2:54 PM by SwordAndSacrifice

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I got talked into Facebook and Myspace, and it is weird the way people will "friend" you from high school.

Posted 5/15/2008 5:03 PM by buckeyegirl31

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When I went to public school (Kindergarten-second grade), I was always one of the popular kids, but I was also always nice to everyone. Because of that, some low-life elementary schoolers made fun of me, because I'd like, help the smelly kid who wore a leg brace and prostetic leg and diapers in second grade, and had rotten teeth, and couldn't read with his school work. Since then, I've never really been 'picked on' by other kids. Or maybe I was, but just didn't realize it. Often though, I'm treated as very, um, different by other people my own age. Lots are snotty to me, but whatevs. I also find it odd that though I never really had boy friends, since I've started college, I have more of a tendency to talk to guys (equally alarming is that 9 months ago, I was scared out of my mind to talk to any male over the age of 8). Most girls just seem the same or something. I dunno. And you'd be surprised at the adults who make snide remarks about me in front of my face. It's like, 'WTF?!? I'm a kid. I could launch into unflattering comments about you without even thinking about it!' I'm incredibly popular in pony club though. Not to sound like an arrogant jerk or anything, but all the other girls (age range from 7 to 15) LOVE me. They argue over me. Quite flattering really.

I don't do facebook. I hear it's popular amongst the kids these days.

Posted 5/15/2008 7:34 PM by vienna_waits90

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I know but Facebook can be really fun as well

Posted 5/16/2008 3:56 AM by Umnenga - reply

Friend you from high school weird? On my MySpace account I got friended by a guy I knew from ELEMENTARY school. I left Miami in the middle of 5th grade. He happened to be a playmate as a kid, but that was an awkward accept... "Hey Josh, haven't seen you in a decade and a half! What's your life like now?" Talk about not being the same person!

Posted 5/17/2008 10:43 AM by ZachP - reply

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