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Daniel Update!!

Sun, 09 Mar 2008 23:27:05 GMT

My Baby Boy is soooo AWESOME!!! I love him sooo much!

He is doing very well. In the beginning we had some tantrums, but they are decreasing as he gets more adjusted to us & us to him. Now that I know when to expect them or know more about his little quirks & what sets him off, we are doing much better. He has slept in his own bed & through the night In the beginning 2 wks he slept with us & woke up around 4-5 am. Sometimes it took awhile to get him back down. Now he sleeps in his own bed, and through the night. We rock & sing every night.

His personality is very funny. He is a car & truck phanatic! If you give him a stuffed animal he hits it, lol! So we have lots of toy trucks & cars, he makes car noises as he pushes them around. This past week he has been so happy & playing.. He has some friends he visits about 2-3x a week & he loves it. He is also talking alot more. He chases the cats & says CAT!!! He also says Bye all the time. He says Momma & Da Da, but mostly Momma, lol! He is a Momma's Boy & I love it! He also says Thanks, Uh-oh, Hola, Que, & other words I can't think of right now. He is bilingual, but we are laying off the spanish for awhile so he doesn't have a constant reminder of his foster family. We still correspond with them & send pics once a week.. They miss him sooo much & I can see why!! I know I wouldn't been able to give him up! Sorry it took so long for the update,, I have been busy adjusting to this new life style

He loves his baths!

His BF Dakota

Talking to Daddy

Happy child

Hanging with Momma

Daniel coming home!

Thu, 14 Feb 2008 00:16:38 GMT

Daniel is coming home forever on Friday! Happy Daniel Day!

Monday, February 11, 2008

Mon, 11 Feb 2008 02:30:07 GMT

Meeting Daniel

Mon, 11 Feb 2008 02:10:03 GMT

Oh boy! Well I was ok on the way there until Dallas said we were there already an hour early, then it hit me! I was sooo nervous and anxious. It was the moment I have been waiting for so long, since I was married 5 yrs ago.

We arrived and he was sleeping. He woke up early that morning off schedule & fell back asleep 30 min b4 we arrived. So they said come on lets go see him. When I walked in there & saw him sleeping on the bed, he was sooooo precious. I got close to him rubbed his back, head, and neck. I was taking him all in, taking the moment all in. He opened his eyes and I said Hey baby, ever so sweetly and he did the most amazing shocking thing next that I didn't expect, but wanted to happen. He REACHED FOR ME TO HOLD HIM! That was it I scooped him up & began crying and rocking him. I can't stop crying typing this. It was a dream come true!!!! Everyone couldn't believe that he just came to me. It was AMAZING!!!!! Dallas was even all teary eyed. From then on he played and interacted with us like he knew us all along.

When we went to the park I remember I took him down the slide, then I let Dallas play with him awhile, and he came over to the picnic table & grabbed my hand & took me back to the slide. He is soooo awesome! His personality is just precious, unique, and funny. He reminds me of Dallas, we now know even more why we were chosen for this child. He completes us.

The next day we got all day visitation which was a suprise to us. We thought we had to stay at the foster home most of the time, but we got to take him out all day. We weren't prepared b/c I didn't want to pack many toys, stroller, and essentials to get my hopes up. I just packed a few things. We had the best day, he ran back and forth to both of us wanting for us to pick him up. We took him back to our room at the hotel & I remember going to talk on the phone for a moment & sat on the couch for a minute. When I came back we was crying for me to pick him up, like where have you been, where did you go? SOOO SWEET!

We just spent time hangin out with him, he fed me cookies, lol! When we took him back I was a mess Saturday night. That was so hard. We went out to eat to Papasitos & Dallas was in line at the bar while we were waiting for a table. I found one empty at the bar, I was sitting by myself his pacifer in my hand, and waitress walked up to me & asked if needed a drink. By the looks of me, I'd ask someone that too! My face was red blotchy tears just streaming down my face & said yes a BIG one! LOL! Those that know me well know that I don't cry in public much less in front of people, but I would try & try to compose myself, it just wasn't happening, I just couldn't stop. So I downed to tall Rum & cokes, and felt little better.

So Sunday morning we went and picked him up. We took him to the mall & he bought his couisin Mikey some outfits for his B-day. He also picked out a toy for himself =) We took him to eat Luby's, b/c that's all that was around. After that it was time to take him back, he fell asleep on the way there. Dallas carried him in & layed him on the bed. I took his shoes off & kissed him goodbye until this coming weekend when we get to drive back & pick him up. He may stay home with us for good, it all depends if the Dr gets his report typed up on his Developmental Assesment by Friday the 15th. He has an aptt on Wednesday, so everyone pray that the report will be ready & sent back to his worker so we can finalize placement by Tuesday of next week. Otherwise we have to drive him back on Monday the 18th, and try to do placement the following weekend. I don't want to put him through back & forth from Houston to Fort worth & so on. Also his Foster Mom wants him to stay with us, b/c she's preparing her goodbye all week this week. She doesn't want to tell him bye all over again. That's difficult on her too. So pray for her & the other family members that are close to him. Especially pray for my little boy!

Yeah Feb 8!!!

Thu, 31 Jan 2008 12:05:11 GMT

We finally get to meet our son Feb 8!!! I'm so excited & nervous. We will travel to Houston to visit him in his foster home and stay in a Hotel until Sunday. We get to take him out for small visits, and we will have to leave him there on Sunday, and they'll bring him to us hopefully the following weekend to Fort Worth stay all weekend in our home, then we will have to return him to his foster home in Houston. Then placement will follow soon after. I'm not sure of the dates yet. I know it's going to be bittersweet b/c he's so attached to his foster family as they are to him. We have decided to an open adoption with his foster family, because he has been with them since he was 10 days old. I'm so thankful they took such loving care of him, instead of being placed in multiple foster homes. I have will plenty of pictures to share with him in his lifebook. My caseworker is sending our lifebook down with pictures of us and the dogs, and his g-parents & so forth. His foster Mom is going to read & show it to him so he can get use to our faces b4 we meet.

After the first visit we get to call him everynight & tell him goodnight or sing him a lullaby. So he can get use to our voices. His foster Mom asked that they find a good family with lots of children around. Since we had nine nieces & nephews that's why we were picked!!!! So she had a part of the selection process, and I am so thankful and grateful to her. She also said that he's the most lovable child I can't wait to hold & rock him!

Update

Wed, 23 Jan 2008 18:18:26 GMT

Hello all!

Man what a bumpy ride of emotions this last week was. We recieved his record Jan 10. Reviewed it all weekend, then called our caseworker to "officially" accept him. We knew we we're going to turn this precious child away no matter what, especially all of our heartache this past year. But anyways my caseworker try to contact his casewoker all week, but didn't have any luck.. So there it was Friday my Birthday weekend, I had a headache that has lasted for 6 days, I could feel knots in my neck & shoulders, and I was terrified. I had to admit I was worrying if there was a chance that the foster parents changed their minds. Afterall after having that happen to you with birthparents, your guard will always be up, and this process is scary. I couldn't figure out why she didn't return calls or emails all week. Don't they realize how adoptive parents emotions are on the line. All we wanted is a date set for the next step, b/c we're living in limbo. I can't really run my business, which is pretty much closed right now & Dallas can't schedule too much of his 2nd job. Very stressful times. Not to mention you know he's there 3 1/2 hrs away & you just want to get to know him & bond, and not lose another precious moment. Well my caseworker was out of the office yesterday, guess who calls? Sure she does & she wants to schedule the phone presentation that day (yesterday 1/22) What kind of notice is that? Not to mention Dallas was on shift yesterday. My stomach was in knots, not hearing from my caseworker yesterday, but heard from her today with all this news. So now the presentation is scheduled for 1/31/08 that is soonest she could reschedule & apologizes for the inconvience! Ofcourse Dallas is on shift that day, but we will be there! Who knows when it would be postoned to & we just want to meet our little boy, and get him home. I'm grateful we are starting to get somewhere! I can't take just seeing him on the video anymore! Sometimes I feel guilty for feeling impatient when there are others still waitng on a baby referral, but I have been there guys. I guess I need to count my blessings! I'm sorry! To my friends still waiting, hang in there, all good things in time. God bless

Thursday, December 20, 2007

Thu, 20 Dec 2007 12:40:07 GMT

My Baby Boy-Daniel!!!!!

Thu, 20 Dec 2007 12:06:15 GMT

Hi everyone! Sorry it's been so long! The adoption process was very difficult for me! But I am happy to announce the news of our son Daniel!!!!!!! We got "the call" December 5 that we were in a family selection process for a 17 month old baby boy. I said ok, not expecting too much with all my heartache & expectations in the past. My caseworker said they were choosing a family in a few hours, WHAT?!! I said today! She said yes in a few hours we should know if it's your son. She said hang by your phone, I may need to call you with questions they have about you & your immediate family. Ok, I'm extremely nervous at this point. I could become a Mom in the next few hours. In my mind I knew he was ours, because it was exactly 1 yr to the date our first birthmother changed her mind & decided to parent. I asked my bestfriend, would God really give us this call to set us up for heartache again at Christmas time. Within 2 hours she called back and said they selected us! Tears were streaming down my face & my bestfriend was crying with me. We were jumping up & down hugging!! The timing was perfect, Dallas & I were dreading the Holidays of not being parents. We love all of our nieces & nephews, but to be the childless couple every year has it's toll. I thought this year how am I going to buy gifts for each child, when I so bad want to buy for our child. I honestly have to say I distanced myself from my nieces and nephews these past fews, because it hurt so bad not to be a parent. I felt selfish. But in July we had 3 birthmom's due, and one in August. All of them decided to parent. I thought I was never going to become a parent, while my heart was aching I thought of the children in foster care, and discussed with Dallas about adopting through the state/foster care system. He said yes, why not! So we began our training in September, and was told it could be another year for a child under 2yrs of age. Here it is December, and we are matched!!!!!!!! We also were to meet another birthmother due in January this month, but God works in mysterious ways. I know with all of our failed matches, that Daniel was meant to be. I hope nothing but the best for all the mothers, that decided to parent. I know God had a plan all along, and ofcourse you don't realize it, until it's right front of your eyes. We are so blessed!!!! I have never seen Dallas sooo happy in all my life. He is so excited, preparing and buying things for him. We are still anxiously awaiting to meet our little angel. Right now we are waiting on his record from Houston, which should arrive any day now. After we get that, it will go really fast! Then little Daniel will be home in January!!! Merry Christmas and God Bless!!!!!!!

My Crazy Life

Tue, 19 Jun 2007 10:38:07 GMT

Hey guys! Sorry I haven't posted in awhile, but I have been insanely busy. My Pet Sitting business has taken off so fast! I am booked still through the July 4th weekend without a break! My furry friends keep me more than occupied! Just when I think I'm down to one dog, the phone rings!! So business is good.

My family life is also crazy. I have been practicing being a Mom to our 3 nephews! The big boys are easy Jared is 15 & Jordan is 14. Man have they grown up fast! But the kicker is Mikey he's 3 & 1/2. He keeps me more than occupied as well. I have enjoyed having them here, because it keeps my mind off the adoption waiting period. I enjoy spoiling Mikey with anything Elmo lately, we even got a Elmo potty seat! He was afraid that he would fall in the toilet, so Mikey & I went off to the potty store (Babies R Us) to pick out a potty seat! That was fun, he saw Elmo & ofcourse that was the one! Altough he hasn't gone potty on it yet, he sits on it though willing & that's all Dawn & I ask for. He has made a milestone b/c he would cry before the Elmo potty seat! So go Mikey you will get there! That kid can brings me so many smiles & he makes me laugh everyday! I can't wait to be a Mom!

Ok so in the middle of this blog, Mikey woke up with a dry pull up! So off to the potty we went. We sat there what seemed like forever, so I finally let him off the potty with no pee pee attempt. He wanted to flush & I said he had to go pee pee first to flush & Whammo!!!!! The tot peed on the floor. YIKES!!! So before he could finish I scared him, by saying NO Mikey on the potty, so he stopped peeing thank God. ( I didn't mean to scare him) I put him back on the potty to finish. Ok so we sat there for another 15 min with no pee pee again! Man talk about hard work potty training!!!!!!!

So there's my Mother in Training experience!

Monday, May 21, 2007

Mon, 21 May 2007 18:54:01 GMT