Prior to my wedding, many ladies invited to a shower provided gems of wisdom about how to be a good wife. Often written was "be forgiving" or "never go to bed angry" but the word RESPECT was never used. I believe they were all trying to suggest this but sometimes we have trouble using the right words to express what we mean.
How many of you say little hurtful comments to your husband? I didn't mean to be hurtful. I had this idea in my head of what my husband should do to help with the packing before we moved and he didn't do what I thought was the correct thing to do. A couple of times I caught myself thinking "Girl, hold your tongue. He is trying. He just has a different way of doing this. After you get settled in the new place it won't matter if things got lost anyways. Things will always get lost in a move." Other times I heard myself saying out loud, "You should have taken more time off and then we would have had more packed before the movers got here." My husband is helping his parents move some things and has been gone overnight but when he gets back I will find a time to take those hurtful things back and apologize. He was trying. In fact, he did more this time than he has done in the past and I am grateful for what he did do. Many husbands would have done nothing and let the wife do it all. We also would have had a lot more to do in the end if he had not helped with the things that he did.
I am blessed to have such a wonderful husband. In I Peter 3:8 the Bible talks about how to react when someone does evil towards you. It says to react by blessing them, and in so doing you will receive God's blessing. I don't know about others but I want God's blessings. Things are magical when God gives his blessing. I have seen them. I need to work at doing my job more so that I can receive more. I would love to hear anyone else who wants to share their thoughts about this.