| | I'm getting married in 9 days. About 9 months ago, I was getting married in 9 months. That may seem obvious, but what I'm trying to say is...I'm used to thinking of "the day" as being in the future, not the present. When it actually is the present, it'll be a whole shift of reality - from something that exists in my mind to something that exists in real life. From something I can tweak if anything goes wrong to something that will happen the way it wants to.
Ok, enough speaking of a wedding day as a living entity. POST-wedding - in other words, marriage - is the main event here. Even after approximately 20 hours of pre-marriage counseling* and classes, I'm not sure I know exactly what to expect. It's exciting to start a new challenge, to take the plunge and figure it out as we go. Similar to the way I packed up my stuff and drove across the country to Duke in time for freshman orientation, having never previously stepped on campus before. Well, maybe not that similar. But similar nonetheless.
I guess that's the way a lot of things are in life. Like having a baby, for example.
And no, we are not planning to have children for a few years. But nothing can prepare you for these things until they actually happen to you. Well, except maybe a friend who's done it before...
So...I'm doing this for all of you! Ask me how it is in a few months =).
*Note: Many people think pre-marriage counseling is only for people who are
having major issues in their relationship that need to be resolved. Or, they have a strong relationship and
scoff at the idea that they might need help with problems that will
come their way. But here's my two cents: it is a good thing to
pre-emptively identify and learn how to resolve issues before they come
up, because, if anything, marriage most likely increases the amount of
conflict in a couple's relationship. Even people who are already
married can learn from the kind of counseling we got. Plus, we got a
$70 discount on our marriage license  .
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| | Posted 8/25/2006 3:08 PM - 25 views - 12 comments
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