| ...marriage is a sacrifice, but relationships are a compromise
...ive been meaning to put this on my xanga for a while, but ive been lazy. anyhow, lately the whole topic of "relationships" has come up. we've just started our whole relationship series for Heaven Sent, ive been talkin to people from work about relationships, and been talkin to Heaven Sent & Servant's Heart people bout relationships, & just had a HUGE talk with a family member bout her relationship with herself and her family.
...so ive decided God has wanted me to put this idea on my xanga. well lemme try and elaborate. now this is totally my OPINION & if this doesnt coincide with what you belive, so sorry, but this is MY site, so who cares wat you think =)
...i personally belive that in relationships, (& this quote only refers to "significant others" type of relationships), there are what "Carrie" so eliquently put it, things called "deal breakers". these things can vary from a cheating partner, a substance problem, a motivation problem, or anything you are passionately not willing to sacrifice yourself for.
...however, once you have found someone you want to whole heartedly commit yourself to, and decide to marry that person, you have sacrificed yourself. therefore, there are NO, or 99.9%, no more deal breakers. if you find youself dealing with a cheating spouse, a substance abuse problem, a focusing problem or ANYTHING of the sort, you are there for the long haul. you have made a promise to yourself, your spouse, family, friends, the church, & most of all GOD!!! therefore, you have to sacrifice and keep the relationship, now turned marriage to work.
...i know a lot of people will disagree with this, and i honestly think that the reason why they would disagree wtih this is because they have been through a break-up or a divorce & think it was legitimately done. however, my responce is, that they thought they were ready to get married but in reality were not. us as a society have been so quick to marry and quick to get into relationships, without really realizing what you are doing. that is why in the U.S.A. almost or maybe even over 50% of marriages end in divorce. that is sad!!! |
