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| Another Christmas coming.
The weather gets colder around this time. The mood gets lighter as people anticipate the end of a rather long year. Some are still rushing, some already settled into a nicely lulled state.
As for me, I've managed to find a special someone to spend time with.
Definitely one of the warmer Christmas's I've had in a while.
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| The first few lectures I had were those of my distinguished prof who practices CBT. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Oddly enough when I first heard of CBT, I thought I wouldn't like the concept of it. As I was instructed more of it's fundamental design, I realised that it's very much the way I percieve the world and the people in it.
The concept of people having emotions simply based on how they percieve their state. "It's your stinking thinking that's the problem" was repeated to us week after week by my prof. True though it may be, most people will not be conscious of the way they process certain situations.
Thought, having been revised and defined repeatedly through the first few occassions, would be fixated on certain variables and the other factors would be ignored and assumed to be non-essential or fixed. As people are, they would assume that they are correct in their thinking.
Clearly I'm not one to say anything about the way someone else percieves a situation, but if that perception of theirs is causing considerable mental anguish. I'd like to help alleviate their pain by changing their train of thought. There are somethings that will cause you misery no matter how you look at it. How much misery though?
Of course there are other ways of thinking and another problematic type besides the ones that cause sorrow and guilt are the types that cause rage and hatred. No one would be complaining if he/she were feeling happy, so I think we can leave that out.
ahaha. Thinking back, I guess I have quite a lot of cognitive issues to sort out myself. Should try to raise my level of conscientiousness again. Maybe I'll be a better person in the future.
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| Communication communication communication.
First thing couples keep saying is the most important thing in a relationship. lol
I guess it was kind of a surprise when my prof told me that it's not communication at all that's the most important. It's intimacy.
After I thought about it though, it is definitely true. To paraphrase something he said. One can quarrel all day and still be together in the same bed at night, but once the guy sleeps with another woman. There isn't even anything left to be said. lol, I guess this is why LDRs don't work most of the time. It takes real discipline, trust and a certain way of perceiving things to keep it going without even so much as a hug from your partner.
There are so many things in psychology that interest me, but I think I understand more and more now what I really want to do when I start my career.
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| Probably a conditioned state of mind, I receive Christmas with a tinge of sadness.
Every time I look at the lights, I wonder where the light of my own life shines. Should there be one to find and provide me the glow of warmth and comfort in my current existence.
That the festivities are laden with traces of melancholy, I hope it has not become a permanent part of me. To the future unknown, hopes unfulfilled and promises unforgotten.
Merry Christmas
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| Yeah, not that one would enjoy being hurt though. Isn't pain a function that keeps the body from being harmed too much? One would stay away from the things that cause one hurt, right?
What if the pain one felt was part of the learning process though. To know that one has made a mistake, did something wrong somewhere. Would one still try to achieve the initial goal one set out for, while getting hurt and feeling the pain of it in the process?
Or would one rather discard one's original goal, in order not to be hurt anymore. Not to feel that pain anymore. There are limits for some people, physically.... mentally. What one tell oneself to endure, what one tell oneself one can bear. Physically there are more set boundaries, mentally... How can one tell if one has ever taken so much of a beating, one can't bear anymore. Much less, for someone else to determine that.
I wish I had the clarity of sight, to analyse my own damage. To see if I can take more. It'd be good to have a break from all that nonsense though. I guess that's how I'd gauge for now.
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