| Almost everytime I'm with a new group of friends, someone brings up this question to break the ice: "So, do you think there's only one person for you, or do you think there's a lot of people you could be happy with?" And
every time they ask that question, I answer, "I think there's a lot of
people I could potentially marry and live happily-ever-after with, but
God only leads me to one of them (two if the first guy dies on me, and
then I remarry)...or maybe He just orchestrates it so I don't meet any
of the 10 guys I could potentially be with, so instead, I become a bird
lady." "Neurotic," the other party says, to which I reply - "Sap." My
mom, ever the romantic even after more than two decades of marriage,
begged to differ. "I know that God has a really good guy in mind for
you," she says whenever I visit home, still unquestionably single.
She's even given him a name - Boaz - after Ruth's husband. Now
that I'm one year away from graduating, I wonder a lot about what God
has in store for my future, and whether He has only one future planned
or several alternatives. Is there really only ONE job where I could
flourish, ONE guy I can marry, ONE place I can settle down in, ONE
church I can attend? I worry
about misreading God's plan so much that I sometimes forget to just
live. Take grad school for example - does God want me to go, or does He
want me to pursue a career for the time being? What if I chose the
"wrong" option, God's plan got derailed (can humans even do that?), and
He had to do serious damage control? Does God have a plan B just in
case I pick the "wrong" thing? Think of it this way - with the
premise that you're single and that "one and only" soulmates do in
fact, exist - that yours lives in Venezuela while you live in Ohio. Say
God called you to be a missionary in Venezuela, but you chose the fab
life as a publisher in New York instead. Would you just never been the
soulmate in Venezuela (God says: "Too bad, you didn't follow my call so
WELCOME TO SINGLEHOOD....FOREVER) or does God have someone else lined
up for you in New York? And then think about Venezuelan guy/girl. Say
you DO become a missionary and that person moves to Denmark. Then what?
I just wonder if God's plan is contingent on our decisions -
humans are so prone to stubborness and making mistakes that I don't
know how God can even plan stuff for us. It's a little early
for me to be thinking about marriage or kids, but I sometimes wonder if
I'm destined for a second-rate existence just because I turned that one
guy down... Do you think God has only ONE calling for you? Do you every worry that your mistakes may actually derail God's plan?
From: Here
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