| | My parents are getting divorced and it is so ugly. From my mom I read one page of the papers and I was disgusted. I still don't want to get into it. And i'm ok now but I'd still like to write it about it.
My dad has always been pretty controlling and explosive when I was growing up. I argued him the most because I always thought I was right, and it turned out like a fight all the time. When I got older I realized the "arguing" I was doing was pointless and stopped talking to him altogether, unless I wanted to do something like move the furniture, or if I judged that we might not get into stupid fights again. He's hit my mom a few times before. When maybe half an year ago my mom moved into a different room, I thought he was going crazy. We found out when it was time to pay taxes around 2008 that he was getting in trouble for not paying taxes since 2003. He seems to be ok now with his newfound "zi-jiu method" and I want to believe he changed for the better but he's still being inconsistent. Today he and my mom had a fight about money.
I would never say it was all my mom's fault if I was in any way fucked up, and I'm sure his bad attitude has effected my life.
He made his way on whatever divorce document talking crap about my mom and how he thought I was screwed up because of her.
The thing is, everything written down on this divorce paper is totally twisted. He talks about us renting movies from the library, and my mom letting me watch all the time. The thing is, he's the one who started renting movies, and he watched them with us for the most part. On the divorce paper it says my mom would often have 10 movies rented out at a time. It wasn't like that and it's just as likely that at the same time he would have rented 10 movies out as well.. At that time, he was still telling me to do things all the time but surely he didn't do anything about the movies. He was there the whole time. He didn't do anything, but on paper, it's all my mom's fault.
He's requesting full custody of my brother. He says he's responsible for my brother's education, but really he just started making my brother study with him recently, and from my point of view he's fucking my brother up more than he's helping him. Kids just don't need yelling at all the time.
He totally snaked his way into this just to write on this paper
And you know what?
Most of the time, even though she didn't do anything, she'll read it and buy into it. She'll be arguing the wrong thing all the time. She knew I had an interest in movies and I studied them a lot (but let it be known we watched on average probably 4 movies a week, and when we were borrowing movies, it was summer), and she's looking for my reviews and stuff that I wrote down on them now. But it's really not the thing to argue.
My mom also sucks at English. My dad didn't let her learn that kind of stuff.
What I hate more than anything is this hate and distortion of the truth, how lawfully messy this is, and if I got into something I couldn't fully believe in, how would I bea able to draw a line between what is mine to be responsible for and what I shouldn't be responsible for?
I would like to fix up my post but I have to go.
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| | Posted 4/9/2008 4:18 PM - 0 comments
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