you know....i don't get it.........i just don't get…

And the losing me, is killing me. So Lord hold me now...	that I'm finally loosing me.

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Posted by: illstingya Original: 8/31/2006 1:25 AM Comments: 10 eProps: 18 Read Comments Post a Comment Back to Your Xanga Site

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Thursday, August 31, 2006

you know....i don't get it.........i just don't get it......i've tossed it around in my brain a bit.....i've cursed........i've cried.......and i'm still right back at the same spot....the spot where i am speechless..........the spot where my heart just aches and there's nothing left to say.

i lost one of my kids tonight.

it's not like they died.....and for that i'm sooooooooo grateful! but i lost them.

i got a phone call tonight from a very angry mother who was wondering why her daughter hadn't met her curfew. the curfew was at 8:30. (which OF COURSE the daughter had failed to mention)

here's the deal........every sunday and wed. night after church our youth group goes out to eat......it's not a manditory thing by any means, just something that the kids have put together and i attend so i'm able to hang out with them a bit more.

all the kids are usually home no later than 9:00. it was 8:50 when my phone rang.

mom: is my daughter with you?

me: no maam, she left with ________ a couple of minutes ago...she was bringing her straight home.

mom: does she have her cell phone with her??

me: i'm not really sure?? (why is SHE the PARENT asking me if her child has her cell phone on her??)

mom: she was supposed to be home at 8:30!!!!

me: i'm sorry maam! she told me nothing about that! had she i would have personally had her home by that time!

mom: i think that it's RIDICULOUS that you're keeping the kids out past 8:30 on a school night!

me: The dinner after church is not a manditory thing....you may come and pick her up as soon as we get out at 7:30-7:45 if you would like.

mom: don't even worry about that, my daughter will not be attending again!!!!!

me: is this because we go out to eat afterward??? (completely puzzled and in disbelief at this point)

mom: yes!!!!! my daughter is in HIGH SCHOOL now and she doesn't have time for all of this church stuff! i just think that it's RIDICULOUS that you're keeping them out after 8:30 on a school night!!!!!

me: like i said, you are more than FREE to come and pick your child up right after we finish...i would hate for her not to be allowed to come anymore because of this!

mom: she won't be back again!!!!

me: i'm sorry that you feel that way.......

and just like that the conversation ended.........needless to say..........it has NOT been a fun night!

Posted 8/31/2006 1:25 AM - 10 comments

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Wow, thats sad...what is this world coming to? These parents are insane.

Posted 8/31/2006 8:14 AM by tallhpustinger - reply

Oh Christina, I am so sorry. That breaks my heart. I would love to pray for that family. Can you tell me their name?

Dave experiences things like that with his students sometimes and it really discourages him too. While it isn't church related, parents seem to think that if their kid steals or fights outside of school that he isn't teaching them in the class room to be responsible. Crazy, but so sad to see parents shovel responsibility and discipline onto others so they don't have to deal with it themselves. Don't let it get you down though....you are SO good at what you do. And your heart was in the right spot, and you handeled it so well it seems like. Hang in there, solider.

Posted 8/31/2006 8:56 AM by kvendsel - reply

What an idiot mother!

Rather than listen to you, it seems like she already had her mind made up to pull her daughter out of your church youth group. Did she even bother thinking of the alternative?

Her teen could be hangin' out at the mall with negative influences all around. You provided a place of fellowship in a positive environment where good, clean fun could be had by adolescents striving to grow in Christ.

That parent needs to just chill. Sheesh.

Posted 8/31/2006 5:26 PM by five11nation

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I'm sorry you've had to deal with this! I'm guessing the mom isn't a church member and possibly not a believer. You did nothing wrong! Don't forget.....

Eph 6:12
12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.
NIV

Posted 8/31/2006 7:48 PM by rosyj - reply

Oh the crazy parents we deal with. I'm so sorry to hear about that. Maybe the girl can change her mother's mind, or something like that. You handled it very nicely though. You explained yourself and she explained her side (with more force I'm sure) but you still maintained your composure!! i hate it when parents say stuff like that. it breaks my heart.

Posted 9/1/2006 11:46 AM by janapana11 - reply

wow - im so sorry about that. i will definitely be thinking of you these next couple of weeks and for your youth.

Posted 9/4/2006 1:27 AM by jesuslovesmeu2 - reply

I am sorry to hear this. I would not go so far as to call the parent an idiot though. My parents threatened not to let me continue Wednesdays while I was a youth too. It's easy on this side of the playing field to say that this mother is an "idiot", but in her mind, she is doing what is best for her daughter. In her mind priority number one is her daughter's education, and she can't very well get that if she is too tired to focus on Thursday. Hopefully, a stern talking to will do the trick between mother and daughter. As for you, don't take it personally, and keep trying. If the daughter can't come back on Wed., perhaps she can for other stuff. In the meantime, it is not your responsibility to keep up with those kids curfews; it is theirs.

Posted 9/4/2006 3:27 AM by Krissy_Cole

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p.s. keep doing what you seem to do best...taking care of youth!

Posted 9/4/2006 3:28 AM by Krissy_Cole

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um....if you're ordering this weekend, then you have to apay for everything up front. I hate it, but it's they way they do things. But we are still on if you want to, and I'm thinking lunch at Olive Garden.......let me know if that's ok. Can't wait to see you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Posted 9/5/2006 11:45 AM by redheadZZZ - reply

Wow, that is a hard situation. I'm sure the girl will call you at some point to talk. She'll surely be mad and upset, but I exhort you to be gracious in regards to her mother, along with what Krissy_Cole said. Encourage the daughter to honor the mom, as that is pleasing to the Lord, and trust Him for the girl.

You are like Esther, you are called for such a time as THIS! Hang in there. You are doing a fantastic job, I'm just sorry you had to bear the brunt of that none-too-fun phone call. Love ya!

Posted 9/5/2006 4:03 PM by WordlessWonder - reply

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