有點黯然。許多事，總是希望愈大，失望愈大。

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不要不開心，相信一定可以上得到太極班的。

找尋世上最高的快樂﹕寬恕

錄自陶兆輝，劉遠章 –"贏一場人生"

寬恕不是忘記，已發生了的事是不會也不可能忘記的。它只是潛藏在您的心靈暗角，好像魔鬼一樣，不時走出來擾攘您。刻意去忘記只會把這份負面的情緒隱藏得更加深，壓抑到更加黑暗的角落，使您更痛苦、更不快樂。

寬恕不是自我犧牲，也不是赦免對方的錯；寬恕是釋放自己，令自己在受傷害的舊我之中解放出來；寬恕是放下創痛的感覺，拒絕對方的繼續傷害，放下仇恨的心，放棄以憤怒、恐懼、焦慮、內疚等負面情緒來折磨自己；寬恕是不想再把未來的日子葬送給這些悲傷的回憶當中。

寬恕背後需要有著強大的愛的力量作為支撐，這是自愛和對敵人的愛。當您內心充滿堅強的愛的時候，用寬恕的心來把對事件的信念、感覺轉化，用寬恕來把過去了的事情浮現到較光明的角度，把負面情緒放下，您可以再次審視。寬恕別人，同時也要學懂寬恕自己。寬恕是治療創傷、撫平傷口的最好特效藥。

用寬恕的心來感謝曾經傷害過您的所有人和事，因為他們讓您有機會在不同的經驗中學習成長，寬恕使您把不愉快的往事真正地放下，可以張開眼睛重新審視您的過去，然後勇敢地迎向未來。

跟別人談了一會，有點很想哭出來的感覺，才發現自己竟已是那樣的疲憊。

這件事，原來已經拖得太久太久了。連做夢都夢見自己說出來了，為甚麼現實就是一直開不了口？

是我太顧慮別人的感受？還是太害怕傷害別人？抑或是骨子裡不想受傷的是自己？

說吧，真的不想再拖了。

懷念

再次聽到這首歌，突然很懷念這首歌背後的那個故事，那個地方，和那時的我。

七里香 曲：周傑倫 | 詞：方文山    窗外的麻雀 在電線桿上多嘴 你說這一句 很有夏天的感覺 手中的鉛筆 在紙上來來回回 我用幾行字形容你是我的誰 秋刀魚 的滋味 貓跟你都想瞭解 初戀的香味就這樣被我們尋回 那溫暖 的陽光 像剛摘的鮮艷草莓 你說你捨不得吃掉這一種感覺 雨下整夜 我的愛溢出就像雨水 院子落葉 跟我的思念厚厚一迭 幾句是非 也無法將我的熱情冷卻 你出現在我詩的每一頁 雨下整夜 我的愛溢出就像雨水 窗台蝴蝶 像詩裡紛飛的美麗章節 我接著寫 把永遠愛你寫進詩的結尾 你是我唯一想要的瞭解 那飽滿 的稻穗 幸福了這個季節 而你的臉頰像田裡熟透的蕃茄 你突然 對我說 七里香的名字很美 我此刻卻只想親吻你倔強的嘴

1. Be Proactive. Here, Covey emphasizes the original sense of the term "proactive" as coined by Victor Frankl. You can either be proactive or reactive when it comes to how you respond to certain things. When you are reactive, you blame other people and circumstances for obstacles or problems. Being proactive means taking responsibility for every aspect of your life. Initiative and taking action will then follow. Covey also shows how man is different from other animals in that he has self-consciousness. He has the ability to detach himself and observe his own self; think about his thoughts. He goes on to say how this attribute enables him: It gives him the power not to be affected by his circumstances. Covey talks about stimulus and response. Between stimulus and response, we have the power of free will to choose our response.
2. Begin with the End In Mind. This chapter is about setting long-term goals based on "true north" principles. Covey recommends formulating a "personal vision statement" to document one's perception of one's own vision in life. He sees visualization as an important tool to develop this. He also deals with organizational vision statements, which he claims to be more effective if developed and supported by all members of an organization rather than prescribed.
3. Put First Things First. Here, Covey describes a framework for prioritizing work that is aimed at short-term goals, at the expense of tasks that appear not to be urgent, but are in fact very important. Delegation is presented as an important part of time management. Successful delegation, according to Covey, focuses on results and benchmarks that are to be agreed upon in advance, rather than prescribed as detailed work plans.
4. Think Win/Win describes an attitude whereby mutually beneficial solutions are sought that satisfy the needs of oneself, or, in the case of a conflict, both parties involved.
5. Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood. Covey warns that giving out advice before having empathetically understood a person and their situation will likely result in rejection of that advice. Thoroughly reading out your own autobiography will decrease the chance of establishing a working communication.
6. Synergize describes a way of working in teams. Apply effective problem solving. Apply collaborative decision making. Value differences. Build on divergent strengths. Leverage creative collaboration. Embrace and leverage innovation. It is put forth that when synergy is pursued as a habit, the result of the teamwork will exceed the sum of what each of the members could have achieved on their own. “The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.”
7. Sharpen the saw focuses on balanced self-satisfaction: Regain what Covey calls "production capability" by engaging in carefully selected recreational activities.