heyy omg i love your site! its soo awesome and i was just wondering if you could give me some advice. So wel i have 3 groups of friends basically, its me and the 'slutty girls' as my sister would say, then me and 'the nice girls' and me and the 'metco girls'. I am true friends with thr nice girls and 'slutty' girls but they arent sluts at all just so you know. Anyways, my sister says that the metco girls dont really like me that much and im just a tag along because they are all either peurto rican or black. I am friends with some of them, true friends who tell me their secrets but other ones dont like me as much, i dont want to be friends with the ones who truly like me but there is no way i can be friends with them and the other girls be okay with it, please help me, this probaly sounds confusing. Thanks :)
i say: i get it:) tell your true friends in the metco group that you really like them as a friend, and want to be close, and if they hear that you've talked trash about them and it's not true, tell them its not. you're innocent, and if they dont believe you its their loss, or be like, why would i say you're a bitch? i always talk to you and smile. i wouldnt do that to someone i hate and you can also come clean like, i don't really think that (a girl in the group who hates you) doesnt like me much, and is just talking about me to you guys because they dont want me to be friends with you guys.. thats the more mature way. the immature way is to hide the friendship, like just say hi at school and than call them after school and get together over the weekend andmake sure the other girls in the metco group dont see you guys. i recommend the mature way because well, it's easier, and it shows them your an honest person :)
to swimgirlx95:
theres a boy whose about 2 years older hes friends with my brother and im in love with him but he has a girlfriend and hes moving but i dont wanna not like him! what should i do message backk please
i say: it's fun to lust over someone because they're super hot, or really nice to you. i was always scoping out for hot guys because i love that feeling of liking someone. i liked this guy for 4 years who was 2 years younger, becuase he was so hot, but i realized i wasn't really interested in anyone else. i'm sorry to say, you don't have a real shot, especially right now, becaue he's already seeing someone, and is moving. i didnt want to forget my boy, but than i had to pull away because it hurt a little because iknew there would never be anything beteween us.ik you dont want to forget him,but my advice is to. but if you really dont , than... first, if he ever breaks up with his gf, tell him you like him. second, just think about him a lot, and always keep him in your memory. third, when you go somewhere, like idk the movies, a carnival, evena library to study, just think, oh me and so and so could have gone here together. fourth, keep in touch with him, if u actualy really dont want to forget him. hope i helped. message me back if you want to ask more.
to: whatta_lost_causeex3: hayy. this is a really cute site. and if you're still doing it and give me advice, i'll probably love you forever. Anyways i was dating this kid since feb of 2008, so not that long. I then got a job and met this other boy named kevin. i loved working with kevin, he made me laugh constantly and i actually enjoyed going to work when he was there. We became pretty close friends at work, although we had never hung out outside of work. This was mostly because of my boyfriend tommy at the time. i was constantly busy with tommy and i actually thought that i loved this kid more than anything, that is before i met kevin. Tommy then proceeded to cheat on me and tell me, this hurt bad and we ended up taking a short break. I told kevin everything, like always. He was always there for me and even on the day that i found out how tommy cheated on me, which i was sadder than sad about he still managed to make me laugh and forget the whole thing. A few days later i got a message from kevin, who was a little tipsy at the time, but anyways he pretty much spilled his guts telling me he liked me. Things then got better with tommy, and kevin wasn't very happy with this and we no longer spoke to eachother. Things were amazing with tommy and then started to slowly fall apart, ever since he had cheated on me we just couldn't be ourselves around eachother. i started contemplating breaking up, but it was too hard for me to do, as much as he pissed me off i couldn't imagine not having him. So i went to work one day with this all on my mind, when sunddenly kevin walked in and we started talking liek nothing had ever happened between us. i had the best time of my life that day. i told him about my tommy situation and he told me i should just dump the kid, of course he was going to say that, he liked me. but things got harder and harder between me and tommy and we eventually ended it. kevin was the first person i told, right after my best friend pat. anyways me and kevin started hanging out more and more. i started really like him, alot. but there was one thing holding me back, the age difference. I'm 16 and Kevin is 19. i tried not to think about that much, i mean he made me happy and i was able to be myself around him. We hung out for the first time outside of work on the fourth of july, let me just tell you i have never ever had that much fun doing nothing in my life. All we did was sit and talk and the time went by so fast, but i had a blast. I'm pretty sure i could talk to him forever and it would never get old. The next day he left for wisconsin and he had promised me that night he would text/call me everyday. he kept his promise and the night he came back he came to my house to see me. i missed him so much. we talked and played basketball and laid in the grass looking at the sky. Again the time flew by. He left that next morning to go back to wisconsin and we talk all the time still. I like kevin alottt, but what if i'm still thinking about tommy? i mean i'm over him but i can't stand to see him with some girls. He's hanging out with one of my worst enemies chloe, just to make me mad, and i guess it's working. But what about the age difference between me and kev? do you see this as a problem?
wat we say: i know you didn't come here for a lecture, but i have to tell you anyway, just once! wat you did to kevin was wrong. tommy CHEATED. that's so low. and after some time passed, it didn't seem AS big as wen it first happened, but there are things that are too mean and too low to be forgotten about. kevin seems really really sweet. forget about the age difference, tho it will be really hard to keep in touch with him especially with the distance. and make sure u dont go too far with him, or you'll be arrested. but yeah, 16 and 19 isn't that big. like 13 and 10 is a pretty big gap, even though its the same number of years, 10 and 13 year olds have different maturity levels, and 16 and 19 are pretty much the same, so don't really worry about that and ik your gonna be pissed at me for saying this but .... your not completely over tommy either, if it still makes you mad to see him with other girls. all i can say is GET OVER HIM! FORGET HIM~! go on google and look up how to forget a guy.... and don't let tommy win by being jealous, or just don't show him ur jealous at least. stick wiht kevin, and try ur best to forget your ex
to mazinnn_aim_profilesx01: Hey, my name is Leighanna and i need some major advice.so i use to be best friends with this girl, but one night we got into this arguement because she caused the break up of me and my boyfriend. And when me and my boyfriend broke up he said he never wanted to speak to me again and he didnt want anything to do with me. I was very confused about that and i found out it was because of my freind starting rumors. Now me and my ex-boyfriend have been talking but it seems to be that i just can't get over him because every single time i talk to him i just like him even more, i try to stop talking to him but i just can't do that, help me please, i want to get over him. please and thank you (:
we say: ouch, that girls a bitch. hopefully you know that and ended the friendship. screw if she apoligizes. sometimes there are things that DON"T deserve to be forgiven. get over him? yeah that is really hard. i had a hard breakup witha guy in february and i still can't get over it!! i've tried going out with new guys and you know avoiding love stories, and just watching sitcoms, but it's still hard. everywhere i went, for some reason, i was just reminded of him. i took mi two cousins to an aquarium and all of a sudden he popped into my head! i was thinking, gee, me and him coulda come here. but it's been a really long time now, and i'm starting to forget. but take all the stuff that reminds him of you and put it in a box and put it away so u dont have to think about it. lust after different guys, even celebrities. hope we helped!!
to thatsaliexo:
hi there. i moved from maine to tennessee last year. well i went to high school and i have liked this one guy, and never told him. well he is a grade older than i am. i am going to be a sophomore and he is going to be a junior. i really want to tell him i like him, but i don't know if i should or how i should. school starts again in the beginning of august and i still like him. is it just because he is one of my good friends that i can relate to or is it because i really do like him. i was hurt very badly in my last relationship and i finally got over him after two years. what should i do, should i tell him or not?
wat we say: well, i think the MAJOR reason you like him is because your so close to him. my sister was really good friends with this one guy and they were like great friends, but early in their friendship, he told her he liked her. she was a little uncomfortable with it at first, but it didn't really stifle the relationship too much. time really heals everything. but yeah, than this year, the two got even closer, and my sister tild me she liked him. so i think that for the most part, yhou like him because hes so close to you, but you know everything about him, or most of it, and just like him. just tell him. if he doesnt like you, well, he doesnt. and hopefuly things dont get akward. it might, or it won't. but after some time i think you guys will still be good friends. if he likes you, yay! :) you don't want to regret about what might have happened.
hey, i asked for advice before, and i hope you dont mind if i ask again. note that its something way different this timee. (: it's about one of my best friends. lets call my best friend CAT. so anyway, cat used to be really nice and all that, til she got mixed up with another clique. the clique i am in, [which would be the one she was previously in] is probably average when you talk about popularity. her other best friend is in the popular clique, lets call her other best friend DOG. ok so, cat went to sit with dog at the popular table for one single day, and she never returned to ours. everyone got angry at her except me, i told cat that it was okay that she moved over with dog, and cat told me thanks for understanding. we grew apart a little, but then we kinda got back to being best friends. now we're growing apart, and i feel like i barely know cat, cause cats acting exactly like dog. i can barely talk to her the same way, knowing that shes like them now. by the way, dog and all her popular friends, hate me and all my friends. so im afraid that dog is going to turn cat into one of them [the popular clique]. cat told me that we'd be best friends for a long time, and no one could split us apart. it seems to me that cat really isnt keeping her promise, because she seems to be turning on me. so the question is what should i do? should i tell her calmly about it, or just let her drift off and let us grow apart, and let her decide what she wants? well, thanks again :].
your friend is all talk but no action. first, i want to say good job for being the mature one and being okay that she made some new friends and moved to a new table. cat.. the more she hangs out with people that don't like you, i'm almost 100% positive she will eventually turn on you. if she was a true friend, she wouldn't but if she's letting you guys drift apart and seems to turn on you than she might not be for real. theres a lot of exceptions to this problem, but it's common. trust your instict. crappy advice, rite? but if you go with your gut feeling it usually turns out okay. you probly already have a bunch of other close friends besides cat. bond with them more and get closer. if you want, telling her once about how you feel calmly could work. but she probably wouldn't go back to the way she was again or she might be all normal but than drift a way again. don't cry over her, because if she doesn't like you as much or is lietting uyou guys drift away, she isnt worth your time. just enjoy life and your other great friends :) if you need more help, feel TOTALLY free to ask us more baout it.
hey, i need your help.
so i've pretty much been in love with my guy best friend for like 4 years now.. i know crazy. i've talked to him around 3 times about me liking him, its usually once a year (i'm pretty predictable) and the first 2 times he said 'i dont know how i feel about it, i always just thought of us as friends and theres so much going on.' blahh. the last time i told him was when he told a bunch of people he was going with me to the semi, and then lied to me and told me he couldnt go. I spazzed and i was like 'you tell everyone you're going with me, and now you can't go. why do you do this to me, seriously? you know how i feel about this' we didnt talk for 2 weeks after that. everyday now theres a few texts back and forth, and then at about 8-9 in there he calls me. Usually we dont get off till 1 or 2. The past week he's told me: i have really nice blue eyes, that i looked so pretty the one time we were hanging out, yelled at his cousin for saying something and was like 'please stop, i'm on the phone with a lady and she doesnt need to hear that', invites me over his house all the time, talks about literally everything with me, theres a heart to heart like every night about everything. Am I crazy? Is he messing with me? I don't get how i can be good enough to be his best friend but him not want to be anything more, when he acts like this. He doesnt talk to any other girls on the phone ever. His parents love me, and mine love him. I just dont know whether to move on, talk to him, stop talking to him, what. Help.
there's a common theme among all these questions. most of these boys are just being HUGE jerks. and most of you are asking should i dump him? should i get over him? the truth is. if he treated you bad once, he doesn't DESERVE your respect or love, and he problably will hurt you again. people don't really change who they are. once a troublemaker, always a trouble maker. you should still be friends with him i think , because he can't break your heart really. if you arecontinue to be this guyus friend don't be surprised if he does this sort of emotional sabotage for you. don't go blaming and expecting it, but be on the lookout.
heyy. i really hope you'd have the time to give me some advice. i'm actually from the philippines.=] i really appreciate the effort you guys are giving just to help. so here goes. well, i had a pretty good relationship with my boyfriend for six months. we we're great and very happy. honestly, the reason why i really love him is because he saved me in my lowest days in school when i really wanna quit and transfer, since we are from a science high school. so, things we're super but not really perfect so he promised me one friday night that he'll be a better boyfriend. but after the weekend he was ignoring me at school, he wasn't even looking at me. so i confronted him. he told me his mom asked him to break up with me coz she wants him to focus on his studies first. and so he did. but after a couple of days, he was courting one of our classmates. he lied to me about his mom and i'm so confused right now. it's been three months since we broke up and now, they're a couple. i don't know what to do, they're still my classmates next school year and i couldn't bear to see them together. now i'm considering to transfer again since i'm having a harder time in school and i'm really stressed everyday of the schoolwork. i haven't even had time for myself in months. please, i really want to make him see what he did was wrong.
it's good that you realized that this guys totally wrong and a complete jerk. maybe calling him or talking to him face to face will work. confront him. tell him how you feel and whats happening and that your going down, and it's all cuz of him. but than, you shouldn't let ONE GUY bring you down like this. imagine if this boy never came into your life, and u pulled urself together and became successful? try and ignore it. if you think that transferring schools is a good i dea, do it.. but remember you cant always run away from your problems!!
I'm never really on xanga so I was wondering if you could possibly E-Mail the advice to me (shannyyyyxo@yahoo.com)? If not I'll try and get back here to cheak but I really need help and none of my friends seem to understand.
Okay so there is this boy... let's call him Fred. I've liked Fred for about nine or so months. He is a major player. Yet, he is also a best friend of mine. I lost a bunch of friend over him because they all hated him but I couldn't see why and I wasn't going to lose him over their selfish opinion. In September he really liked one of my best friends.. let's call her Emily. So me, trying to be a good friend hooked them up just trying to make him happy even though I knew it was going to hurt me... a lot. Emily was the longest relationship he ever had (it was almost a month) then Emily broke up with him. The breakup didn't go to well. He couldn't handle being her friend it was to hard for him. But I stuck by his side the whole time. He swear's he's still in love with Emily though. Last week he said some pretty mean stuff to Emily (he never feels bad about anything he says, but this he did, so it was big) so I called him at ten o' clock to see what was going on. We started talking and he was like "I'm so tired of getting hurt by girls. I just want to fall happily in love." So I was like "you need to find a girl that you know would never hurt you in a million years, one that would be there for you through up and down." Then he was like "the weirdest thing just happend I realize it's been you. It's been you all along. Shannon, I love you." (I'm Shannon if you didn't get that.) It was the weirdest, best feeling ever. We stayed on the phone talking about how we loved the feeling of knowing we found each other untill 12:30 PM. Then yesterday, he IMed (this is FOUR days after he told me he loved me) and told me that it was to weird. I was more of a sister to him than anything... it hurt me really bad. I never thought I could cry that hard over one boy. Now I told him I never wanted to see him again and that I hated him .. wich is a lie.. I really do love him more than words could ever explain. When I see him at school my heart sinks. Sometimes I just wish I could run up and give him a big hug and tell him how sorry I am and other times I just want to smack him in the face. I don't know if I did the right thing or not. Not being his friend is killing me. Being his friend kills me. Knowing that I'll never be more than just a sister to him kills me. I hate everything about him yet I love him with all my heart. I would give up forever for him. I just don't know what to do anymore! Help?
Sorry if that was really confusing. I started to cry while I typed it so I'm not even sure if half of it is spelled right. Any help would be amazing.
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our advise
forget him. really. you know you shouldn't hang around this guy. players never make out to be good boyfriends, and unless he gets his act together, you should forget him. i know it'll be hard because it's always hard to forget someone you've been obsessing over forever and you almost had them. have trouble forgeting him? read the advice given below, and there's something about how to forget him. and don't be friends with him until you are definitely sure you are onehundred percent over him, but that shouldn't be anytime soon. and don't be sorry to him. he broke your heart, and probably knew exactly what he was doing. either that, he is a very confused boy who doesnt know what he wants. sorry about him! just leave him!
for yayitstayy:
okay so this is totally not like me to tell random people i don't know about my personal life but i came across your site and saw the little advice box and thought i would wing it, i'm a mess and desperate..
so i dated this guy for over 8 months and we had everything you would ever want in a relationship. but then i hit a point where i realized i'm only 16 and having such a serious relationship with this guy was bad for me. the relationship wasn't bad, the guy wasn't bad. it was just like a bad time in my life, i pushed all my friends and everyone in my life away and devoted my life to him, and i was having enough trouble taking care of myself and doing things for me that i realized i couldn't do it for two people anymore. i also came to realize that i wasn't going to marry him and i was giving way to much of myself and my life to him. so to make it short, about a month ago i broke up with him. and i was the happiest i have ever been i just felt like a load was lifted off my shoulders and i was free. life was amazing i reconnected with my friends and school and myself. it was amazing. me and jeff still talked alot and we were still really close, life was good. then easter weekend i was stranded at my grandparents house in the middle of no where, had no one to talk to or anything so i just did alot of thinking. i thought loong and hard and cried alot, i decided i need jeff back in my life as my boyfriend and i was miserable. when i got back home i called him thinking we could work everything out and he would easily take me back because he still liked me so much, but i was wrong. i called him and told him everything and he just said no i cant take you back. so basically for over a week i was a complete mess and just cried literally all the time and didnt sleep or eat at all. alot of good things did come out of this though, i became really really close with my old best friend again and she helped me so much, i also became alot closer with God. i dont know about you, but i am a catholic that is not at all a religious person and i really turned to him a this time. so long story short over the last couple weeks i have realized alot of things. - i dont need jeff, i'm better with out him. -i have a lot of great people surrounding me so i can fake happy now.. however, i'm still a mess. i miss him more than anything in the whole world and feel like a part of me is missing (cliche i know but i do), i also cant see him hear his name talk about love what so ever or anything that some how has to do with me and jeff with out cry i cry all the time and i have no confidence and basically hate myself. the worst part is i lost my virginity to him.. i know people dont really care that much about virginity these days and i dont know your opinion on it, but i hate my self for doing anything sexual with him. i feel like he has such a big part of me and i gave so much to him for nothing. (..no one really knows this and this is such a big piece so i really need help with this part) he was such a big part in my life and we arent even friends now. :/
so i'm sorry i rambled on and you had to waste your time reading this, but i'm a mess and i cant handle this. everyone i talk to just says oh get over him your fine. but it's not that easy i need help. please help me if you can. any advice on any of this would be amazing.
our advice
awesome that you got back with your best friend and got closer with god! i think it's totally true that you're better off without your boyfriend. even though your not that well off right now, its better than giving up half of urself as a person to him when you're together. it's just better to be upset right now. sounds like that you're having trouble getting over him, although you deff dont need him. first, if you didn't do so already, do not talk to him, don't say hi, don't look at him if you can,. just pretend he doesn't exist. it's hard and werid, but that's the first thing you have to do to get over him. try putting all your photo's and things he got you or things that remind you of him in a box. throw it away. you mite regret it later on after you get over him, but you can't get over it witht hat stuff laying around, or you can give it all to jeff. than, treat yourself. if i knew you personally, i'd give you thirty bucks to spend on bubble bath, smelly soaps, ice cream, candy, and your favorite comfort food. girls , when their upset, pig out and eat loads of candy and sugar. it'll be your comfort food. when you start to feel better about yourself with relaxing strawberry bubbles and vanilla soap and pigging out infront of a sitcom no lovey movies, it'll make u feel so much better. i think your virginity is an important part, and it should have been someone you really loved, unless you really thought you loved him and he was worth it. this doesn't sound something professional, but think of all those people in the world that are slutty and give themselves away frequently, and are younger than you. sometimes, wen i feel down, ithink of people who are worse off than me. that might not help, but it was an idea. i can see tnd hat you really are upset about giving up your virginity and it is a big loss, but you can make up by not doing intercourse until you get married or plan on getting married with him. and take my advice on how to get over him!
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hey i got ur msg and figured im always looking 4 advice so y not? i think i already asked u a question bout my crush awhile bac, so ill ask bout something else now. k so hav u ever felt like...like u dont realy fit in with ur friends anymore? i mean right now theres only 3 friends that i feel like i fit in with and dont get annoyed with often. cuzmost of my other friends r very, well kinda crazy sometimes and im usually calm. were just so different. also hav u ever felt like ud be better off wihtout one of ur friends cuz uve grown apart? i feel like that but i hav no idea how 2 tell her so right now im just faking it. ya i kno thats bad =[ so if u got any adivce let me kno. thx =]. sry im confusing lol
our advise i know waht it feels like to be in that position where you don't feel like you really fit in with your friends more. if your really uncomforatble, the easy way is to just try and drift away form those rowdy people and make other friends. don't ignore them, talk to them when they do to you, but if it makes you uncomfortable, just drift.. or u can talk to them that you dont really want to be friends anymore and don't want anything to be akward, but depending on their personality they can take it the wrong way or talk about you. and with the person you don't really like as much anymore, i can totaly realte to that as well. drifting away is probably the best choice, and try to slowly space things away, like, if you guys are in tennis together, join other clubs and sports that take up more time that she doesn't do. or schedule a diff. tennis time than hers and say your schedule is jammed. or you can always tell her that you feel like everyhting's been changing and you think that we should go seperate ways. hope we helped!
to heartbreakk__x33
kayy, i need some advice. =]. so, there's this boy, and i like him so muchhh. he lives in the same town so, i see him out a lot and stuff. but the problem is, he's two years older than me. & at first i didn't really care, but, i keep thinking that it makes a huge difference... does it?? i feel like immature or something because he's two years older. it feels like it makes a huge difference because ...ya know - he has like a million friends that are girls and does a lotta different stuff than i do because i'm two years younger than himm. anyway, is there any advice you could give me on how to find out if he likes me too? cause he gets all nervous around me, and i catch a glance often from him. but, is there anything else to narrow it down? i keep thinking i'm rediculous to actually believe that theres a chance =\, am i [honestly]? from breakoftheheart. =] thanks so muchhhh.
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Ok, well if guys like you, they should get a lil nervous around you. Also, it’s easy to tell if he stares at you. Some guys stare just like RIGHT out at you and it gets kinda weird, but other times, they like look up and down … a test is like , pretend not to look at him, but make sure to see what he’s doing in the corner of your eye. If he looks up at you at least once, there’s a probable chance he likes you. And if he teases you in a good way, laughing, and joking, that’s a nother sign. Oh, and make sure you always smell good! Random, ik, but boys loving hugging a girl and taking in the sweet scent of her shampoo and her peach body wash. Don’t worry too much about the age difference. It’s a little wide, but it’s not that bad. There are plenty of people ik that have an age difference of 4 years, but make sure your parents are ok with someone whose a little older and more mature than you, because if you ever end up going out with this guy, your parents will always be suspicious of what’s happening if they know if they don’t’ like how much older he is. If he doesn’t like you or your parents don’t like him, you should probably move on. Harsh, but never give up that he might still like you, just look for someone else, because you don’t want to be the one waiting forever for a guy who migtht never like you. We hope everything turns out all right and he likes you!! :]
to xJuliaBeex: first, i hope that you got over the fact that people are making a huge deal out oft his note. i don't know how long ago you "sent it" but i hope it was long enough to make people forget about it and for you to move on :] you should still talk to this guy, but you shouldn't make the first move anymore with asking him out. if he says now again, that will be really akward and it's probable that he feels your too desperate or something. make good conversation online and let him get to know you, but make sure you talk at schoool as welL! if you end up going out, but never talked to each other face to face, there might be some tension and nerves when you talk with him. wait until this guy shows any signals of liking you. if he does, he will stare at you and find little ways to touch you , like hands colliding, and him standing really close to you. if he goes out with another girl again, you should probably start looking out for other guys, but don't give up ENTIRELY on this one... you just don't want to be waiting around forever while he goes off. hope we helped!!
-- kate
To: Confuzzled
ok so i kinda need advice:
theres this girl that i have been friends with for a long time {since third grade} but since sometime last year shes really changed...i mean she used to lie sometimes but now she lies ALOT and its starting to bug me. on top of that i can't trust her and there is strict evidence that she possibly likes my bf, and she has a bf! i have made a lot of new friends since the beginning of this yr and in comparrison they r so much better friends. and sometimes the way this girl treats me is not in a friend like way...i mean what friend would say they were gonna spread bad rumors bout you hmm? well i don't know what to do and i would like to know if you think i should stay friends with her or not. please help if you can...
-confuzzled
Itss_Insane's advice
it sounds like this girl is having some problems. it's a real shame that someone you've known for so long is acting weird like this. first, i dont' think you should be friends with this girl anymore. she obviously has changed a lot in the worst way, and you don't need to put up with that. being friends with her right now just hurts emotionally but this friendship can snowball into a bigger and more serious probem later in life. and if you believe that the evidence about her liking your bf strongly, you should talk with her bf first and ask if anything weird is going on in their relationship and hint that he should talk to his girlfriend on where the relationship is going. if the evidence is really strong, you should probably talk to this socalled "friend" try and ignore the lying and the gossiping. eventually, most people will see that she's a liar and won't believe her much in the future
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To: Shattered Inside
I'm in need of advice.. here's the story: about two years ago, i started dating a great guy, and he was my first actual boyfriend. I fell head over heels for him, completely unexpectedly. we were together for about nine months, when we broke up. it wasn't completely horrible, because he kept telling me he missed me.. and so he asked me back out. of course, i said yes. we dated for about seven months, and then he just plain broke up with me. "just friends" he said. I couldn't take it, i still can't take it. none of my friends know, but ive been depressed these last five months. my parents threatened to take me to the doctor and/or a shrink. i can't do that. but i still don't see how i can live. i feel stupid, knowing i trusted a guy, knowing i actually relied on someone. he's told me hes over me, he's said that he never wants me back.. and i don't know what i can do. please help me.
Itss_Insane's advice
Don't be depressed! He's not worth it, hes a boy! Boys dont know what their hearts want so then they act stupid and blow people off. Just think you dont need him. YOU DONT NEED HIM. You have friends, and a loving family right? If it bothers you wayy to much and you guys are just friends you should talk to him and ask him why he made you trust him and then just wanted to be friends.
Your making a big deal out of this boy, boys come and go, but you have friends and family foreverrr, boys will be boys.
Just forget about him, maybe you will be happier without him.
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To: Lauren
hey guys! i need some advise please =]
so theres this guy and i like him, like A LOT!
but heres the problem... he'll NEVER notice me. I just wish he would tho =I
but heres the sad part... a few months ago he moved across the contry and i miss him more than ANYTHING!
is it finally time to just give up??
-Love, lauren
Itss_Insane's advice
No Never Give Up! Talk to him online or something, text message him or whatever. Once you 2 get closer maybe even call him. But it is time to give up just a little...far away relationsips probably wont work (but if you think they will go for it). Just try to be his friend and nothing more then that. We all know boyfriends come and go but friends always are there so just think about it..youll always have him if you get to be friends (:
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To: Leighanna
hey, im leighanna, i need major advice!
so ive known this guy for about 4 years and were liek best friends and recently started dateing, i think i want to tell him i love him because ive known him forever and we talk and hang out all the time, but i dont know how hes going to react ro if he feels the same. btu he told me he liked me for a long time but i just dont know if i should tell him i love him because i dont know if it would ruin are relationship and our friendship, helpp pleasee!
love leighanna
Itss_Insane's advice
Your dating him you said? Like boyfriend and girlfriend dating? Well if you are why not tell him! Your bf&gf cause you love eachother. If thats not the case and you guys just hang out then i think you should go for it. Tell him you love him. But first tell him that he should promise it wont change anything. And its your decisionn no matter what, just remember that. If you think your ready then Go for it!
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To: ignores me then loves me
this guy i like sits next to me in two of my classes. in one of my classes he talks to me sometimes and teases me but most of the time he talks to the girl next to him. than in the next class we have together he talks to me a lot and stuff. i don't get why he pays attention to me half the time and the other half he ignores me. help!
Itss_Insane's advice
Well, maybe he thinks the other girl is kind of cool and is just acting cool around her, to make her think he is cool. But when she is not there he is actually himself and likes to talk to you.
Bottom Line is; I thinks he just thinks the other girl is cooler and wants to impress her, but really he likes you, and is just affraid to admit it.
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To: Just a friend
Hey. Cute site.I need some advice and was wondering if you could help me out. I have this boyfriend whom I've been friends with for 6 years and we just recently started dating. He's never had a girlfriend before but I've had several boyfriends, and compared to my other boyfriends, he acts nothing like a boyfriend should. He never calls, he can never hang out and we barely talk. He acts more like a friend. I don't know what to do or even what to think about it? Is there something I can say or do to let him know he's not exactly acting like boyfriend material? Thanks a bunch!!
<3 Just a friend.
Itss_Insane's advice
Well, maybe since it's his first girlfriend you should be calm with him and let him take his time. make him feel confortable around you, and treat him like a "boyfriend".. If he doesn't get used to it and is not acting like a boyfriend maybe you should take him to the side and talk to him. Tell him that it seems like he isn't really into the relationship because he never calls, barely talks to you, and you never hang out and just ask him if he could try to do that more. Make sure you let him know that you are not mad at him you just wanted to make sure he was into it. And just remeber..weren't you kind of shy with your first boyfriend? hehe .
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To: Depressed because of her
You might think this is stupid, But it's serious for me. 1. There's this little **, (i'm 13.) Who keeps spreading rumors about me and stuff. I'm getting annoyed, She's not moved on from being all "whaa. i miss you." but I am.
2. I call her mom, asking for her, to talk things out. I leave a voicemail.
3. She calls me back.
Here was our convosation
Me:Hello Her: I'm sick if you bringing trouble to our house, This is your first and only warning. i know you've been spreading rumors about Brianna, and I hear it is you. Me:What? She does it to me! Her:Excuse me? Me:Yeah. Her:Well, I'm going to call your then the police station. (Now I'm thinking, oh sure. my mom hates you jerk and your screwed up family) Me: Okay? Her: Yeah. Bye. Me: Sor --
She hangs up. It's been bugging the **** out of me. What should I do?
1. Let it go. 2. Call the police for harrasing me on the phone like that. 3. Something else?
& on school mon. i'm gonna give bri the silent treatment. oh yeah and she says,
her:briannas moved on you haven't.
i almost laughed. o_o I can't stand her ruining my life. - Depressed Because Of Her
Itss_Insane's advice
Woah. Okay well i bet that was a lie about her calling the police because, what are the police going to do about it? People spread rumors all the time. Do #3. Something else. That something else is,
Talk to Brianna privatly at school, ALONE. And ask her why she is lieing to her mom about you starting everything when your just the victum of it. Tell her you haven't forgot about her, but you only remember her as wicked witch :P. Tell her that you don't want to be friends but you would appriciate it if she would stop and tell her mom she was doing it!!. If she refuses yeah go with your silent treatment and tell your mom about this.
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To: like my friends brother.
okay so theres a guy i really like, but the problem is, he's my friend's brother and he's two years younger. i know thats kinda weirdd, but i seriously just think that all the guys in my grade are jerks. the problem is, is that i wish i could tell someone, especially my friend, but i keep thinking that theyd freak or get weirded out.. and also, mi friend could think that i was just friends with her cuz of her brother and thats not true at all. hes really nice, funny, and he smiles at me a lot, but idk.. just please help me out. thanks so much! :] -grace lOl and btw,i'm walking to school with him and my friend tomorrow morning
Itss_Insane's advice
Wowee thats a hardd one. Well do you trust your friend? If you do go up to her and tell her that you like her brother. But make her prmise she wont tell anyone first....and don't bring up the whole "dont think i was hanging out with you for your brother" unless she tell you she thinks you were tell her thats completely not true and you'd pick her over him anyday (which i hope is true). I dont think that liking a kid thats 2 years younger then you is weird unless like you were in 5th or 6th grade and he is in 4th or 3rd.
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To: I like this kid
I like this kid. Hes major hot. like an iron lol. big problem tho. huge actually. he was my best friend last year and one day i told all my friends that i like him. then my friend 3 months later was like, i like dylan (thats his name). so i was pretty pissed off. then one day i have to find out from another friend like outside our circle that they're going out. he started sitting at my table at lunch. i acted like it didnt bother me but it tore me in pieces. but as they were going out he would come to me for advice cause were bestfriends and that was soooo hard. well anyway the other day they broke up on their third month anniversary. she broke up with him. hes pretty bumbed out cause he was like head over heals for her. so my question is, do u think it would upset my friend if i started to like him again and like tell my friends or do u think shed get mad and hed be o depressed to give me a chance.
Itss_Insane's advice
Ah, don't you hate when that happens?? Okay well if your friend is reallyyy your friend she shouldn't get all mad at you and everything. But she could get a little upset, but just give her some time to get over it. As for "the boy", he may be a little more depressed because he was the one who got dumped. Just give him some time until he feels confortable talking and flirting with girls again and make your move and ask him to give you a chance :)
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To: Anonymous
k i know that i'm an advice site but people who give advice sometimes need it to right? Now see the problem is that i like this boy and i flirt with him alot and send him pics and stuff. not bad pics but pic and he tells me im pretty and stuff and i think he likes me too. the catch is my bestfriend likes him and she knew him first and he told me he liked her a while a go and well when i told him that seph thought i was flirting with him because i sent him pictures he said well are you? and i said not really but it doesn't matter if im am stshe likes you so i have to stay away and he says no you don't ima free man and i said she'll hate me then he said ok.. and signed off. i really like him alot but i don't want my bestfriend to hate me. i talk to him like everyday and he always always everyday asks for new pics and says im pretty and stuff i really don't know what to do.he's cute and nice and funny and i like him alot. but i really don't want to loose my bestfriend again i lost her once last year we got in a huge fight and she moved shortly after that we've known eachother for 9 years and i just don't want to hurt her. i'm so frustrated i could scream. so i have a couple questions; Should i tell him i like him? Should i tell her i like him?if i tell her and she starts to hate me what do i do?PLEASE .HELP ME
Itss_insane_advizes advice
Sounds like we've got a case of boy lovinn. If you really like this boy you should talk to your friend and try to come to an agreement, make sure she really does like this boy and you do too. When you talk to her tell her that you do like him. She shouldn't get mad at you because its not like your dating him. If you and your friend are still having problems you should make it fair and both move onto a new man and just be friends with this boy no matter how cute he is because "no boy can get in the way of a girls friendship" Both of you sound like you've been friends to long to loose eachother. If this boy happens to like you or ask you out you should most deffinatly ask your friend if she is ok with it first. And if he likes your friend or asks your friend out don't get mad at her because remember you both loved him and just sometimes things don't work out. But just remember you have a great friend!! Love,Brianna from briixomegan
To: Tennis Hottie or Tennis Loser
because this letter was very long we cannot show you what Tennis Hottie or Tennis Loser has written,
we are sorry for the inconvience! Dont forget to ask for your own advice!
Itss_insane_advize's advice
You have to remember that boys can be compettitive hehe. Keep an eye on him at your tennis clinic, when you play against him does he act like a sore loser every single time you win? Try to talk to him more at your clinic, bring up a conversation maybe by asking what school he goes to or stuff like that. Soon that will get the convos burningg. If your still worried about him being a sore loser than maybe he is, if it really seems like he is and he continues to maybe you should just move on, but like i said boys can be really competitve and so can we :] And you might have gotton it wroung, maybe he was just asking the coach why he was still there because he just didnt get why, probably not just cause he lost.I think he likes you, and he was probably watching you because i bet your very pretty and you have a great personality. Just keep trying to talk to him and make him like you more and make him like your personality. YEAH he likes youuuu :] But he might get threatend if you keep beating him, im not telling you to let him win, if a boy can't handle losing to a girl then PSHH, just whip the crap out of him. I dont think its weird that your a grade apart what do you think about it? Its probably ok because 1 year apart isnt like mature and imature. Its mostly mature.
-Love Brianna from itss_insane advize
To: Does He Like Me?
so i kinda like this guy, and he's really nice andfunny. he always makes me laugh and smile and stuff..but he's nice to everyone. how can i tell if he likes me or not?
Itss_insane_advize
Hm, first you should try to tell these 3 things, does he talk to you different then he talks to other girls? Does he get kind of nervous when you approach him to talk? Does he look at you when you walk by? Well if he does do those things then YES YES he likes you. If your not sure watch him and see. Try to flirt with him and make him like your personality. Good Luck and hope this helped.
Love,
Brii from Itss Insane Advize
To: Bad girl Vs Sweet Girl
i really like this guy in my class and he is going out with this girl everybody hates i dont know if he likes me or not how cani get him to break up with his girlfriend and then get him to ask me out
Itss_insane_advizes advice
Do you know for a fact if he likes this girl he's going out with or not? Because he might actually like her. You should find out if she's a brat and stuff to him. Does he hate her? And im not going to give you advice on how to get someone to break up with someone because if they really like eachother than they should be together. But if they don't they can break up themselves. Im sorry if you were exspecting me to tell you how to get him to break up with her, but then you would have to tell a lie about them.
Love, Brianna from its insane advize
To: Him highschool: Me juniorhigh
i was just wondering if you could help me with this one problem i have. you see there's this guy i really like, but he's a year older than me. we've been pretty good friends since elementary, but now we don't hang out as much because hes in highschool and im still in junior high. last summer i started talking to him more and he would always want to hang out and stuff, and i really started falling for him again. i told him how i felt and he said 'i like you too but think about it ill be in high school it just wont work' so i don't think that he really liked me. he said i was pretty and i could get much better guys but i'm guessing thats not true either. this summer i'm going to be going into high school so we will be in the same school, but i don't know if that will make a difference. i still talk to him but i just like him so much it's so hard to wait until the summer to find out. what should i do? -anomynous
Itss_insane_advizes advice
Hm. Well if he said it won't work because you will be in junior high and he will be in highschool, well then maybe this year it could work if your both in highschool. If it's too hard to wait for summer until you can find out, maybe talk to him now, it may seem weird to but ask him if maybe he could think about it working next year. And if he still doesn't really think so maybe it's because boys sometimes don't like going out with someone younger than them. If he totally won't go out with you maybe you should just find someone that is just as cute and you love just as much, but doesn't care if your younger or older.
Love, Itss insane advize
To: Missing you as a friend
k I have this problem and I don't know what to do. Well, there's guy I've known since 7th grade, well, I was in 8th grade at that time, but yeah and now he's a freshman and I'm a sophomore. Anyways, on the first week of school, I saw him and I recognized him and asked him if he was in this class and said yes. I started talking to him and it was going along well. A long time ago, me and my friends were hanging out at the bowling alley once and I saw him and his brother there. I walked over to him and talked to him, so yeah. When he was about to leave and I was still talking to him, my friends saw me with him and there were like oooo. After that I went back to my friends and asked what was that about. My friend Beka said that he was really smiling when they were squealing and thought we would look cute together, but I wondered if I do like him. I started liking him after that, I talked to him a lot like almost everyday, but then things started to get really weird. When we talked for quite a long time, he told his friends that I was stalking him, even though I don't because I treat him as a friend like I always do to people. I stopped talking to him for about two months. After two months, during lunch at school, he waved hi to me and then after lunch he said hi to me. It was weird, though because we stopped talking. During indoor soccer season and I was playing against his team he will act like nothing had happened at all. Then, one month passed and I started talking to him again and it's like the same thing all over again, then after a few weeks. I don't know the reason because I couldn't understand him at all, but he said he doesn't want to talk to me no more and this was in December too. Now it's January, we never talk no more. I found out like last Sunday that he was talking to my friend since she said this to me, he was saying that I was getting him mad and I don't know how I made him mad or what. He's going to ignore me if I say hi, but not to my friend. I really miss him as a friend and I want to talk to him again, but then again, even if I did he'll just ignore me. I know I forgot to mention this earlier, but when he says he's not talking to me why does he look at me once in awhile, he even did that today during lunch and when he had break. It's been bugging me. It's been happening ever since December, even when he said he's not talking to me, and during indoor soccer season (by the way the season is over). Do you know why he's acting this way to me? Yesterday, he looked at me and when my friend and I were going to the lunch line, he was playing around with me, he just looked at me, and he kept doing that until him and his friends left the cafeteria to go play on the field to play football. Can you tell me what to do? I want to to know ASAP! Please, help me!
Itss_insane_advizes advice
Well i dont mean to sound like a spy or anything but thats what you need to do. If one of your friends are good friends with this boy then have them help you. Cause if he won't talk to you, then have your friend ask him and things like that. If that doesn't work than maybe forget this boy even tho you do like him still. If he can't accept that you like to talk to him and he thinks yur a stalker cause of that than hes not right for you. But first you should try telling him you miss him as a friend. And, last possible thing here, maybe just start talking again just don't talk as much as you used too.
Hope this helps :]
To: Kissy Kissy..Not?
Hey! I need advice. Okay. I have a boyfriend who's going to try to kiss me. I don't know what to do. Should I let him kiss me or should I distract some way? Help me!
Itss_insane_advizes advice
Well it all starts at, Do you like him enough to kiss you? If you do then let him kiss you. I mean theres nothing bad about that, first kiss or just another kiss, there still good right? Haha lol. And if you don't like him enough...maybe tell him that you really don't think that you guys should kiss because your just not ready for it.
Love Itss_insane_advize!!
heyy. i really hope you'd have the time to give me some advice. i'm actually from the philippines.=] i really appreciate the effort you guys are giving just to help. so here goes. well, i had a pretty good relationship with my boyfriend for six months. we we're great and very happy. honestly, the reason why i really love him is because he saved me in my lowest days in school when i really wanna quit and transfer, since we are from a science high school. so, things we're super but not really perfect so he promised me one friday night that he'll be a better boyfriend. but after the weekend he was ignoring me at school, he wasn't even looking at me. so i confronted him. he told me his mom asked him to break up with me coz she wants him to focus on his studies first. and so he did. but after a couple of days, he was courting one of our classmates. he lied to me about his mom and i'm so confused right now. it's been three months since we broke up and now, they're a couple. i don't know what to do, they're still my classmates next school year and i couldn't bear to see them together. now i'm considering to transfer again since i'm having a harder time in school and i'm really stressed everyday of the schoolwork. i haven't even had time for myself in months. please, i really want to make him see what he did was wrong.
it's good that you realized that this guys totally wrong and a complete jerk. maybe calling him or talking to him face to face will work. confront him. tell him how you feel and whats happening and that your going down, and it's all cuz of him. but than, you shouldn't let ONE GUY bring you down like this. imagine if this boy never came into your life, and u pulled urself together and became successful? try and ignore it. if you think that transferring schools is a good i dea, do it.. but remember you cant always run away from your problems!!
I'm never really on xanga so I was wondering if you could possibly E-Mail the advice to me (shannyyyyxo@yahoo.com)? If not I'll try and get back here to cheak but I really need help and none of my friends seem to understand.
Okay so there is this boy... let's call him Fred. I've liked Fred for about nine or so months. He is a major player. Yet, he is also a best friend of mine. I lost a bunch of friend over him because they all hated him but I couldn't see why and I wasn't going to lose him over their selfish opinion. In September he really liked one of my best friends.. let's call her Emily. So me, trying to be a good friend hooked them up just trying to make him happy even though I knew it was going to hurt me... a lot. Emily was the longest relationship he ever had (it was almost a month) then Emily broke up with him. The breakup didn't go to well. He couldn't handle being her friend it was to hard for him. But I stuck by his side the whole time. He swear's he's still in love with Emily though. Last week he said some pretty mean stuff to Emily (he never feels bad about anything he says, but this he did, so it was big) so I called him at ten o' clock to see what was going on. We started talking and he was like "I'm so tired of getting hurt by girls. I just want to fall happily in love." So I was like "you need to find a girl that you know would never hurt you in a million years, one that would be there for you through up and down." Then he was like "the weirdest thing just happend I realize it's been you. It's been you all along. Shannon, I love you." (I'm Shannon if you didn't get that.) It was the weirdest, best feeling ever. We stayed on the phone talking about how we loved the feeling of knowing we found each other untill 12:30 PM. Then yesterday, he IMed (this is FOUR days after he told me he loved me) and told me that it was to weird. I was more of a sister to him than anything... it hurt me really bad. I never thought I could cry that hard over one boy. Now I told him I never wanted to see him again and that I hated him .. wich is a lie.. I really do love him more than words could ever explain. When I see him at school my heart sinks. Sometimes I just wish I could run up and give him a big hug and tell him how sorry I am and other times I just want to smack him in the face. I don't know if I did the right thing or not. Not being his friend is killing me. Being his friend kills me. Knowing that I'll never be more than just a sister to him kills me. I hate everything about him yet I love him with all my heart. I would give up forever for him. I just don't know what to do anymore! Help?
Sorry if that was really confusing. I started to cry while I typed it so I'm not even sure if half of it is spelled right. Any help would be amazing.
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forget him. really. you know you shouldn't hang around this guy. players never make out to be good boyfriends, and unless he gets his act together, you should forget him. i know it'll be hard because it's always hard to forget someone you've been obsessing over forever and you almost had them. have trouble forgeting him? read the advice given below, and there's something about how to forget him. and don't be friends with him until you are definitely sure you are onehundred percent over him, but that shouldn't be anytime soon. and don't be sorry to him. he broke your heart, and probably knew exactly what he was doing. either that, he is a very confused boy who doesnt know what he wants. sorry about him! just leave him!
for yayitstayy:
okay so this is totally not like me to tell random people i don't know about my personal life but i came across your site and saw the little advice box and thought i would wing it, i'm a mess and desperate..
so i dated this guy for over 8 months and we had everything you would ever want in a relationship. but then i hit a point where i realized i'm only 16 and having such a serious relationship with this guy was bad for me. the relationship wasn't bad, the guy wasn't bad. it was just like a bad time in my life, i pushed all my friends and everyone in my life away and devoted my life to him, and i was having enough trouble taking care of myself and doing things for me that i realized i couldn't do it for two people anymore. i also came to realize that i wasn't going to marry him and i was giving way to much of myself and my life to him. so to make it short, about a month ago i broke up with him. and i was the happiest i have ever been i just felt like a load was lifted off my shoulders and i was free. life was amazing i reconnected with my friends and school and myself. it was amazing. me and jeff still talked alot and we were still really close, life was good. then easter weekend i was stranded at my grandparents house in the middle of no where, had no one to talk to or anything so i just did alot of thinking. i thought loong and hard and cried alot, i decided i need jeff back in my life as my boyfriend and i was miserable. when i got back home i called him thinking we could work everything out and he would easily take me back because he still liked me so much, but i was wrong. i called him and told him everything and he just said no i cant take you back. so basically for over a week i was a complete mess and just cried literally all the time and didnt sleep or eat at all. alot of good things did come out of this though, i became really really close with my old best friend again and she helped me so much, i also became alot closer with God. i dont know about you, but i am a catholic that is not at all a religious person and i really turned to him a this time. so long story short over the last couple weeks i have realized alot of things. - i dont need jeff, i'm better with out him. -i have a lot of great people surrounding me so i can fake happy now.. however, i'm still a mess. i miss him more than anything in the whole world and feel like a part of me is missing (cliche i know but i do), i also cant see him hear his name talk about love what so ever or anything that some how has to do with me and jeff with out cry i cry all the time and i have no confidence and basically hate myself. the worst part is i lost my virginity to him.. i know people dont really care that much about virginity these days and i dont know your opinion on it, but i hate my self for doing anything sexual with him. i feel like he has such a big part of me and i gave so much to him for nothing. (..no one really knows this and this is such a big piece so i really need help with this part) he was such a big part in my life and we arent even friends now. :/
so i'm sorry i rambled on and you had to waste your time reading this, but i'm a mess and i cant handle this. everyone i talk to just says oh get over him your fine. but it's not that easy i need help. please help me if you can. any advice on any of this would be amazing.
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awesome that you got back with your best friend and got closer with god! i think it's totally true that you're better off without your boyfriend. even though your not that well off right now, its better than giving up half of urself as a person to him when you're together. it's just better to be upset right now. sounds like that you're having trouble getting over him, although you deff dont need him. first, if you didn't do so already, do not talk to him, don't say hi, don't look at him if you can,. just pretend he doesn't exist. it's hard and werid, but that's the first thing you have to do to get over him. try putting all your photo's and things he got you or things that remind you of him in a box. throw it away. you mite regret it later on after you get over him, but you can't get over it witht hat stuff laying around, or you can give it all to jeff. than, treat yourself. if i knew you personally, i'd give you thirty bucks to spend on bubble bath, smelly soaps, ice cream, candy, and your favorite comfort food. girls , when their upset, pig out and eat loads of candy and sugar. it'll be your comfort food. when you start to feel better about yourself with relaxing strawberry bubbles and vanilla soap and pigging out infront of a sitcom no lovey movies, it'll make u feel so much better. i think your virginity is an important part, and it should have been someone you really loved, unless you really thought you loved him and he was worth it. this doesn't sound something professional, but think of all those people in the world that are slutty and give themselves away frequently, and are younger than you. sometimes, wen i feel down, ithink of people who are worse off than me. that might not help, but it was an idea. i can see tnd hat you really are upset about giving up your virginity and it is a big loss, but you can make up by not doing intercourse until you get married or plan on getting married with him. and take my advice on how to get over him!
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hey i got ur msg and figured im always looking 4 advice so y not? i think i already asked u a question bout my crush awhile bac, so ill ask bout something else now. k so hav u ever felt like...like u dont realy fit in with ur friends anymore? i mean right now theres only 3 friends that i feel like i fit in with and dont get annoyed with often. cuzmost of my other friends r very, well kinda crazy sometimes and im usually calm. were just so different. also hav u ever felt like ud be better off wihtout one of ur friends cuz uve grown apart? i feel like that but i hav no idea how 2 tell her so right now im just faking it. ya i kno thats bad =[ so if u got any adivce let me kno. thx =]. sry im confusing lol
our advise i know waht it feels like to be in that position where you don't feel like you really fit in with your friends more. if your really uncomforatble, the easy way is to just try and drift away form those rowdy people and make other friends. don't ignore them, talk to them when they do to you, but if it makes you uncomfortable, just drift.. or u can talk to them that you dont really want to be friends anymore and don't want anything to be akward, but depending on their personality they can take it the wrong way or talk about you. and with the person you don't really like as much anymore, i can totaly realte to that as well. drifting away is probably the best choice, and try to slowly space things away, like, if you guys are in tennis together, join other clubs and sports that take up more time that she doesn't do. or schedule a diff. tennis time than hers and say your schedule is jammed. or you can always tell her that you feel like everyhting's been changing and you think that we should go seperate ways. hope we helped!
to heartbreakk__x33
kayy, i need some advice. =]. so, there's this boy, and i like him so muchhh. he lives in the same town so, i see him out a lot and stuff. but the problem is, he's two years older than me. & at first i didn't really care, but, i keep thinking that it makes a huge difference... does it?? i feel like immature or something because he's two years older. it feels like it makes a huge difference because ...ya know - he has like a million friends that are girls and does a lotta different stuff than i do because i'm two years younger than himm. anyway, is there any advice you could give me on how to find out if he likes me too? cause he gets all nervous around me, and i catch a glance often from him. but, is there anything else to narrow it down? i keep thinking i'm rediculous to actually believe that theres a chance =\, am i [honestly]? from breakoftheheart. =] thanks so muchhhh.
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Ok, well if guys like you, they should get a lil nervous around you. Also, it’s easy to tell if he stares at you. Some guys stare just like RIGHT out at you and it gets kinda weird, but other times, they like look up and down … a test is like , pretend not to look at him, but make sure to see what he’s doing in the corner of your eye. If he looks up at you at least once, there’s a probable chance he likes you. And if he teases you in a good way, laughing, and joking, that’s a nother sign. Oh, and make sure you always smell good! Random, ik, but boys loving hugging a girl and taking in the sweet scent of her shampoo and her peach body wash. Don’t worry too much about the age difference. It’s a little wide, but it’s not that bad. There are plenty of people ik that have an age difference of 4 years, but make sure your parents are ok with someone whose a little older and more mature than you, because if you ever end up going out with this guy, your parents will always be suspicious of what’s happening if they know if they don’t’ like how much older he is. If he doesn’t like you or your parents don’t like him, you should probably move on. Harsh, but never give up that he might still like you, just look for someone else, because you don’t want to be the one waiting forever for a guy who migtht never like you. We hope everything turns out all right and he likes you!! :]
to xJuliaBeex: first, i hope that you got over the fact that people are making a huge deal out oft his note. i don't know how long ago you "sent it" but i hope it was long enough to make people forget about it and for you to move on :] you should still talk to this guy, but you shouldn't make the first move anymore with asking him out. if he says now again, that will be really akward and it's probable that he feels your too desperate or something. make good conversation online and let him get to know you, but make sure you talk at schoool as welL! if you end up going out, but never talked to each other face to face, there might be some tension and nerves when you talk with him. wait until this guy shows any signals of liking you. if he does, he will stare at you and find little ways to touch you , like hands colliding, and him standing really close to you. if he goes out with another girl again, you should probably start looking out for other guys, but don't give up ENTIRELY on this one... you just don't want to be waiting around forever while he goes off. hope we helped!!
-- kate
To: Confuzzled
ok so i kinda need advice:
theres this girl that i have been friends with for a long time {since third grade} but since sometime last year shes really changed...i mean she used to lie sometimes but now she lies ALOT and its starting to bug me. on top of that i can't trust her and there is strict evidence that she possibly likes my bf, and she has a bf! i have made a lot of new friends since the beginning of this yr and in comparrison they r so much better friends. and sometimes the way this girl treats me is not in a friend like way...i mean what friend would say they were gonna spread bad rumors bout you hmm? well i don't know what to do and i would like to know if you think i should stay friends with her or not. please help if you can...
-confuzzled
Itss_Insane's advice
it sounds like this girl is having some problems. it's a real shame that someone you've known for so long is acting weird like this. first, i dont' think you should be friends with this girl anymore. she obviously has changed a lot in the worst way, and you don't need to put up with that. being friends with her right now just hurts emotionally but this friendship can snowball into a bigger and more serious probem later in life. and if you believe that the evidence about her liking your bf strongly, you should talk with her bf first and ask if anything weird is going on in their relationship and hint that he should talk to his girlfriend on where the relationship is going. if the evidence is really strong, you should probably talk to this socalled "friend" try and ignore the lying and the gossiping. eventually, most people will see that she's a liar and won't believe her much in the future
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To: Shattered Inside
I'm in need of advice.. here's the story: about two years ago, i started dating a great guy, and he was my first actual boyfriend. I fell head over heels for him, completely unexpectedly. we were together for about nine months, when we broke up. it wasn't completely horrible, because he kept telling me he missed me.. and so he asked me back out. of course, i said yes. we dated for about seven months, and then he just plain broke up with me. "just friends" he said. I couldn't take it, i still can't take it. none of my friends know, but ive been depressed these last five months. my parents threatened to take me to the doctor and/or a shrink. i can't do that. but i still don't see how
