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Sunday, July 20, 2008

  • What not to say from the pulpit

    Today we went to church.  Our usual pastor was not there.  We had a big name in the reformed realm preach instead.  The sermon was about the raising of Lazarus from the dead.  The intro started out fine.  Whenever a preacher mentions a book we should read I write down the title.  The book was "When I lay my Isaac Down" by Carol Kent.  (That book looks great, you can read part of it on amazon)  Then he proceeded to highly suggest a book where God is a Big-black-African-woman.  He said "I want you to stretch your minds about who God is and can be."    BUDDY, GOD CAN NOT BE A WOMAN.  I was ok with big, black and African (though that is not biblical) but when he got to woman I was ready to leave.  Steve said "wait", so I did. When we got to scripture (finally) he did focus on the power of God.  His main point was to focus on why Christ had tears during the death and resurrection of the Lazarus discourse.  Well the next thing you should never say from the pulpit when talking about Christ is "then Christ gave an obscene gesture to death".  Enough said.

     

     

Saturday, July 19, 2008

  • Nancy Wilson on Tom-boys certainly made me think.

     

    I'd like to share what it taught me about my upbringing and my value in Christ today.  I know God has taken me and molded me into a woman closer to what pleases him and not the world.  I was raised to see my worth only in a skinny, athletic femi-nazi body.  (just to let you know God stopped the athletic part with my accident, thank you Lord)  I did not graduate my senior year in HS because I flunked home-ec.  I saw cooking and home duties as useless.  Today I love that reguardless of my bad attitude towards children and headship, God still blessed me with both.  I learn so much more about my relationship with God and my husband through this article but this is a public forum and I'm not comfortable sharing.  Please enjoy the following article:

     

    Pray we have a house showing tonight.

     

     

    The Tomboy

    Nancy Wilson

    From time to time I hear parents refer to a daughter as a tomboy. They may say it with a bit of parental pride or with a tone of grave concern. Either way, the term tomboy can encompass many things. To one parent it may mean her daughter loves to ride her bicycle and play outside. She may hate fussy, fluffy dresses, and she may dislike dolls all together. But to another parent the term may mean her daughter wants to wear camouflage pants and combat boots to church and dreams of growing up to be a soldier. Obviously, these are very different. And of course there are all kinds of variations in between. What kinds of behavior should be alarming to a Christian parent? What sort of "tomboyish" behavior should be of no concern?

    In both the dictionaries I consulted, a tomboy refers to a boisterous girl who is behaving like a boisterous boy. And boisterous means loud, rough, and good-natured. And of course one thing worse than a swaggering, loud-mouthed boy is a swaggering, loud-mouthed girl, good-natured or not. Though we do want our daughters to be cheerful, we would rather not encourage them to be loud and rough, taking on spitting and belching as though these were admirable traits. In fact, Scripture exhorts women to be sober-minded and modest, two virtues that seem to be at odds with loud and rough.
    But let's think about some of the typical behavior that makes parents think they may have a tomboy on their hands. First of all, having a daughter who loves to be outdoors is not necessarily at odds with her femininity, unless she wants to be a logger or a roofer. A woman can be a skilled horseback rider, archer, or shooter, but she should not go off to war . It is a mother's duty to steer such things, teaching her daughters that God requires husbands and fathers to go to war, not daughters and mothers. In our so-called politically correct society, it is essential that we train our children to think biblically and to laugh out loud at the modern absurdities surrounding gender roles. God has made Himself abundantly clear regarding our role assignment, and it is our duty to teach our children how to enjoy themselves as His obedient creatures in this as in every other area. Daughters must be taught to have real reverence and admiration for the high calling women have been given by God, to be homemakers and life-givers. The central way to impart this is by esteeming our own calling in the home as wives and mothers.
    Sometimes parents press a child into the tomboy mold. This may come about because a mother has trouble relating to a daughter because she does not seem very feminine in her appearance or interests. In that case, she may be dubbed a tomboy. Her parents may tell her regularly that she is a tomboy, and so she will simply strive to live up to the expectation. If she is not built like a china-doll, and her sisters or friends are, she may hear comparisons way too much. "Oh, she is our little tomboy, while little sister Susie here is so feminine and pretty!" It would be much wiser to teach, instruct, and encourage the naturally unfeminine one to be more feminine than to give her up as a tomboy (and the daughter who gives herself to fluffy dresses may need a little parental restraint). When a daughter first pronounces that she will not wear a dress, her mother should laugh and gently instruct her otherwise. If she begins to wear a baseball cap constantly, her parents should insist it come off. But this should have happened long before she turned fifteen. By that time it is very difficult to turn things around.
    A girl who has been treated like a tomboy by her family may think her only future is in sports. And if she feels she cannot compete with the other girls in her looks, she may just give up all together and begin to adopt a more unfeminine persona as an attempt to say to everyone, "I don't care if you don't think I'm feminine, because I beat you to it: I don't want to be." This sort of daughter begins wearing dumpy, unfeminine clothes, and doesn't make an effort to look lovely. This may annoy a mother, which just causes her to become more critical of her daughter. "Why can't you wear a dress like the other girls? Why can't you try to look a little more feminine like your sister?" And that will only alienate the daughter all the more, increasing her insecurity, and making her more unattractive.
    Unfortunately, mothers can reinforce this by sins of omission as well: not teaching their daughters how to do their hair or makeup, not encouraging them to be comfortable with their looks or shape, not complimenting them when they look good, not buying them attractive clothes or teaching them to love the lovely. And it's no good saying, "I don't know how to do hair or makeup, so I can't teach my daughter." You'd better learn how, and quick, or get out you wallet so someone else can help.
    Finally, dads have got to act. Mothers need to help spot these things early on and enlist Dad's aid in promoting, encouraging, and supporting (financially) femininity. This does not mean going overboard on the ruffles, but rather delighting in the way God has made us male and femal, and not blurring the distinctions.

Thursday, July 17, 2008

  • Stupid jokes......sort of.


    Q. What kind of man was Boaz before he married Ruth?

    A. Ruthless.

    Q. What do they call pastors in Germany ?

    A. German Shepherds.
     
    Q. Who was the greatest financier in the Bible?
    A. Noah He was floating his stock while everyone else was in liquidation.
     
    Q. Who was the greatest female financier in the Bible?
    A. Pharaoh's daughter. She went down to the bank of the Nile and drew out a little prophet.
     
    Q. What kind of motor vehicles are in the Bible?
    A. Jehovah drove Adam and Eve out of the Garden in a Fury. David's Triumph was heard throughout the land. Also, probably a Honda, because the apostles were all in one Accord.
     
    Q.. Who was the greatest comedian in the Bible?
    A. Samson. He brought the house down.
     
    Q. What excuse did Adam give to his children as to why he no longer lived in Eden ?
    A. Your mother ate us out of house and home.
     
    Q. Which servant of God was the most flagrant lawbreaker in the Bible?
    A. Moses. He broke all 10 commandments at once.
     
    Q. Which area of Palestine was especially wealthy?
    A. The area around Jordan The banks were always overflowing.

     
    Q. Who is the greatest babysitter mentioned in the Bible
    David. He rocked Goliath to a very deep sleep. ?
    A.

     
    Q. Which Bible character had no parents?
    A. Joshua, son of Nun.
     
    Q. Why didn't they play cards on the Ark ?
    A. Because Noah was standing on the deck. (
    Groan...)
     
     

Wednesday, July 16, 2008

  • I did my favorite thing today.  I went to the mall with the boys.  Maxwell wanted a new game for his playstation, so he traded in 4 games he had beat.  He did that, then we went to look at the Hallmark Christmas ornaments.  That is my favorite thing to do.  I love to look at Christmas decorations.  I notice a new Charlie Brown ornament

    2008 0   I love Charlie Brown because the first year I met Steve I was very poor.  I was living in a sweet little apartment but I could not afford a tree.  Actually I never even thought about decorating my apartment before.   Steve took me out and bought me a tree (but I said I'd only let him buy a cheap Charlie Brown tree).  He bought musical lights (those burnt out a few years back)  I started telling him "you're a good man Charlie Brown" and he'd say "you're a good woman Lucy".  The next Christmas, we started collecting ornaments.  My sister called me and said "I found a CB ornament"  I told her I had too.  Then Christmas morning he opened her ornament first and to our surprise he said "thank you for the Linus ornament".  My sister and I both argued that he was wrong but the box clearly said "Linus" but my family said "that's ok because Heather bought a CB ornament too"  unfortunately my sister and I went to the same school to learn to read.  We had bought the same "Linus" ornament and thought it was CB.  I've never made that mistake again. 

    During Hurricane Jeane, I made Steve a CB quilt because I did not know what else to do. 

    I'm still sick.  My head is stuffed up and my body is very weak.  Maxwell's doctor called in a prescription for him today because his ears hurt.  I'm sure I'll be better soon.

     

    I'm reading the Call of the Wild with the boys.  I had never read it before but it is a great boy book.  I read an article by Nancy Wilson about Tom-Boys and I will share about that later.  It made me really think but I want to process my thoughts first. 

Sunday, July 06, 2008

  • Well I'm in NE and it is 4:30 in the morning.  Maxwell woke up.  Yesterday was my sisters 40th birthday party.  I had a good time.  Actually I had a great time.  I spent the whole time chatting with my Aunt Mim's boyfriend.  He is 72, so is she.  They had never met my children and they met Jacob first.  They were so impressed with how polite he was, so Jack, her boyfriend, immediately wanted to meet Maxwell.  Then he came over and wanted to chat with me.  We talked about Homeschooling.  You see, he taught for 28 years and he loves qualified HSers.  I'm not sure what qualified means but I think he thinks I am.  I love God and my husband, so there, in obedience and submission, I'm qualified.  He told me about a young man, who was a student of his.  This student was an older student for 7th grade.  He was disciplining this boy and he pulled a knife on Jack.  Jack talked him down and convinced him to trust him.  He started working with him but the young man was killed by the police three weeks later, when he was robbing a store.  (It was a record store, so it had to have been the 70's or 80's)  I talked with people other than Jack but it was so refreshing to be around my family and have a pro HSer around.  When he left, he just kept saying what a wonderful time he had with me.  I love older people, they are the gems of our society.

    Oh I'm in a bit of pain.  You see, I was sitting on a tall stoolwith a back, at my sister Heidi's house.  All of a sudden, the stool broke and I crashed bum first on the broken stool and then the ground.  (the stools were breaking).  My mom was very worried so to lighten the fears, I looked up and said "man, I really need to lose weight".  She laughed and called me a "jerk".  As time moved on the pain got more intense.  I'm sure our Lord will sustain me but I'm slightly worried about the 26 hour ride home. 

    Oh the boys have been really good cousins to my nephew Christopher.  They have been running with him, swinging him, and pratty much just entertaining him.  The other night he ran up to my mom and hugged her and said "Mimi, I love them"  He's so cute.  I held my new neice, Katlyn, last night for over an hour.  Oh she's beautiful.

     

    God bless you all.

     

    Oh Mel, I'll fill you in on the Charlie Brown thing this week when I'm not tuckered out.  Does anyone else know why I'm Lucy and Steve is Chuck?

Tuesday, July 01, 2008

  • trips not going as planned.

    Its 6:30 and our battery is dead.  We have been waiting for AAA.  The kids are disappointed and I'm blogging.

    Last night was long.  @9:15 the streets were lit up with a fire truck and an ambulance.  They were there removing buddy.  He had fallen and cracked his head open.  We did not know why they were there at first and both of us were very nervous.  I would have gone down to see what had happened but I'm just the cookie lady.  I sat and prayed. Steve was kneeling in the shadows of our garage praying.  I like Steve, he always surprises me.  

     

    OOOOOOOOOOOO their here. Bye.

Saturday, June 28, 2008

  • I had dinner with momof2j's tonight.  This world is small.  She knows my dear sister Margaret.  Hanging out with her was so much fun.  We laughed over wine and cheese.  It was good to laugh.

     

     

    It made me miss you and Kathryn.  The good news is I'll maybe see you all this week.   

Friday, June 27, 2008

  • We went over to Buddy's house yesterday.  We had a nice time and he was grateful to have friends visiting.  Our kids asked as soon as we got home  "Did you tell him about Christ, did his heart change?"  I'm glad they understand the greatest need but Steve explained that we need to be his friend first and then he'll be more receptive to any conversation about God.  I got thinking about it and he's right.  We are there to meet a need for Buddy but the greater need will come through that relationship.  Oh he loved the banana bread.  We actually did not have beer or coffee.  I made a big banana bread and gave his family 1/2.  We just let him tell us about his home and life.  He asked what happen to me and why I'm in a wheelchair.  I told him but not the whole story yet.  Praise God that the door is opened. 

    Thanks for praying.

     

    Being in a situation where someone is dying again makes me so grateful for my Lord and Savior.  I'm so grateful that K had Margaret (thank you Conrad) and Nan to help her out.  I'm grateful for the peace and the laughter we all shared.  We are so grateful for all God gave us through scrabble, hurricanes and cancer.  The other day I was talking to Steve about how great God was to show Frank the cancer in his foot.  I said "Imagine if they hadn't found it when they did he might have died"  (clearly I meant sooner) but Steve looked at me all serious and said "He did die".  Then he just started laughing at my sentence. 

     

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