Dear Abby,

There's this guy that has befriended my boyfriend.  He's a nice enough guy, but there's just something about him that rubs me the wrong way.  I can't put my finger on it.

My boyfriend, Tom, doesn't remember meeting 'Neil'.  All he remembers is that Neil came up to him in the gym and acted like he knew him.  Neil started a conversation with him and acted like they hadn't seen each other in a while.  Later, Tom and I ran into Neil at a bar.  Neil was very friendly and seemed to want to hang around us quite a bit.  I actually kind of liked him, and Tom was trying to escape him.  As the night went on, Tom began to feel that he's a nice enough guy and maybe we could be friends with him.

As time has gone on, Neil has begun to text Tom.  He has begun to call Tom.  Neil can't seem to get over Tom.  The texting kind of gets on Tom's nerves.  But we go out with Neil.  And Neil kind of gets on MY nerves.  He's very chatty with Tom.  I just don't like it.  Now we're having Christmas dinner with Neil and other friends.  I'm not really into it, but there's free prime rib, so I'm in.

So the question seems to be, what do I do with Neil?  He's beginning to be a thorn in my side...

Signed,

Thorny in Palm Springs