That's quite the list (although I'm sure my list will be that long if I ever get around to codifying it).

I like the trading card idea. Not cool if required for ex's.. but it could actually help keep straight one's partner's friends... :D

Ouch. I take a hit with punctuality. Very sensible list.

good luck with that.

Wow, man. "Leather Furniture"? "Video Games"? "Drinks beer from a can"? "Pleated pants"?

No neatly dressed people with tasteful decor with hobbies?

Perhaps you should add "agrees with me on all things" to the list. Ain't gonna happen.

Yes toddbert Leather Furniture is a no-no. I'm vegan dude. I've met a number of guys that don't drink generic beer from a can, or wear pleated pants and have better things to do than play video games. I remain hopeful.

I find that when someone says "better things to do than..." what they mean is "I don't like it, and no one else should, either."

What bothers me about lists like this is that they often seem weirdly exlusionary, and oddly specific. What if you meet a non smoking Vegan anti-videogame never owned a stick of leather furniature in his life who happens to like Eminem? Or an Eminem hating anti-videogame never owned a tanktop guy who inhereted Leather Furniature from hig grandfather?

I'm not suggesting that all men dig beer from a can, play videogames, and wear tanktops-- but, you know, someone wonderful might do any one of those things.

toddbert why so serious? these are generalities. if i took the time to qualify every statement the post would have been longer than i care to make it. i am not suggesting that these guys need to be rounded up and gassed. some of these things may be negotiable but some aren't or i am speaking out of certain experiences. it's meant to be funny. i'm not saying no one else should do these things. i'm saying i don't want to date someone that does these things. let's not read much into this.

i think you & i could be a match made in heaven!

Hey baby, I was thinking we could go to the techno club tonight and share a pitcher of Miller High Life.  But I can't stay out too late, the Brickyard 400's on TV tomorrow morning! 

(p.s. i think todd has a crrrrush on you...)

Republican...pleated pants...NASCAR!   You hit it right on sista!  Definitely deal breakers!

Whew.. ya, people who wear pleated or tapered pants shouldnt reproduce. But no video games? With the variety of games available these days, I cant imagine there not being enjoyable gaming options for each personality type. I mean really, who doesnt enjoy a rousing game of Pong with friends? Now if you'll excuse me, I'm going to put some more Dale Earnhardt Jr. stickers on my red white and blue elephant statue.

Seriously though, I think I most strongly agree with your rude to waitstaff deal.. Rudeness is incredibly annoying.

Very interesting list Jessica.  I can definately see how there are some things here that might also appear on your "personal vendetta" list, which i believe is why our serious friend up there made the comments he made.  I would like some things clarified, if you don't mind, before I make up my mind.  First off, you began your post with this:   Jessica Wrote:  [...]"At some point I decided these things will prevent me from dating someone or to reconsider a relationship."[...]    You specifically chose very difinitive words there; "will," for example, and you called the items on this list "deal breakers."  Dictionary.com lists "deal breaker" with the following definition:   www.dictionary.com:  "...any issue or factor that is significant enough to terminate a negotiation, esp. in business or politics."   In this case it is in relationships, however I believe that the key-word here is "significant."  This list shows very specific, significant lifestyle traits you find so unforgivable, that if someone you were involved with displayed only one of them, it would "prevent [you] from dating [them] or reconsider a relationship."  I fail to see where it was implied anywhere that this list was in some way created for humerous intentions, which is why I do not have any trouble understanding Toddbert's perspective.  You responded to him with the following important phrase:   Jessica wrote:  "toddbert why so serious? these are generalities. [...] some of these things may be negotiable but some aren't or i am speaking out of certain experiences. it's meant to be funny. [...] i'm saying i don't want to date someone that does these things. let's not read much into this."   This response was particularly puzzling due to the number of contradictory elements.  For instance, anything that could be described as; "...some of these things may be negotiable..." should not appear on a "deal breaker" list.  After reading the list, and knowing you and your perspective on life and people, I do not believe that the problem is in the list.  I believe that the list is serious, that they are "deal breakers" in the exact terms in which they are presented.  If they weren't, then the list itself would have no reason to exist.   I believe that your response to Toddbert was unfair, and that your rebuttal only succeeded in contradicting yourself.   To say that Mr. Toddbert is angry because perhaps he meets all qualifications on this list but one, and therefore must be disqualified would be an educated assumption based on the tone of his responses, as stated by Mr. DavidIntheCave.  Fortunately for Toddbert, should he decide that this last, feeble, deal breaker violating trait was worth changing in order to pursue a relationship with Jessica, he may even be able to prove that he "has the ability to grow or self-examine."  Bonus points?  That's up to you.   I don't know if this post violates the "Corrects me in public" rule, or proves that I'm not "Afraid to tell me when I'm wrong."  Both seem to have hidden circumstantial applications, I suppose that would depend on your definition of the word "public" in regards to this venue.   Please add or subtract points to my score as you see fit, although I know for a fact that I already do not qualify.   -Colin Madison