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Thursday, September 22, 2005

Thu, 22 Sep 2005 03:46:29 GMT

FOR THE GIRLS/WOMEN:

I really just had to update today. I read this unbelievable book. It's a bit harsh but truthful, and I think it's what every women and girl needs in her life.

Ok, so I spent hours at B&N studying for class. I decided to take a much needed break from my homework. So I walked around the store, down the aisles just randomly looking at books. Then I saw this one book that a friend talked about sometime ago. Sounded interesting but I didn't really think about it again. I thought, "why not?" and took it back to my table. I started reading and WOW!

Its a bit distressing to realize that the signs were there but I just didn't want to see it or just didn't notice. Its so true though. Although I guess we all have this fear of "what if I can't find the one guy that will do all that?" Anyway, the book is called He's Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. Basically the book tries to explain why men act the way they do. There's tell-tale signs that he's basically not that into you. So why waste your time with him. Its really empowering and inspirational, in my opinion. My one regret is that I didn't have this book sooner. I could've saved myself so much time and heartache.

Here's a taste of the book:

Standard-Raising Suggestions
I will not go out with a man who:
(a) Keeps me waiting by the phone
(b) Is not sure he wants to date me
(c) Makes me feel sexually undesirable
(d) Drinks or does drugs to an extent that makes me uncomfortable
(e) Fears talking about our future
(f) Is married

I will not, under any circumstances, spend my precious time with a man who has already rejected me or who is not clearly a good, kind, loving person.

Liberating Vocabulary
Friend: A person who is your pal. What it generally means in relationships is he's just not that into you.

Busy: Busy means I'm the President of the United States. I'm an astronaut and I'm on another planet. I'm in a really successful band. What it means in relationships is, yeah, I'm just not that into you.

Bad boy: A bad boy is just a bad boy. Stay away. If you're dating somebody that's a bad boy, that's just your fault. If you say "my boyfriend's kind of a bad boy," I feel bad for you. If you say, "I like bad boys" well, then I don't feel bad for you. If you say, "I like things that don't work." Okay, good for you. Generally, guys with low self-esteem aren't worth the trouble. They're just not.

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I feel like I should buy this book and give it to all my friends.

Saturday, September 03, 2005

Sat, 03 Sep 2005 18:40:49 GMT

So its been forever since I last updated. Oops. I've been going a little crazy trying to handle the details for my best friend's birthday. I guess its a bit frustrating when simple things get complicated. Oh well, I'll just do what I have to do. I'm just worried that it all turns out well. Mari deserves it.

I'm actually really excited about starting classes again. I need some intellectual stimulation. I can be such a nerd lol. At least I'm somewhat cute so its doesnt matter haha.

Well, I have a busy busy day today. Ciao!

Wednesday, August 17, 2005

Wed, 17 Aug 2005 18:13:02 GMT

I dunno why but I just havent been in the mood to really update anything. Lots of stuff has happened, good and bad. I've had lots of fun these past weekends. I guess its just so time-consuming to be constantly updating. But I guess when classes start up again, I'll have an urge to update.Anyway...

I've had my aunts staying with us for the past week, and I'm not sure when they're gonna be leaving. I love them dearly but its so exhausting to be driving them all over the city. Ugh and the loooong hours of shopping bore me to tears.

At least my weekends have been great! I've gone out drinking and dancing with Ash, Pat, and various Iggys. I've had so much fun. Blu has turned out to be one of my favorite bar/clubs.

Right now I'm in the middle of planning Mari's 21st birthday, which is in less than 3 weeks. She'll finally be 21! It's gonna be great! I just have to get the guestlist organized and work out the details. Too bad most people are outta town at the moment.

I miss Chan, but I know she's having the time of her life in Australia. I can't wait to hear all about her trip. 10 more days and she's home!

Gotta drive my brother downtown right now. I might write more later...maybe.

Monday, August 08, 2005

Mon, 08 Aug 2005 01:52:58 GMT

I've had a great weekend. I spent Friday night with Iggys. We went out to dinner then headed to Lincoln for some bar-hopping. Well, we didn't hop much. We stayed at Blu, where we drank and danced all night. Apparently I shocked Pat with the way I danced. He says we, the girls, dance freaky. I'm not sure if that's a good thing or bad. Whatever. I had the best time! Hopefully, we'll all get to go out again before everyone leaves for school. Pat has invited me to visit him down at UIUC and crash at his new apartment. It'll be awesome to see him in his frat element.

Yesterday I spent running errands. Not too bad although driving around so much tired me out. Today I slept in and then headed over to Market Days with Jake and Paolo. I got to see Nessa, my ex-gf. She was at Batteries Not Included. I'm not saying why I was there lol. She really looks amazing. We have plans to have lunch next week. It'll be nice to catch up.

Oh! Pat called...gotta love him! Ciao!

Thursday, August 04, 2005

Thu, 04 Aug 2005 22:48:04 GMT

Its Thursday and I've had 6 hours of sleep since Sunday. I'm so tired. My mom's been on vacation and preparing for her trip to FL with my dad. So I've been up super early in the mornings....grrrr. I'm not a morning person and never will be. Sunlight before 11am seems too cruel.

Tomorrow I plan to take Pat to Zanie's for some stand up comedy. Hopefully the comedian is hilarious. I also want to go to Market Days with Paolo. Hope to see lots of people there. I just hope I don't run into Mel or Ness.

Time for Rebel H! Yes! Arrivederci!

Monday, August 01, 2005

Mon, 01 Aug 2005 05:04:49 GMT

Ok, true that I don't really sleep. Can't help it. Just not sleepy.

You dont sleep. It's not because you love life too
much to lay your head down, it's because you
can't or just dont want to. Sleep? Who cares,
right? In fact, who really cares about
anything? You dont. Maybe you're mad at
someone for something they did, but its
probably more than just one person who has
pissed you off. People have probably told you
to get over your issues lots of times, but
thats just because most of them dont understand
how deep some scars can go.

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Saturday, July 30, 2005

Sat, 30 Jul 2005 07:26:27 GMT

Today was a bummy day. I pretty much spent the whole day at Jake's. We watched movies and window shopped in our bumwear. We also found lots of stuff online for his birthday. I can't wait to see when it all comes together. Its gonna be amazing.

This weekend? No idea...we'll see

Wednesday, July 27, 2005

Wed, 27 Jul 2005 19:48:09 GMT

I'm about to head out to Hyde Park to pick up Jake. I gotta make this quick before my brother grabs the car before I can. I just hope I don't get lost. I've only been around that area for the free MCAT sessions, and that was awhile back. He wants to plan his birthday party which means lots and LOTS of driving and walking around. Knowing him, he's gonna make it as risque as he possibly can. I'm pretty confident that most of my day will be spent in sex toy shops of Chicago. Well, he's got two weeks. His birthday is on the 10th, which means that whole week is gonna be so busy for me. I have Jake's, my brother and cousin's, and my uncle's birthday all that week. Awww Jake is gonna be 24. He's getting so old...lol.

I don't know how I'm gonna be able to drive today. After last night's butt blaster workout Jake and Ron put me through, I dont know how I'm gonna be able to sit for so long. Just taking a breath hurts my poor tushy. Well I'm off. My brother's is busy in the laundry room which leaves me free to escape! Ciao!

sidenote: My dearest sister, Chan, is leaving for Australia tomorrow. I'm gonna miss her so much!

Ugh! The bloody theme song from Sealab 2021 has been stuck in my head since Sunday night. I'm not sure if its better or worse than having "mahna mahna" stuck in my head. Oh great! Now I have both playing....lol.

Tuesday, July 26, 2005

Tue, 26 Jul 2005 05:55:31 GMT

Everyone wants to see why I'm so hestitant to wear the dress that Jake bought me. Here's a pic of the dress. Slightly different style but same designer and color. The one I have is a lil opaque which is why it looks normal in the dark and transparent in the light. It also has cap sleeves instead of the spaghetti straps. Everything else about the dress is the same, the length and all.

Does everyone understand why I dont want to wear this thing anywhere besides my bedroom and the dressing room?

Oh! Ryan Sypek from "Wildfire" is so bloody HOT! Too bad I can't find a decent picture of him.

Sunday, July 24, 2005

Sun, 24 Jul 2005 20:09:07 GMT

Ugh I so dont want to go to this birthday party today. Its for my dad's friend. There's gonna be lots of old people getting drunk and talking nonsense. I know for a fact there's not gonna be anyone near my age. I'm gonna end up sitting with my brother watching and listening to everyone around us with a forced smile. Someone save me! Its bloody sunny and hot outside. I should be at the beach or park with my friends. Not trying to endure hours of duty to the family. HELP!

Dammit I gotta get dress and ready to go. I am so bloody mad right now. Someone seriously save me! Please!