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Saturday, July 05, 2008

  • Wow it's been a long time.  We're finally done with all the craziness and are trying to get back into a normal routine of some kind.  Any kind really.

    Playdates, MOPS functions, a baby shower, some birthdays, we had a heat wave and I attempted to get a group portrait of the 3 kids. Ha.  Ha ha. 

    The thing on my mind, though, is a person I've never met.  Some of you know that I'm fairly active on another forum dedicated to parents of babies born during a particular time period.  There have been times of amazingly immature drama, some misunderstandings, some times that I've taken a break from the board.  But there is a great group of women I've really connected with and I've met two fo them in real life.  For over a year we have posted about our child, our families and ourselves.  We know each other within this small group.  Among the board at large there are some women whose posts I look forward to reading either because they are similar to me or because they challenge me.  This person challenged me.  We disagree completely on politics.  We disagree somewhat on religion.  But we agree on sleep issues and many parenting issues.  She was quick with words and succinct in her writings.  She was open and honest about so very many things, yet kept her personal details a secret for over a year.  No one knows her city, address, phone, email or her last name.  She never posted a photo of herself or her child.  Her 13 month old died in his sleep a few days ago.  He had had a fever for a few days and suffered at least 2 febrile seizures that had them in the ER twice.  After running many tests, they were discharged.  It was that evening he died.  I understand that he went to bed about 8:30, she checked on him at 10:30, dad checked on him at 11:30 and he was blue.  The autopsy revealed nothing.  For now many in the group are making donations to the Autism Society in his honor (she had a nephew with severe autism).  His death also raised our awareness of SUDC - Sudden Unexplained Death in Childhood, click here for the website.  I don't live a life of fear and I don't allow fear much time in my thoughts.  But I grieve for my "friend" and acquaintance.  A fellow mother who just lost her firstborn son.  I cuddle my own 1 year old a little more and play with him and enjoy his emerging personality.  For a few days, I will let the small things slide and focus on the big things.  Discipline the important things, enjoy the little moments.

    It's kind of amazing what kind of friendships can be formed from blogging, posting and generally interacting on the internet.   From my blog buddies, Heartbeat accountability friends, and some whom I really did know in real life first (but we keep in touch better on the internet) I'm glad we have this vehicle.  I hope these tragedies are few and far between.  I hope to celebrate many more happy times than sad.  But these friendships are real, just as real as if you were to sit in my livingroom and share your day.  Thanks for sharing.

Monday, June 16, 2008

  • Question of the Day and some news

    What was your favorite date?

    It was probably our engagement.  Our families had coordinated and witnessed the actual proposal, then he swept me away to a fancy italian restaurant in Seattle.  OR Valentine's  05 - David & I made dinner here at home after Will went to bed.  Nothing terribly fancy but all our favorites and ate by candlelight using wine goblets and the nice dishes.  Before David I had very high expectations and no one ever met them; no event ever lived up to my own personal hype. I was always dissatisfied with a person or experience.  I was waiting to be the princess swept off her feet.  As I grew up (ages 18-23) I learned to make my expectations more realistic (but still high) so when David came along he really did sweep me away.  Most of our dates are my favorite.  Even the ones where we go out for dessert and coffee and just talk.  Often we try to not discuss the problems and perplexing issues.  I don't think we've even had to set that as a ground rule or anything, we just both do it.  It is definitely a conscious decision on my part to breathe deeper (metaphorically), pay attention to what he's saying and listen.  It's hard to believe sometimes that we've been married more than six years.  Our friendship is always growing and I learn new things about him all the time.

    IN OTHER NEWS....

    AJ had his 12 month check up today. 20 lbs, 6 oz; 30 inches long.  He's about 30th% for height and 20th% for weight.  Whatever.  He's the biggest 1yo I've ever had!!  Doc was a little concerned that he wasn't talking yet (no "mama").  He definitely can say a lot of consonants (b, g, d, p, m, n, h) and a bunch of vowels, but he wasn't put anything together more than "uh oh" and "hot."  And "hot" only happned a few times one day.  I'm not worried.  AJ always talks more when the other kids aren't.  HA!  That doesn't happen very often so I'm not surprised.  He'll talk soon. 

    I like the convenience of going to a large pediatrics group and I see the same doctor every time, but I feel like he doesn't know me.  I'm there a minimum of 3x during the spring just for well-child checkups.  Just May and today I've been there 4 times and saw him twice.  I know he needs to be thorough but I'm a little annoyed as to the routine question of "is he drinking whole milk yet?"  What?  Haven't I been a pain enough about that issue and my kids?  Isn't that marked on each of their charts - dairy issues?  Or maybe it's "mom has dairy issues?"  Anyway, NO he is not drinking whole milk.  BUT he is still nursing twice a day, is still rear-facing in the carseat, eats table food a minimum of 3x a day, sleeps through the night, naps twice a day, walks well and climbs things. 

    AND

    I met with a client tonight to discuss their print order....

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    And they're buying a bunch!  I'm so relieved!  This is the first time I've had someone order more than just a handfull of prints.  It's such an amazing feeling when I get to discuss "which one do you like better" and not "if only he was....."  Yeah, there are definitely a bunch of "if only" shots but I think I got fewer this time.  I love the ones where they're not looking at me.  As an artist, that's my favorite.  But as a mom, I know that's not something I would have all over my house and the grandparents don't want that either.  So I know that I must shoot more full face portraits for business purposes, but I will always include these "faceless" moments as well.

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Friday, June 13, 2008

Pre Baby To Do List

Wash Baby Clothes
Wipe down kitchen cabinets
Full house vacuum
Shopvac Will's bed & room
Clear out "office" move in baby stuff
Organize Pantry
Full Disinfect Bathrooms!
Dust everything
Rearrange furniture in our room
Make sure EVERY towel in the house is clean!
Move half the toys out of the toy room & into kids rooms or storage
Stock up on basics for kitchen/pantry
Have non-dairy meal list handy
Move Nina's storage boxes

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  • Very late 20s (okay, I'm 30) with three kids. Married to the greatest guy & we're having fun living life, enjoying family, & raising God-fearing kids