edit// i will not be on advicexforxyouu as much anymore. i apologize for not getting back to you as soon as possible.

Dear ooh_advice,

My name's Kierston and I'm 14 years old, and please just answer my question on your site please.

Okay here it goes. Adam and I have been going out for about three months almost.We both want to go to a magnet school, so in March we got acceptance letters.Adam got into to his choice the Science and Engineering Academy and I got into my choice Health Careers.Well we were talking one day and he said that he wasn't going to break up w. me anytime soon.I just don't know if I should break up w. him before high school starts...in about three months.We're going to different high schools and we won't see each other everyday like we do now and it'll be very hard.He could meet a better girl then me, or I could start liking another guy at my high school.All my friends say that we should just have a good summer and then just remian friends when we go to high school.I don't know what to do.Should I stay w. him or should I break up w. him before high school starts?It's so hard to figure out because I love him and I don't want to break up w. him but maybe that's the best option.Please help me because my friends can't seem to help me.Thank you!



Dear Kierston,

here's how i think i can help:

a) don't listen to your friends -- you need to think without them there. set aside time, maybe right before you go to bed and think. "do i really love adam, or am i wasting my time?" think about whether you think you'r going to grow up and get married to adam.

b) talk to Adam -- maybe he's thinking the same thing, but wondering about what you think. you never know.

c) make a desicion --  i cant do it for you. you need to think about how its going to affect you.

if you break up with him...
don't be hung up on what couldve been. its over, and thats that.
if you stay together...
sign a contract one of you writes, or make a solemn promise not to see other people. i went out with a guy from another school, and it was hard, but if you really love each other, itll come together.

hope i helped!
.x.o. advice

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ohh advice:

to start it off, boys are very different from girls. they dont just come out and say they like people. heres what i think you should do:

a)get to know him -- he might think your pretty etc. but guys arent going to go out with a girl they dont know. depending on how soon your semi is, you may have another chance to ask him.

sometimes, guys will smile as a friendly gesture. idk about his pupils though. i know a guy i like that was all flirty with me, but he doesnt like me. guys are..weird like that.

hope i helped.
.x.o. advice

My names Molly... and answer on your site please. Okay i was seeing this guy for a while, about 3 month and i was really emotionally involved. i mean i really liked him. some days i think i loved him. or maybe i still do... but i can't seem to let go. anyway while we were dating or w/e i thought we were exclusive but i guess i kinda knew that he was talking with other girls which didn't really bother me so oh well but one night he calls me and he's acting really happy- like a weird happy. and i go why are you so happy?! and he goes i lost something. it took me like 20 minutes to figure out that yeah what he lost was his VIRGINITY! i didn't know what to do... just be okay with it?! what?! and so we like hang out one more time and i just try to forget about it but he doesn't get why i'm upset about it. what was i spose to do?! send him a HAPPY YOU LOST YOUR VIRGINITY cake?! but so one day when he calls me i just decide i have to let everything out. i tell him exactly how i feel. that it's only gonna be me or we're over. that having sex is not okay if he's with me. that it's retarded and i can't deal with all the crap he does and i hear about with other girls but choose to believe him. how i put his feelings first that when i'm over at his friggen house i shouldn't have to sit there and see him put "hello sexy" to a chick on there... that i'm going to get paranoid with all the crap he does and of course because i'm only happy when i was physcially there with him because then i knew he wasn't screwing around with another girl... so we stop talking for a while altogether. we're not seeing eachother or anything. and i find out that he has told some people that we supposedly had sex WHICH WE DID NOT. so like 2 months later he startst talking out of the blew to me again about how he misses me and everything and we start talking on the phone again and how he wants to hang out with me this next weekend. never happens he doesn't call and im' not gonna call him if he doesn't care, ya know? but so when we started talking he complained to me about his ex-gf (who he said right after i went off on him on the phone about everything) he was starting to like again how they were spose to hangout like 2 weekends ago but she dissed him for this 18 yr. old but he doesn't like her anymore ; at least he thinks. now i find out he's going back out with her and that bothers me!! and i don't want it to! it's like he still have this power over me. and i know he's probably just gonna come back every couple months to me... and i don't know what to do... please people... some advice! HELP! i mean i dont' wanna still like him... and i don't wanna think about him or have everything remind him of me.... but what do i do?
 i mean every so often talk and tis boy mite come and o... i dont know! ELP!


dear molly...

so basically, your mad about your boyfriend being with other people while he's with you. anyone should and probably WOULD be mad about that. so you dumped him...but know he kinda wants you back? ok:

a) you need to think -- do i like him? because you said before that you loved this guy. as you say, you don't still wanna like him. but maybe its meant this way. i personally think that if you had something, then that something could come back. maybe deep inside, you do like him. or maybe you dont. if this guy has feelings this strong that after he does something this rude, he comes back to you, he really likes you.

b) after you think -- talk to HIM. when you make up your mind...you need to tell him. he's probably wondering about the answer. even if it may not be the answer he wants, he needs to hear it from you. if you decide you don't like him....

c) MEET NEW GUYS -- by meeting new guys, you may be able to get all this off your mind. it would probly help. if you DO like him....

d) give him a chance -- thats all you can do right now.

hope i helped!
.x.o. advice.

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hey i have another question...today after i finished my algebra test, i went to my crush's classroom(reading) and while i was there, i was pickin out letters and then he came over near the trashcan and then he went over to get a pen. the second time i went there, he came over by the trashcan again to sharpen his colored pencil and i was like right near it. today, he was lookin at me straight at my eyes and when he saw me, he turned away..wat should i do?

here's what i think you should do--

a) find out FROM THIS GUY if he likes you. i know personally that some guys wont admit it. and if he says "maybe" or "i donno" tell him that YOU like HIM, and that if he really doesnt like you, to tell you NO so hes not leading you on.

all i can say is you should really talk to this guy....seriously. like heart-to heart, mature adult to mature adult. be serious....because you want to know.

hope i helped
.x.o. advice.

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hey.. my name is Monica. and can you please answer on your site? thank you. ok well theres this boy (John) and we've been together for a year now. but throughout the year we've fought a lot. and i mean A LOT. it was like every week. It was usually over a lot of jealousy. like flirting and talking to other guys/girls. but we couldnt ever end everything we had because we'd be miserable without each other and we love each other too much. i tried to get him to realize it was stupid and we need to stop being so jealous and we talked about letting everything go from the past and start over. and we did that, but then he got in a fight with one of his best friends over me. then he ended the relationship because he was so mad and because there was so much pain. i cant let him just go. i've been through a lot with other guys, and John is totally different. i cant let him go. i cant stand seeing him every day and not being able to hug him or anything like that. we're both still really in love and we wish things were different. we're miserable without eachother. we wish there was a solution that would help our relationship. but nothing ever works. im tired of people saying it just wasnt meant to be and that i'll find someone else because i still really do believe that me and John can work things out and that i wont find anyone else. do you know anything i can say to him to get him to change his mind and get back together? or at least a solution to help? if not, its ok. i understand. thank you.

monica.

monica,

here's what i think you should do --

a) ive said this for most of my love advice, but you need to have a serious talk. you should talk about how you shouldnt be flirting with other people, and that if you really loved each other you would respect the other's feelings.

b) if getting back together isnt going to happen -- MEET NEW GUYS. i know it sounds childish and immature if i say that, but its true. new guys will help you move past and forget what you want.

hope i helped
.x.o. advice.