A fellow blogger, Rica, asked a great question about how to heal.  My answer was the following, "

To me, making the choice to heal is consciously letting go of the hurt and freeing myself from the situations, and if necessary, the person.  You know we can't change the past and often times there were things I just simply didn't understand, but I had to come to a point of acceptance and when those flashbacks and memories come, I just say to myself, "I want to heal, not hurt.  Let go and move forward.".  It's not easy, but it does become easier over time. 

There is more to it - I pray, read, grieve, and sometimes push myself forward even when I don't have the desire, but I'm making a choice to do it.  To be honest, some days I want to wallow in my sorrow.  And you know what?  I give myself that time to do it.  After I've processed those feelings, I look at the situation for what it is and make the effort, despite pain, heartache, and disappointment, to move forward. 

I'll work on the house, I'll do something I love to do, I'll make a change, so I can visually see it and know that every step, no matter how small, is progress. 

We each have that opportunity.  What do you do to heal?

I'm not sure what has been my issue over the past week, but I've felt restless...you know - the inability to just be still.  My thoughts have been quite scattered and I've begun to recreate a list of tasks to tackle and some items have been there for quite some time. 

Some items are new.  Based on my life and circumstances, I've noticed that I've released a tight grip on some principles I've felt very strongly about and realized that I need to live.  I haven't really been doing so, and that is changing. 

When I find myself frustrated I need to see an immediate change.  It needs to be something that I can appreciate in terms of seeing the transition.  So my house has been turned almost upside down.  It's best to do it now while I can. 

So...although I realize that I didn't take before pics, I will surely show what I have completed and show it. 

I felt really overwhelmed the other day because everything was in process and in great disarray.  I had difficulty handling it, but the calm came in as things started to take shape. 

The exterior of the house is in great need of an overhaul.  I'm terrible at landscaping and honestly wants the easiest way to handle thing with the least amount of work.  Gardening has never been my thing.  I'm going to have help from my father and brother to build a small shade trellis.  I'm excited because I have no shade in my yard, so anything would be a great improvement.

“Make A Kid A Winner”


Watch and Rate the top student-produced video in eSN’s Empowered Education Awards contest. Your five-star rating helps determine the finalists. Winners get expenses-paid trips to Washing, D.C. School gets prizes.


In this video, Donovan demonstrates how technology has moved into every aspect of his life, and how it always proves useful.”


He is currently a semi-finalist, but we can still use your votes! Please visit www.eschoolnews.tv – search “Donovan”; category “Empowered Education Awards” and cast your vote! This is the first video he’s done independently (with some help from mom) and he’s very proud of it.


When we learned about him being a semi-finalist, he said, “Mommy, I feel like a winner already.” Let’s help see if we can make it a reality!


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Warmly,