Game Respects Game

Game Respects Game.

Ladies, what do you want in a man?  How do you want him to treat you?  Do you want him to respect you?  Do you want him to be loyal to you?  What do you want him to value you for?

The fact is that if a man values you just for your looks, how big your but or breasts are, what you can do in bed, how you can work it on a dance floor, if that’s his focus, then, most likely, in fact 99.9999% of the time he’s not going to respect you for what counts. 

Instead of “I think you’re sexy,” it should be “I have a lot of respect for you.”  “I really like your personality.”  “I think you’re strong, funny, fun, sophisticated, classy, reliable, ethical, moral, honest.”  What you put out is going to be what you attract them with. 

Game respects game.  They’ll only play the game if you do, and if you don’t, but they don’t want to, then they’re realize you’re playing in a different league.  So if you don’t attract them with sex, they won’t expect it.  They won’t think that’s all you’re about.  If you make them work for you, wait for you, respect you, value you, then they’ll do it.  If you let them get away with disrespecting you, attract them with your body, using you for sex, then they’ll do that.   

Guys will only give you what you demand from them.   

You should check your playlist to see what most girls are putting out there and expecting to be appreciated for, whether they realize it or not.  Most don’t feel comfortable with someone talking to them like a prostitute, but they have no problem following the directions of a song telling them to “shake it fast,” “Drop it on the floor,” “move your body like a cyclone,” “get your eagle on.” 

Think about it, ladies.  Don’t you think you’re worth respecting?  Don’t you think you’re worth waiting for?  Working for?  Don’t let anyone call you a female dog.  Not even if they went platinum.

Peace,
Kep.

Father Knows Best

Father Knows Best

It had been a hard week; filled with heavy thinking and long hours.  The sun was setting and I looked forward to a restful Sabbath.  As I sat down in my living room, thinking about how I'd start my Seventh Day, I caught a glimpse of my room mates' DVD shelf by the TV out the corner of my eye. 

I chuckled. 

That DVD shelf used to be my resource for something to do while I was eating, or just chillin' out; and the TV was my best friend on Seventh Day.  I would look up some cartoon, justifying to myself why it was acceptable to be spending the one day a week that the Almighty asks for with something that had nothing to do with Him.  I chuckled looking at that DVD case sitting by my old friend, the TV, because on this seventh day, when I was exhausted, I wasn't even tempted to look at one of those DVD's or to turn on the TV. 

I was thinking about what I could watch on Godtube.com, what book I could read about the Almighty or spiritual enrichment, or what I could reflect on that had to do with what He'd want from me.  And I wasn't doing it out of obligation.  I honestly didn't want anything else.  I was looking forward to it all week!  It was not always that way though.  I used to feel trapped on seventh day.  "Man I can't do anything!" is what usually popped up.  I saw it as something keeping me from what most people do on a Friday night.  I only thought about the activities that I missed out on, instead of the benefits I was getting.    

The lie I believed; the lie that keeps most people from the Almighty is that they'll miss out on something, or not get to do something that they'd enjoy more than what the Almighty wants from them.  People think that what we can get in these 80 years of life at the most will satisfy us more than what the Almighty can give us for eternity.  They buy into the wants and demands of a world that really doesn't matter beyond those 80 years.  Think about it, do you think that the number of shoes you buy will matter in the after life?  What about career goals?  How much money you made?  How many friends you had?  What people thought of you?  People get caught up in mentalities such as "you only live once", or "in life you gotta take chances because you only get one chance at life", "instant gratification", "I want it now", "I don't feel like it", "gotta have fun all the time", "party all the time," "follow your heart," and "do what feels right" culture.  

What people don't think about is the fact that tomorrow is never promised.  Yes, "you only live once" and that time is an opportunity to show that you want what the Almighty has to offer in the life to come.  If you waste that opportunity one day, and the next doesn't come because of that decision, or because it's just your time to go, then you pretty much sacrificed eternity for that one good feeling.  And then you're in an existance where all those societal standards don't matter.  All those temptations don't exist.  All those wants are shown for the lies they are.  Is that what you're going to give into?   

I remember thinking of keeping the Sabbath as a general burden.  Not just how I was supposed to keep it, but the other things that came along with keeping it.  I got tired of explaining to people why I could work, or attend this event or that one. . .  I used to think of the Seventh day as the Almighty keeping me from the world, instead of giving a break from it.  Think about that statement.  Both statements accurately describe the situation, but the first suggests that doing things the Almighty's way is a sacrifice or burden, a road block to what I want; and the other suggests that it's a blessing.  The first is lie, and the second is truth, but if I choose to believe the lie that what this temporary world has to offer will satisfy me more than the Almighty, then I'm going to believe the lie that the Almighty's getting me in my way as opposed to showing me a better one.

It's kind of like a parent and a child.  The kids see certain things as punishment based on a limited understanding, when in reality "It's for your own good."  We may think that we have enough understanding, but compared to the Almighty's infinite existance we will always have a limited understanding.  That said, we should seek His wisdom in finding out what's "for our own good" instead of assuming it's what the world is telling us we'll want the most.

That's the other lie:  that we know, more than the Almighty, what would be best for us. . . His creations.  That's like a car telling Henry Ford that it would move faster with square wheels.  If He made us for a purpose, then naturally we're going to be more fulfilled fulfilling that purpose.  We all know that we don't feel comfortable not fulfilling His purpose because our consciences get to us when we're not and someone calls us on it.  People get so defensive when you call them on doing something wrong because they know somewhere in them that they already feel bad for doing it.  So why do people do those things?      

The sad fact is that in addition to the lie of "burdens v.s. blessings," people give into the fear of what the Almighty has for them being less satisfying that what they have now.  But it's like Yehowahoshua says in John 4:13-14, People who drink from the world's water will thirst again, but people who drink from His water will never thirst.  But people also give into fear of what will be required of them.  They think that it will be hard, or won't be worth it. 

People tend to forget that the only reason the walk is this hard is because of how much people have disobeyed Him.  The whole earth society is bending toward the enemy.  The "world" that the Word refers to, is under his control.  Naturally, it's going to seem hard to live for the Almighty when everyone around you isn't.   

Personally, I'd hate to live life like there isn't a God, and die to find out there is.

I'll end with a very significant point that I subtly made in the beginning.  I USED to feel trapped on the Seventh day.  It USED to be a burden.  When I began to really trust the Almighty and make the decision to do things His way, despite those urges to go do this that or the other, I realized a lot of things.  I saw the benefits of keeping it His way, I saw the bad effects when I didn't keep it His way, and with time, it got easier.  It got easier because eventually I didn't even want what the world had to offer anymore.  It's not just that I see the benefit in the world to come, I've seen them now!

I opened myself up to what the Almighty wants for me, and He showed me that "Father, knows best."

Food for thought.  www.yourdash.net

It’s not that we don’t get what we want, but in pursuing it, if we so chose to do so, we should always make sure that what He wants for us is the priority.  If we’re supposed to love Him with all of our being (Matt 22:34-40) we have to seek knowledge about Him to make sure we know as much as we can about Him so we know how to avoid displeasing Him and make the best decisions in our lives.  

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