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Ever since I started getting involved with English Man, people have asked me in various ways, why a white guy? Does he have yellow fever? Why not an Asian guy?
And honestly, I do get kind of offended. I've always dated asian men, and he's the first white guy I've actually been remotely interested in; on the surface of things, it was a drastic difference for me, and it took me a while to get used to the fact. And would my parents be okay with it since my brother was already dating outside of our race. If he can do it, why can't I get away with it? Does it bother my parents that we're so multiracial? Will there be a significant cultural difference?
Well my parents do accept him as long as he treats me right and I feel we're compatible. And as far as the cultural difference - it's not that significant. He was born and raised in England; I was born and raised in California. I have my Chinese roots, but I consider myself pretty "Americanized", and I know he's eager to learn about my culture and vice versa.
Lets get one thing straight here though - I'm not dating English Man because he's white or European or however which way you'd like to put it, but I'm dating him because we see eye to eye on many things that do matter - like our goals, morals, and principles. Like any relationship, there are differences here and there, but we come to an understanding about it and respect each other. And of course I do find him physically attractive.
Anyway, what I don't understand is that people don't usually ask questions when they are dating within their race, but when it's outside . . . it's like . . . the questions come flowing in. When an Asian male dates a white girl, they get high fives and "wows", but when a white guy dates an asian female, they are said to have yellow fever. What's up with the double standard? Is it a form of insecurity or racism or both?
And even if he did ONLY date asians (which he doesn't btw), what is the big deal? No one found it a dilemma that previous to English Man, I had only dated Asian males, but the second it becomes an interracial relationship, it's an issue or can be regarded as some type of "fetish". Can't it just be a preference? A physical preference like me saying "I will only date guys taller than me." Or someone else saying, "I prefer blondes over brunettes", etc. I don't find it an issue unless he's dating me because of psychological characteristics and stereotypical ones like "Asian females are suppose to be more subservient and obedient." Then that would be a problem, but he likes me for me. The way I am.
And by the way, from what he has told me about his past experience, he doesn't have yellow fever, and I know for sure I don't have white fever! Ha. The real reason why I am dating him is because I just want beautiful, mixed children someday! I kid I kid!
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| | Posted 5/8/2008 11:40 AM - 576 comments
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