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| I miss out on good things because I'm too afraid of getting hurt, of being disappointed. As a result, I've built an emotional wall to protect myself from being vulnerable to such feelings. But I'm realizing now...that it's okay to be hurt. It's okay to be disappointed. We can't be afraid to feel. Happy New Year everyone. Try something different this year. Take a risk. It might be worth it. Risk To laugh is to risk appearing the fool. To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.To reach out for another is to risk involvement.To expose feelings is to risk exposing our true self.To place your ideas, your dreams, before the crowd is to risk loss. To love is to risk not being loved in return.To live is to risk dyingTo hope is to risk despair.To try at anything is to risk failure.But to risk we must,Because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.The man, the woman, who risksnothing, does nothing, hasnothing, is nothing.
...Author Unknown ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Have you ever noticed that the worst way to miss someone is when they are right beside you and yet you can never have them. When the moment you can`t feel them under your fingertips you miss them? Have you ever decided not to become a couple because you were so afraid of losing what you already had with that her/him? Have you ever wondered which hurts the most? saying something and wishing you had not, or saying nothing and wishing you had? I guess the most important things are the hardest things to say, they are the things you get ashamed of. Because words diminish them, words shrink things that seemed timeless when they were in your head. Don`t be afraid to tell someone that you love them. If you do, they might break your heart..but if you don`t, you might break theirs. Your heart decides who it loves and who is doesn`t. You can`t tell your heart what to do. it does it on its own..when you least expect it. Have you ever wanted to love someone with everything you had, but that other person was to afraid to let you. Too many of us stay walled because we are too afraid to care too much for fear that the other person does not care as much, or at all. Have you ever loved someone and they had absolutely no idea whatsoever? Or maybe fell for your best friend in the entire world, and than sat around and watched them fall for someone else? Have you ever denied your feelings for someone because your fear of rejection was to hard to handle? We tell lies when we are afraid, afraid of what we don`t know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing we fear grows stronger. Life is about risks, and it requires you to jump. don`t be a person who has to look back and wonder what they would have, or could have had. You know you have something with that special someone when you two are sitting there in silence not saying anything to each other, but when you leave you somehow feel that you experienced the best conversation you`ve ever had. That is something you should not lose..." ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
*edit "Those
who do risk nothing may avoid suffering, sorrow, or embarassment.. but
they are incapable of learning, feeling, growing, loving, living. They have forfeited freedom and are prisoners bound by their own fears. Only a person who risks is free." - yello_lego | | |
| And this, ladies and gentlemen, is why I don't think that free will exist. Most of the content below were taken (and edited/paraphrased for reader-friendliness) from an essay by Keith Seddon.
All events are connected to antecedent events that cause them, and in turn cause what must follow after. This is the theory of causal determinism. Events occur because they are caused by prior events – and so on all the way back to the beginning of the world.
First of all, references to 'fate' will not be that of superstition, but that of physics, an everlasting cause of things – why past things happened, why present things are now happening, and why future things will be.
If everything is fated to occur, how are we supposed to make choices so that we can be responsible for our own actions?
[The argument]: ‘If it is your fate to recover from this illness, you will recover. Likewise, if it is your fate to die, you will die regardless of whether or not you call the doctor. One of them is your fate. Therefore it is pointless to call the doctor.’
It is false that you will recover from the illness whether or not you call the doctor. Your calling the doctor results in your recovery. Just as the recovery was fated, so was calling the doctor. If your calling the doctor was caused by prior circumstances, in what sense could you be considered to exercise your free will?
Say my reaching for the phone was entirely uncaused: my arm just shoots out for no reason at all, and the next instant I am speaking to my doctor. The scenario does not make sense. Of course there are influences – causal influences – at work here. My action only makes sense if these influences are present.
How can one be said to be free if all decisions are caused and ultimately determined by prior events? Through the workings of fate one is exposed to these experiences and develop this particular personality and thus react this way. Our own dispositions appear to be locked into and determined in their character by the causal nexus of fate as much as external causes are.
the entire essay can be found http://www.wku.edu/~jan.garrett/stoa/seddon1.htm. | | |
| What's worse...failing after trying your best or failing because you didn't try your best?
Sometimes, I know I can dedicate so much more of myself toward a goal, whether it be academics or relationships, but I'd choose not to. Finding out that your best just isn't good enough really really hurts. So I choose to hold back and not have to find out. The more of yourself you give, the more vulnerable you make yourself out
to be because the more there is
to crush.
Failing because you didn't try hard enough leaves room for hope. But if after sacrificing everything: time, blood, sweat, and you still fail, well then... you're just screwed. Perhaps this is not the best way to live life. But to me...there is nothing more painful than confronting the limits of your potential.
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| Sleep paralysis is really freaking me out. First time it happened, I woke up…but only mentally. I was fully conscious and could see everything around me, but I couldn’t move or make a sound. No matter how hard I tried I could not move a single part of my body. It wasn’t as scary at the time because at 5 years old, you haven’t yet been exposed to all the dark interpretations that surround sleep paralysis.
A few years ago they started happening again. Stress? Too many scary movies? Subconscious mind games? No idea. All I know is, they get more frightening each time. I’m this close to chugging redbull for the sake of not waking up to sleep paralysis. Although… I have learned how to wake up from them (by trying very very hard to move). But that does not ensure you won’t simply fall right back to sleep because you’re just so damn tired…right back into sleep paralysis. Yes…after all that hard work of waking up from it.
I was napping next to my mom and lil bro the other day. I wake up to sleep paralysis. I hear screechy static noises in the background. My body tenses up from head to toe from what feels like internal pressure. I tried not to stare at any particular spot because I was afraid something might appear in that spot if I stared too long. I felt so utterly helpless. No one could help me. No one would know when to help me. It felt like forever before I was finally able to move. I don’t know what would’ve happened if I just lied there without trying to wake up. I think something would’ve just come and eaten me.
I used to look forward to sleep…and maybe even a nice lucid dream (the really yummy kind where you can control what happens) There are scientific explanations for sleep paralysis…but when they happen all the time…you can’t help but question what if. I don’t know what to think of them. Maybe I should change my screenname to raysofsunshine to brighten the aura heh. I just want to sleep without fearing it so much. | | |
| this is what www.colorgenics.com had to say about me. so accurate! try it...
Utmost in your mind is success. You are constantly seeking stimulation and a life full of experience. You are trying to 'grow' and above all you need to develop freely and to shake off the shackles of self-doubt. You are an enthusiastic individual, full of life with the desire to live intensely. You like contact with others and are enthusiastic by nature. You are receptive to anything new, modern or intriguing. Your interests are many and you are likely to expand your fields of activities. You are optimistic about the future and you deserve every success because deep down you are a 'winner'.
You 'need to be needed'. As an idealist you are intolerant of anything short of special consideration from those close to you. If you do not get what you seek you are apt to become reclusive and you will close the doors on all those within your sphere of influence.
You are frustrated and stressed. You appreciate the finer things in life but at all times you appear to stay aloof, critical of everything and everyone about you. You will not be carried away by your emotions and you refuse to trust anyone or any situation unless genuineness and integrity can be absolutely vouched for. Therefore, you keep a strict and watchful control on your feelings as you must know exactly where you stand at all times. You demand complete sincerity as a protection against your own tendency to be too trusting.
For whatever the reason, you find it extremely difficult to sustain relationships - that is to sustain them in the manner that you would wish. You are a very gentle sort of person, full of feeling, sensitivity and susceptible to love and affection, looking and longing for a partner with whom you can enjoy 'All things bright and beautiful' - someone with whom you can seek out the more esoteric things of life. But up to now this person has only existed in your imagination. You are very choosy, appreciative, refined and extremely artistic in temperament and it is your hope to seek others who will allow you to form and express your own taste and judgement and who at the same time may assist you in your intellectual or artistic growth.
You really would like to be completely uninhibited - to let your hair down - but you are held back by your sense of logic and rationality, since you realize that by simple stupidity you could lose everything - whatever that may be.
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