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two parties and a fort

Mon, 14 Jul 2008 18:04:48 GMT

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lyrics amuse me

Wed, 02 Jul 2008 13:35:07 GMT

i find these lyrics amusing:

i like boys with strong convictions
and convicts with perfect diction
underdogs with good intentions

-and-

i'm sticking with you
cause i'm made out of glue
anything that you might do
i'm gonna do too

Monday, June 16, 2008

Mon, 16 Jun 2008 13:47:39 GMT

what can i say? i've been busy, and when one is... online journals get neglected. it happens, you know?

all grown up

Tue, 20 May 2008 19:00:38 GMT

i had seen it before: the list of 18 things that a grown up man should never have. i decided to make my own list...for women. and here it is (please feel free to add your own items, or make a comment if you have this unrelenting desire to express your disagreement)

17 Things a Grown Woman Should Never Have

By Rejcel H

1. A black eye.

Unless he’s opening the car door for you and accidentally miscalculates the position of your face, a woman should never have a black eye. You are grown up and worth respect, so get down to the local precinct and file for an injunction.

2. “I”s dotted with hearts. As if it wasn’t bad enough riddling your 5^th grade essay with dozens of heart-dotted “i”s, it’s downright nauseating to sign your mortgage with hearts. Keep the hearts where they are supposed to be… in drawings on your refrigerator that your kids made for you.

3. A FULL refrigerator. Since the weight comes off with more difficulty now than ever before, why tempt yourself? If it’s not there, you won’t eat it… so don’t put it there. However, do keep a small supply of fresh veggies and fruits on hand for yourself and all in your household. All can learn to love what’s healthy, even if they learn out of necessity.

4. Pop culture posters on your bedroom walls. There is a reason why NKOTB was famous for a week. Make sure your teenage crushes and fantasy boys that used to be plastered on your bedroom wall come down so you can make some room for a real man in your bedroom.

5. Lip gloss on a key chain. It’s called a makeup bag that fits inside of your purse. Use it.

6. Jelly shoes. Have you heard of “toe jam”? Where do you think that smelly stuff comes from?

7. An unstamped passport. They put this in the list for the grown up man. It’s true for the grown up woman as well.

8. Fairy tale dreams. Every grown up woman knows that happiness is the result of hard work, integrity, sacrifice and generosity…not the wave of a wand.

9. More than $20 in her wallet. Fiscal satiation is wreckless. We’re used to buying little, trinket things that we end up never using. Make sure it’s under $20, and we won’t have to pout with guilt when our significant other asks, "How much did you spend?” Or… maybe we will still pout. Let's try to contain the damage to small amounts.

10. A phone number inscribed on her palm. A grown up woman should carry business cards, and you may have to use them to write someone else’s number down, but don’t inscribe it on your palm. You don’t want the ink to melt off of your hand onto someone else’s mid-handshake. I guarantee you won’t hear, “Hey, thanks.”

11. Any pair of shoes that could feed a family for a week b/c of their ridiculous cost. I don’t care if you can “afford” it. Grown ups realize there is a world out there where food and clean water are hard to come by. Stepping out in ostentatiously priced shoes actually says that you’ve still not gotten over your ridiculous and shallow notions of what IS actually important in life and you've still not realized that the world does not revolve around YOU!

12. The need to use “Oh my God” as a conjunction. “Like, oh my God, you sound so stupid when you say that.”

13. Unicorns.

14. Code words for small penises. You’re a woman. Since when do you have to be afraid to use the word, “small”? Besides, every one knows that it’s not the size of the job that counts but how well it’s completed.

15. A secret lover. Don’t cheat. You don’t like it, so don’t do it to someone else.

16. Dark roots and platinum blonde ends… unless you are trying any means to detract from your face. This kind of attention is just bad. More subdued is the way to go now. Plus, we have consultants at our fingertips. Make sure you maintain regular appointments with your hair stylist.

17. A nosey nose. There is a good reason why you shouldn’t be sticking your nose in other’s business. You’re grown up, and you’re supposed to have a life of your own now.

weekend photos and more!

Thu, 15 May 2008 18:35:13 GMT

See them all here!

relationships are investments

Fri, 09 May 2008 09:29:28 GMT

they are. physically, emotionally, mentally, even spiritually.

for a person who claims to love another to an aching degree, 30 minutes is a small investment. comfort, discomfort, shmumfort. excuses, excuses. it's a small investment. period.

investment analysts want their clients to be secure with the variety in their investment portfolio, and so it is for a woman (and for a man, but i especially address a woman's needs since i am one). we need to feel secure from a variety of angles in a relationship. if a man refuses to take steps to provide that security, how can a woman say "yes" to a lifetime?

perhaps the physical investment is secure. out of all four, that's the easiest part; therefore, it takes no special talent on anyone's part, so in the grand scope of things, it's not worth that many kudos. what about the mental investment? perhaps that is secure as well. the conversations are interesting. the intellectual stimulation exists. so, we add some kudos to the bag. it just so happens, though, that my emotional security is left wanting. i need to feel understood. my emotional needs are connected to my spiritual side. they are connected to my physical being and to my mental well-being. i will be happy KNOWING and FEELING that i am understood.

how can i be willing to invest hours, days, and years if a man isn't willing to invest 30 flipping minutes a week? you're willing to invest that amount of time riding the elevator with complete strangers each week, but you can't do that for someone you claim to LOVE? you're willing to stand in line for 30 minutes each week ordering fruit smoothies from complete strangers to satisfy your physical needs, and yet you can't do that to satisfy one you claim to love?

i'm just very disappointed. even surprised. a bit frustrated, and definitely dumbfounded. what a way to massacre hope!

Monday, May 05, 2008

Mon, 05 May 2008 13:51:51 GMT

the measure of a man is not in times of comfort but during times of distress and challenge?

sure it is. it's also a measure of a woman.

life is not always peachy. as a female, i measure the value of a man very much by how he handles situations. being practical, i know life involves rough periods, and how a man handles those periods will either cause my respect for him to grow or to fade. a 60 year old man could become a ball-less, trite, sniveling child in my view just as well as a 19 year old could become a hero. it matters not the nature of the relationship... whether the male is my friend, my father's friend, an acquaintenance, a work-mate or a future mate, etc. a person will earn my respect by integrity, maturity and patience.

what if i am the source of distress or challenge? again, personalities are different. they will clash at times. as a woman, i am looking to see how you handle me.... the full embodiment of the challenge i present. b/c i know. I KNOW that we are a challenge. we think and speak in a way that perplexes the male gender. perhaps you are distressed because i responded in a way you did not understand or appreciate. perhaps i said something that pricked your ego or conscience. maybe i was thoughtless and said something hurtful. i am not perfect, you know? what will you do? what will you say? how will you handle the situation? will you stand stubborn? will you be gentle and forgiving? will you back your words with actions?

an ancient proverb states, "an answer when mild turns away rage." isn't that true? have you ever experienced a person who responds in a kind manner when you've been contentious? i have. it's melting. adding actions or words that are fuel-like makes the "fire" stronger, larger and more damaging. on the other hand, a calm response contributes to the fire's going out. it could very well cause the person who has been nasty to rethink his or her unkind actions. it may even evoke an apology. i have been the recipient of such apologies, and i have also been the deliverer of such apologies.

how very good it is for a person to be able to apply the qualities of love, kindness and patience when dealing w/difficult situations. the application of such qualities can very well disspell the problem instead of adding to its intensity.

i plead temporary insanity

Wed, 30 Apr 2008 16:26:55 GMT

love can make us cuckoo bananas.

it can make us want to wring someone's neck (in the most loving way possible)

it can even make us a little evil.

the making of "Ribbons", part 1

Wed, 23 Apr 2008 18:10:53 GMT

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Wed, 16 Apr 2008 18:05:44 GMT

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